Survey: Did you grow up in a normal or dysfunctional family?
Normal is hard to objectively define. To me, I grew up in a normal family, but to many others, it would sound quite dysfunctional. I (20) live with my dad, step mum, 17 year old sister and 4 month old (half) brother. My mum committed suicide when I was 6 after battling some mental health problems, which I was never aware of, maybe because I was too young to understand, and she hid it from us, I don't know. My dad and step mum have been together since I was 8. See, to me, I was only young when mum died, and my step mum is brilliant, so I feel my family is just as 'normal' as the next. Having a baby brother right now is kind of the weirdest thing about my family life at the moment, considering the age gap between Charlie and me & my sister. ..To answer your question, I think it's perfectly possible to go on to have a 'normal' family of your own, no matter what your background. Of course how you were raised influences you greatly, but sometimes it can just make you more aware of keeping that family bubble from bursting. :)
Why would homeless people's family allow them to be homeless?
A large number of homeless people are mentally ill or brain damaged and their families cannot deal with them any longer. My own father went homeless after being released from prison for pedophelia, having sexually molested me, my step sister, and a child he was babysitting (these are the ones known, there are probably many others). The family could not deal with him any longer. He was brain damaged from repeated concussions from sports and several car accidents. It's hard to know what caused what. Did he drive so crazy and have bad judgment from brain damage, or did he get brain damage from driving fast and poorly? But it released his inhibitions and allowed him to prey on the innocent.Pedophelia was not the only manifestation of brain damage. He was also irrational and quick to anger. He borrowed or stole things from the family. He couldn't keep a job. He pushed the family towards the poorhouse.It was an attempt to stabilize the family that led to my dad being kicked out of the family home. He was likely 30 by then, living with his parents. He had been lovingly called the black sheep until his conviction. After that we just did not talk about him at all. It's as if we were part of the family by adoption rather than birth. The family kept tabs on where he was and gave him some money occasionally. He eventually was employed enough to rent a tiny studio apartment and buy a beat up bicycle. Rather employed long enough in a union job to get unemployment whenever he was laid off. He lived in that apartment over 10 years until he died of an illness rather suddenly. He never did admit to having molested me, only saying that he did not remember. Perhaps that is the brain damage, but I don't know how a person could forget a thing like that.It's painful to have a family member who is homeless. When people ask about your family, you either have to lie or become a victim of their pity. It's kind of horrifying, but the family was being ripped limb from limb while he was present so this is the best alternative. It is a relief that he is no longer around.
Why doesn't my family care about me?
They dont care about me. They don't wanna hear me talk. Everytime i try to talk with them they ignore me. If i'm sad they try to avoid it,They yell at me when i cry because they just want me to shutup when they dont even know why i'm crying nor do they bother to ask.. I walked into the living room today upset and my dad raises the volume cus he doesnt want me talking to him... I tryed showing my sister this new song but she just walked outa the room as i started to play it and im like wtf? . No one in my family is interested in anything i have to say, show, etc. I opened up to my dad last time about how i'm depressed and how he has a daughter who wants to kill her self and thinks of suicide alot and him and my sister started laughing at me not taking me seriously. The only time my dad talks to me is when he mentions some crap about facebook cus he's addicted to that. When my cousin was staying over my house for 2 months he would always talk to her everyday and completely ignore me and yell at me in front of her so i told him one day "why don't you ever talk to me, why do you ignore me and why do you talk to nadia (my cousin) and not me?" and he goes "what are you jealous" .... that got me very upset and i told him "youre just not treating me as fairly" and then he ignored it... He always ignores me or yells at me when he knows i'm right. And i don't know what to do anymore because no one cares about anything i say or do. It's like i'm happy about something, ihave the urge to tell them ,i wanna tell them, i'm happy to tell them and excited, but they dont care,,, so it makes me depressed that i have no one to talk to. I lost alot of my friends as well because they never made the effort anymore.. I just feel like i need new people in my life because i dont have anyone in my life who cares. My mom doesn't really talk to me much either or care and my brother too.
What do you do if your family can't take care of the dog you adopted and the situation causes arguments among the family?
If you adopted the dog from a reputable shelter, surrender the dog. Or find a suitable home where the new owners can take care of the dog (I. E. Able to feed quality diet, provide physical and mental stimulation, provide regular veterinary care, provide a safe home etc.). Don't ask for a lot of money, maybe $100- some people with no morals like to get free dogs to torture them or use them for some disgusting reason. But don't try to profit from it either because the whole point is to find this dog a good home. Make sure the new family will not give up the dog. If not you might as well surrender it to a humane society. Do this asap because this poor dog is not getting the care and love he or she needs.
Who do you really dislike in your family? Why?
I really dislike my brother. He is soooo selfish and very inconsiderate. He lies about every little thing and only cares about what he wants and should get. He uses my mother, doesn't take care of his kid all that well, disrespects women by using them for their money. He will purposely go after women with low self-esteem just to get them in bed. He refuses to work because He knows he can con someone out of their money. He and I are not close but he knows not to ask me for anything and he can't try to get over on me. I stay away from him as much as possible. I feel so sorry for his son to have such a sorry dad. Oh yeah he also has several STDs that he hasn't treated but constantly have sex with women. Don't know what he may have now because he refuses to get tested. I love him because he is my brother, but hate to be around him because he is not a good person at all.
My life has become hell. Parents torture me a lot emotionally and I can’t take it anymore. What should I do at this point of my life?
i’m 17 and my parents just don’t understand me. i don’t even have the right to cut my hair. my life’s miserable. i’m waiting to finish engineering so that i can join in a company and live alone. i never asked them for pocket money (we’re not poor!!). i never asked them if i can go out for a movie with my friends. they think it violates their “sacred laws” if i go out alone ( i never went though). they never asked me if i needed anything. they said i was just wasting their money !! whenever i loose my temper, my mom says “what have you done? we made u join in college but you’re just wasting our money.” she scolds me for no reason in front of people!! i cried myself to sleep many times. i’m just unlucky i guess. they say “you’re just 17 and you are not allowed to use social media.” i don’t even have a phone. i talk to my best friend once a month. when i use my mom’s phone for some work, my elder sister (24) says “you’re spoiling mom’s phone!! i bought it for mom!! not for you.” i wear jeans but my dad does not like it. one day when i finally asked for a phone my mom said “ what if you sit in the college and chat with people instead of studying?” i was shocked and hurt!! i was meritorious student till 12th. but they have no confidence in me. when i ask something they laugh and poke fun at me. when i ask my sis for something she does not even bother to reply. she just walks away. there were many incidents where i was beaten!! i just have to bear all these till i graduate. then i’ll return all the money they payed for my high school and college education and i’ll leave the city….see? you’re not alone!!
Am I a fool or is my family a bunch of idiots?
I'm a 22 year old girl, I have good looks. (I used to model at one point in my life. I'm tall, blonde and skinny). Right now I'm studying engineering in college. I have a bf who is 27 right now and he did 2 years of college and now he works with computers and makes $50k a year. We have a long distance relationship. I adore him and he is everything to me. I believe he feels the same way about me. Here is the thing, my family thinks that he isn't worthy of me. They tell me every time they see me that I need someone richer, someone who will buy me stuff, someone who will spoil me and do everything for me. They all go on a rant how I deserve a billionaire. And that all girls who are pretty and smart as I am only go for billionaires and that I'm a fool to waste my time on him. I just want to know people's opinions, am I really a fool for loving and wanting to be with someone who isnt rich, doesnt have the most handsomest looks (he looks like an average American guy), just because I look like a model, I used to model, and I'm studying to be an engineer? Because according to my family, I am a fool. And if you believe like I do that my family is a bunch of idiots, plz give me good arguments as to why I am right and they are wrong. I'm srsly out of arguments to argue with them.