Do you think I'm choosing the wrong career path?
Saying that you want to write the next big book series without an education is like saying you want to go to Hollywood and become a movie star over night. It's all show business and incredibly difficult to get into. Take a good look in the mirror, what is it that draws you to writing? Do you have a passion for the written word? Does a beautifully written sentence make your heart skip a beat? Or are you just looking to write a story and make money? If you have a passion for reading and writing you would do well to study it. The strain that college will put on you and the sheer amount of reading and writing that you will have to do will help you hone your skill. Then you could find a career in the literary field, meet the right people, and give yourself a better chance of getting published. Writers are artists and they must suffer for their art. If you feel powerfully enough about writing you will be prepared to work your *** off to make the best work that you can. If you just want to write the story floating around in your head without putting much work into it you will likely be in for a disappointment. Those uneducated writers that get their first novel published are incredibly rare and those whose novels are successes are even rarer. Not to mention the fact that, coming from a lifelong reader, their work is low quality and cannot stand the test of time (and by "low quality" I men crap). Your chances here would be next to nothing. "Successful published author" is not a career path, it is simply something that may or may not happen depending on your luck and your skills as a writer. Get an education if you want to write. Find a good job and start supporting yourself if you want to try your luck getting published without putting the work in.
Why do I always feel that I have chosen the wrong path?
Because you dont believe in yourself. And when you believe in yourself, you compare to others to be validated for the correct path chosen.Also if you feel that you have chosen the wrong path, do either of these two :change itchoose to live with it.In the end, blame yourself for everything. Love life with whatever you have and work a way around.
Did you ever felt that you are heading towards a wrong path but still choose that way?
I was on an all inclusive cruise once. The first night out was an opportunity to go out and meet people and have some drinks. I ended up drinking with Russian dancers that were part of the onboard entertainment.To make a long story short I was taken to my cabin by the steward at 2am after being found in the kitchen. I had no recollection of any of this when I awoke the next morning with the worst hangover ever.At lunch I explained my predicament to the waiter when he asked about “cocktails” and I swore off all alcohol.When he returned he brought a fruity cocktail and said, “Hair of the dog.” Reluctantly I sipped at it and much to my surprise I started feeling better. I ended up drinking all day.The next day I had another hangover. I knew I was heading down the wrong path to continue drinking, but I did not want to ruin my vacation nursing a hangover. Eventually I would have to face the music.So this became s daily ritual. Awake and drink until I felt better then pass out and repeat the cycle. The last day of the cruise, I stopped. Ten days of drinking everyday was a very bad choice I found out.I knew I would regret it, but never calculated the packing, cruise ship departure and drive home with a 10 day hangover.
Did you ever go down a wrong path just because it made you feel good? What was it?
“Wrong path”… To answer the question, personally, I would say yes; several Dozen Times. However, I need to point out that “wrong paths” are opportunities for learning what the RIGHT path is. Likewise, learning from other people’s “wrong paths” is an opportunity to grow into a better person. History is full of stories of good and bad (right and wrong) paths. My graduating thesis was directly related to this idea… Roughly, the idea was that the Greek tales of tragedy (or “wrong paths”) were epic tales for future generations; opportunities for learning without having to experience tragedy directly. (The inspiration for my thesis was Twilight of the Idols by Nietzsche…) More to the point of answering the actual question, the temporary “feel good” gained through going down the wrong path is incomparable to the good feeling and shear happiness of learning through your mistakes and growing into a better person through them.
Wrong path, anyone think so?
This happened to me. I was looking at all the people I was hanging out with and doing drugs and drinking - and started to think - I can do better than this for myself. I'm going to be a big loser if I keep this up. They act like they are cool and going places - it is all talk as they drink more beer. I woke up that day - went to college at 24 - got a degree in accounting - became a Controller for one of the largest media company in the US. Now I would never touch the stuff. I have a 5 year boy - so cute. I would never wish for him to do any of things I did at that age. C's are not good!! Your only in HS - College is much more difficult. Who you hang out with could bring you up or take you down. Get yourself a new set of friends. Stop doing the weed. I look back at what I could have done had I just stopped the weed - more than I have become. What a waste of my mind and time.
My brother is going down the wrong path?
It's probably not a good idea to tell your parents about the more hardcore stuff your brother is doing. If you feel you need to talk to someone about it, talk to your brother. Tell him about your concerns and ask him why he does it, what he thinks it will bring him? Remind him that the hardcore stuff is nasty, not because of what it does to your mind, but because it will get him physically addicted without him realising this and the more he takes the harder it will be to stop. Before you to talk to your brother, get yourself informed a little about the physical effects or maybe even print some of it out so he can read it for himself. Keep in mind that your brother might not want to discuss it with you. He might tell you it's none of your business and in a way he's right. It's his life and he can do with it whatever he pleases, even if that means throwing it away by doing drugs. If that indeed is the case (him not willing to discuss it with you) you can reconsider telling your parents about it, but if that is something you will do, then first tell your brother you will. He might not like it, but at least he knows so he can prepare for it. He probably will get mad about that, but that should not stop you from telling your parents (or talk to him initially). You are right for caring and not wanting to see him throw his life away like that. You can confront him about it and if that doesn't help you can tell your parents. If you've done that you did everything you could do about it and you'll have to let it go. Not doing anything for sure will eat you up inside so decide on what you will do and accept the consequences as good as you can. Your heart is the right place so you have nothing to feel bad about if it will give you problems later on. Hope this helps.
How do I know if I am taking the wrong path in life? Should I just change it, or am I just a quitter who quits when things get hard?
I believe the answer lies in recognising the difference between intuition (gut feeling) unhappiness and fear.If you’re getting a gut feeling that you’re on the wrong path, that it seems like a disaster in the making, then stop. We usually know if what we’re doing is right or wrong, we just look for validation from others when we should listen to our own self. We know ourselves best.If you’re truly unhappy doing what you’re doing, stop.Life’s too damn short to be miserable. When we feel ‘blah’ about the path we’re on, we can lose motivation when things get tough.I’d go so far as to say that if you were happy on your current path, you’d not be asking this question. You’d be motivated to keep on going, regardless of any hurdles.Are you feeling afraid? Do you worry you’ve bitten off more than you can chew or you aren’t capable of doing what you set out to do?If that’s the case, you need to boost your self esteem, feel the fear and do it anyway!Often when we feel fear about a path it’s more like nervous excitement and it’s usually a sign you’re on the right track!However, if you are known for giving up on things when they get hard, it could be something else entirely.Maybe you believe you don’t deserve success or good things and you self sabotage?ORis it that you enjoy change and want to try new things?Some folks genuinely like trying new things. I’m multipassionate. I started out as a nurse, became a lawyer later in life, then finally I’m a coach. I’ve liked what I was doing at the time, but didn’t always want to stay at it for life. I’ve moved house on so many occasions, even emigrating to Spain. Will I stay here? Who knows? Could be Italy next.Life is too short to do one thing for the whole of it. I don’t see my life path changes as quitting, just pivoting.As we age we change outlook. As we grow and experience new things, we can find that they aren’t what we thought, or aren’t what we wanted when we were 15. If that were true I’d be a Duran Duran groupie, wearing my favourite leg warmers.There’s no law that says we can’t change our minds.Only you can know the answer to this, but I hope I’ve helped in some small way.Good luck!
I think my brother may be going down the wrong path. How can I help him?
I found out he is drinking and and gambling and I think he might be smoking weed too! He is 20 and is not currently working, because he just moved back to my hometown. He claims he is going back to school in the spring, which I doubt since that is only 2 months away. I am concerned about him and I told him this and he says he is fine and not to worry. But then when I speak to my mom, she tells me that he opens up to her and is telling her things that he won't tell me or my other siblings, so he is lying. My mom told me that he said he needs 'fast money' and she thought maybe it meant selling drugs, but since I found out he is gambling, I think it may be that. Anyway, all I really want is advice on how to help him. Everytime I talk to him on the phone, I find myself wanting to scream at him, but I KNOW this will just push him further away. We barely talk now. He makes no effort to talk to me and now I see why. Its because he is doing things he isn't supposed to be doing and he probably feels guilty and doesn't want me to find out. How do I keep him from going down the wrong path and not push him away?