Songs for brother leaving for college?? HELP PLZ?!?!?!?
my brother is having a going away party with a bunch of family and friends and i wanted to surprise him n sing him a song or something but idk a song that i could do... any suggestions??? thank u so much :)
My brother left for college and I'm sad?
My brother is going to college on the other side of the country. My parents and I parted ways with my brother and I couldn't help but feel really sad. I felt sad because he's going to be a stranger in my life even with texting and skype. Also I wouldn't feel as bad if he's college experience were better. He's going to college in a big city and the dorms are in pretty bad shape. His roommate can't speak english well, and never talks to him. On top of that my bro is shy and doesn't make friends well so I get worried if he has someone toeat with or in general friends. My brother is one of the most supporting person in my life and constantly helps me with practically everything. Also when I was younger my dad wasn't really part of my life, so I looked up to my brother. Now that's he's gone I feel a gaping hole in my heart. I feel he's going to start his life and leave me behind.
What becomes of the golden child of a narcissistic parent?
I think that golden children and scapegoats exist as a result of the narc's triangulation technique.There are three entities involved in triangulation with a narc parent and 1 child:1) The narc-prosecutor2) The victim-child3) The audienceIf the victim-child is submissive then the narc makes them a golden child and tells the audience that they are perfect parents and the golden child is perfect too because of them.If the victim-child rebels, then the narc makes them a scapegoat and tells the audience that they are poor people that the scapegoat is doing something to.The approach between golden child and scapegoat can change depending on how the victim-child responds to the narc-prosecutor.In cases of families with 2 children then there is multiple triangulation.The entities involved are:1) The narc-prosecutor2) The golden child victim3) The scapegoat child victim4) The audienceThe narc triangulates as before for each of the children to the audience, but also between the 2 children. They will tell the golden child that the scapegoat is a failure and to blame for, and tell the scapegoat that the golden child is perfect and successful to make them jealous. The 2 child victims will be at battle with each other and then the narc triangulates again to pretend they are saving both from each other.One could apply mathematical formulas to see that the more people are involved around the narc, triangulation instances increase exponentially.The golden child will inevitably either overvalue their abilities and become a narc themselves, or at some point crack down from pressure of being made to feel empty and perfect, unable to fail, and have real needs of their own.If there was a scapegoat in the family too, they will always struggle to get back with them, both because of the ideas planted to them from the narc as well as the battles that would have occurred between them.Hopefully if the golden child runs away and fixes the issues elsewhere they may heal and take hold of whatever they may have built themselves during the narc parent pressures.