THONGS being revealed in the workplace. What is your input on this? ( I am stuck on DOs and DONTs today)?
It depends on your body shape and the gender of your bosses. I had two female coworkers guilty of this...one slender with a tattoo of a ladybug on the small of her back, and a more heavy set young lady. We do a lot of lifting coin and getting on the floor to unlock combination locks on the lower vaults, so there are ample opportunities for clothing to get rumpled and reveal undergarments if you are not wearing a belt. Most of the time, the slender young lady's underwear are hanging out, and nothing happens. The president of our bank will walk by and say nothing, its been happening for over a year now. Her pants hang so low, I can read around the brim of her thong where it said 'victorias secret'. However last week, the heavyset girl bent down to pick something up off of the floor and her thong was showing and the president saw it...he marched right over to our supervisor who then marched over to the teller line and grabbed the girls pants and yanked them up in front of everybody.... double standards.... in my book, the workplace (especially a bank) is NO place to have thongs showing regardless of size...
How do I always get stuck with doing my coworker's jobs, and they take their forever breaks while I break my back doing the work of three people? Am I a pushover?
I assume your’re new to the company or department. First of all always take your breaks in the approved amount of time. If they all hang around the break room or wherever then do that yourself. If your supervisor hangs with them for long breaks that’s even better. Make sure you stand or sit where they must see you. Do not do their work. When they come back from break simply tell them politely that you didn’t have time. Let your accomplishments shine on their own. If that’s not possible, i.e., you work the phones and you’re taking everyone’s phone calls then you really must approach your supervisor. Explain that you cannot handle all calls efficiently alone and quality suffers. Suggest staggered breaks so everyone doesn’t leave at once. Ask him/her to set a schedule such as 10:00 AM to 10:15 AM (Joe, Mary, Fred), 10:15 AM to 10:30 AM (You, Sally, Jim). That will not only specify break times it takes the timing out of the workers hands. Your supervisor may love it. Hope my suggestions help.
How do you deal with workplace harassment of a racial nature, from both your colleagues and seniors?
I think you do the suffering leading up to it and then have “the talk.” Nope. Not that one. The one where you say that you���re tired of certain behaviors and slurs. Before you do it, though, make sure that you’re not just trading one issue for another.In one place I worked, the guys made fun a fat person for being fat, the short guy for being short, the sort of sociopathic front desk lady for being mean without knowing it, the slow one for being dumb (Wow! Your electric bill was $299? That’s almost three hundred bucks!) and had something about everyone. The thing about me was that I was an older woman working in a furniture warehouse. (“I’ll tell mom on you.”) and for the one black guy, he was the go to guy for all information about any and all minorities, in a funny way, as in “D’Marcus! Why do all the guys who dress up like women have a rainbow flag?”“D’Marcus! Do Chinese people live in teepees?”The place actually did discriminate against women and black folks. At the same time, it was the most fun place I’ve ever worked once I decided to put up with being called “mom” and other inappropriate things that sort of went along with that. They weren’t really connected things unless you only looked on the surface. For all that we teased each other mercilessly, we also stuck up for each other.I think you blow off any inadvertent comments and concentrate on what they do. If they promote white guys over everyone else or pay them more and things like that, go for the throat on it. If it’s minor teasing, tease back.
Painfully shy and quiet people in the workplace?
My best and only advice to you is to not take yourself so seriously and just crack out of your shell! Fake it if you have to.Shyness will not get you far in life.I know a great,fun personality is inside of you.Just let it come out!! Be friendly but not too nice.Don't try to act cocky to cover up you shyness.Thats not a good look.Say anything that comes to your mind.Stop holding your thoughts inside.Share them with the world.
Do i come off unpleasant (stuck up)?
Work i never approach or acknowledge co workers. Example they feel i'm rude because i don't use basic greetings with them. I never make eye contact with them I feel that these are not my children or my family. Or husband so I feel i don't need a connection with them. I want to keep things nice.
My coworkers hate me!!!!?
I've been reading through the Answer columns and decided to post a question that pertains to my particular situation. I been at my current job for about six months now and there is one particular girl I work with who doesn't like me, I will name her Exhibit A. There are two other girls that work there too and all three hang out together. I pretty much get along with one of the girls because she is the nicest, and I will name her Exhibit B. I have a feeling that Exhibit C doesn't like me either but she smiles in my face. It seems like Exhibit A is gossiping to the other two girls down talking me and things. Since my first day all three girls seem to have some sort of animosity towards me for no reason. Not to be shallow or anything but I am more attractive than them and dress very nicely. I keep to myself and I don't gossip about other people. I just do my work and go home. They are the type of girls that steal company time talking.
How do I deal with stuck up people?
It all depends on why you need to deal with them. There are times when it's your boss or your line of work (service industry, even professional services) or your spouse or a relative or a child - and you simply must persist and break through the wall of snobbery.And there are times when existence of this person makes no difference to you, and you can simply ignore them.If you absolutely must deal with them, you can put on a brave face, and make it a game of figuring out why they are so stuck up: they could have a hang-up about something, and once this something is resolved, you can make your life much easier.They could just have an RBF (google it), and it's the appearance that gives off the wrong vibes. While you are dealing with these people, plan a solution - things from intervention to professional psychological assistance to even your exit (in case of a toxic workplace - for this, just keep in mind that a new workplace is much cheaper than years of therapy recovering from the current situation). If you don't have to deal with them - either ignore them, or just be cordial to keep peace for an appearance's sake.You have to understand that you can't make those people be more polite or civilized, however neutrality towards them is better than an all-out war.You are free to pity them as you watch them wallow in their own toxicity but you can't make them choose a better way to view life around them - only they can make that decision.
How to deal with bitchy coworkers?
I am unfortunately working with a very bitchy and stuck up coworker. She is the best friend of all the supervisors, so they are always backing up for her. She has money and power, so she buys people at work by food and gifts. I and her both like the same cute guy at the other department, so she always tries to compete to show that she is better than me in front of everyone. She also tries to put me down as much as she can to make me look bad. Once she ordered me to do things and not let me finish my work, I was upset and told her to get back to her position. She was so mad and brought me to the supervisor office. She also told all the coworkers something about me exaggeratedly and asked them to exclude me. If someone helps me or makes friend with me, she will not talk to that person any more. I get along well with everyone when she is not there. However once she is there, people start to feel awkward because of us but most of them will go to her side. Guys please help!!!What should I do to make this situation become more comfortable? I feel like work is not fun any more anytime she is there? Thank you!