My boyfriend keeps blaming himself and I'm extremely worried about him?
My boyfriend has always had a little problem with putting himself down...From everything thats happened in his past with his abusive childhood and how his parents were he will often blame himself for everything they did and everything that happened. What really worried me also, is sometimes he has the thought that "He's not good enough for me, He thinks of me as an angel and that I might just be too good for him" He's said this before, but I denied that and just explained nobody in my life has made me happier then he has, he's perfect to me. There been times were he would totally break down into tears and get completely emotional with me, a couple times randomly and he would talk about how he grew up so fast and how I'm the only one he has, how we are already living together in our own place. On Christmas we celebrated together, just the 2 of us. He doesn't really "have" a family anymore and I don't exactly have many family members either. I made him a scrapbook of everything we've ever done together and with over 1000 pictures and immediatly hugged onto me and just started to cry telling me how happy he was to be with me and trying to explain how much he loved me but all the crying made alot of it a little hard to follow but I totally understood him! It just really worries me when he blames himself, puts himself down and when he will sometimes get the thoughts he isn't good enough to be with me. He's EXTREMELY sensitive on the inside I'd say his heart was more fragile than glass...He is 4 and a half years younger(17) than me, him bing younger I just hope that isn't what is causing him to think I'm too good for him... What are some things I can try and do to help him not have those thoughts how he will often blame himself?
My boyfriend gets extremely worried/nervous when I am going through anything that may cause ME pain or turmoil. Could it be that he is a very empathetic person or am I possibly emotionally abusive?
I don't know you or your boyfriend very well and this is kind of a general question to be asking without details offered and I'm not saying your question is wrong I just simply don't know the details but I'm going to be very honest with you my first instinct was concerned about his reaction to your pain and turmoil and it makes me think that he could potentially be a manipulative individual and not you that is my first instinct and I don't want you to quote me on that or go with that or start blaming him for things that I would definitely not jump to self blaming yourself before you really get to know the person and try to understand where they're coming from a little bit longer
Extremely embarrased to ask, but im kinda worried..it hurts to sit down and walk.?
k so im a 14 year old girl soon to be 15. im too embarrased to ask my mom so i figured it would be easier to ask ppl i dont know and prob. will never know. Okay so..."down there" it really hurts. Not all over the place just on the left side kinda like the same area where your buttcheek meets your leg. 2 be a little more specific, between the anus and the place u put a tampon in lol (im failing health btw you might be able to tell.) but its more twords the left side. I've never had sex of any kind (honest) and ive never been to a gyno. Any ideas on what it could be or somewhere that i could reserch online cuase Im rly scared to tell my mom because we arent tht close and she is super strict about boys nd i KNOW she will take it the wrong way nd im to scared to go to a gyno. Help plz? nd plz no rude answers, this is embarrasing enough already. ohh its only hurt for a few hours but i had to leave school early cause it hurt so bad to walk and sit and i lied and told my mom it was my eye.
My Parents Are Worried About My Weight But I Don't Understand Why!?
Hi there! My mother is worried about my weight and threatening to take me to a doctor, but I don't see why! I'm male, 14 years old, quite tall for my age, at 5 ft 10, and I weigh 10 stone 9 pounds. I used to be extremely fat, and to be honest, still view myself as being quite overweight compared to the people at my school. I have ways of mantaining my weight, although I'd prefer not to explain what they are, and I want to be about a stone lighter by Christmas? There's nothing wrong with that, is there? My parents seem to think so, and it's driving me crazy, because I don't! Anyway, I was just wondering how many other people agree with me, or my parents? Thank you for your comments! x
Anyone else have an extremely self-conscious boyfriend? How do you deal with it?
We've been dating for over a month now, and he's very self deprecating. I know I'm very pretty, and I think it somewhat intimidates him. I'm very honest, so I won't tell him anything false. He makes comments about how his arms are dry, and too hairy... He complained that he's ugly because he has darker skin than me (he's persian, I'm white) but I wouldn't even think about his race if he wasn't always mentioning it. And I like diversity. He's worried he has a big nose (it's a bit big, but I don't care. I don't want someone perfect) He also says he's a jerk and a downer, and can't understand what I see in him. It's true, he can be, but he's very sweet at heart and has good intentions. He's just a bit immature is all. Also, he doesn't have much money. He can't afford to pay for us to eat out, or get me gifts. This seems to really bother him. But I'm not dating him for monetary benefits. I'm dating him because he's an amazing human being. And recently, he stopped letting me come over to his house in the morning before school. After some pouting, he admitted it was because he was 'smelly and ugly' in the morning... but I'd seen him before in the morning. Yeah, he doesn't smell the best, but I don't care. I just want to cuddle with him. I managed to convince him to let me come over anyway... He always makes comments about how he hopes he can treat me better than anyone I've been with before, and how he doesn't deserve me but is so happy to be with me. I feel like the guy in the relationship... Shouldn't the girl be the one self conscious about looks and rushing to take a shower? Anyone else have a guy constantly worrying about himself? BTW, I'm 18, he's 19, and we go to college together.
Does sex hurt .? be honest?
Here's a great video about one of the biggest myths about virginity the hymen: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9qFojO8Wk... It's a really great information that I think is important for everyone to know about! The same person also makes great videos on a bunch of topics related to sex so you should really check out her videos! Here's one about virginity: http://youtu.be/6XQ7YEWcgn0 What I would say is that if you feel scared, inform yourself! Learn about safe sex, which is EXTREMELY important! About sexual practices (use lots of lube, especially for your first time)! As yourself if this is really the right time for you or if you just feel pressured ect... Good Luck! :D
Should I be worried that my boyfriend is stripping for gay guys?
So we're in love with each other. We've been together for about a year and we are very open and non judgmental people, so we are VERY honesty with each other. He is finishing up college and was looking to make good, quick money. He got the idea of being a stripper and then after talking to someone about this they suggested he strip in gay clubs or for private parties for gay guys because that was where the money's at. He had his first strip experience at a gay club the other night. He said it felt really weird, but he made good money and he just tried not to think about what he was doing. He said he has thought about being with/kissing another guy because he's curious, but that he's so attracted to women, he's not sure he would ever act on it. Just to give you some background on his perspective on sexual orientation, he compares it to a spectrum. There are extremes on both ends (straight vs. gay) and a lot of people in between with tendencies towards both. I don't care about the labels. I just have a hard time being in love with a man who could be gay/bi. I personally haven't met any guys or have any guy friends (who are gay) who think that men could just have "sexual tendencies" towards men and be straight (or dominantly attracted to women). It seems that when a guy likes another guy, that is always the dominant sexual tendency. Your thoughts are appreciated? (I hope I haven't offended anyone; this is just my personal preference) Thank you.