My grandma is a horrible person...should I feel bad for her?
My grandma has six children. She has always favored one of them (her son, let's call him Bill). Out of all of her children, my mom is the one with the house and my mom is pretty well off (my parents work their asses off and save money instead of wasting it like her other kids). Bill rented an apartment in our house for years and my grandma lives in our basement. She would steal our things and give it to Bill when we weren't home. Bill lost his job and my grandma told him and his family to stop paying us rent. My mom had to take her own brother to court and it took four months to get them out. We lost a lot of money and my grandma said that we deserve to lose everything. For some reason, she seems to hate my mom and my father. She wishes evil things upon them and she calls me a whore for having a boyfriend when I am 20 yrs old. She has done WAY more evil things. She even joined a life insurance policy with her son and he gets 50,000 when she died. Her other five children get nothing. Now that Bill is gone, my grandma is sick and she keeps asking us to do things for her. My sister refuses to speak to her, and my father also hates her. I can;t stand her either, but I feel sorry for her because she is old. Should I be the better person and help her? I don't know what to do. I feel like saying "Why don't you go ask bill and his kids to do stuff for you?!!!!"
Sticky mouse trap! I feel like a horrible person!?
I can tell that you are upset, and I hope you will feel better soon. Often the humane traps are innaffective, as the mouse will come straight back inside. Normal mouse traps are the most effective trap, as the mouse has no time to feel scared and will die in under ten seconds, as its neck is broken. Glue traps are used as there is a chance that the mouse may walk over a trap, triggering it without being caught, but with glue traps the mouse will definitely be caught. This is why you found the mouse in a glue trap, not another humane trap. When you found the mouse trapped, it would probably been most effective to cut the trap apart, as the mouse would have been fine with a piece of gluey paper on each foot. The most humane death would have been to crush it, but if you were too scared, you could have hit it against the side of a building, or even fed it mouse poison. Unfortunately, drowning is not the most pleasant of deaths. Fortunately, mice do not have the same minds as humans, and although it will have suffered, you will imagine it's suffering to be worse than it actually was. I hope going through the event thoroughly has helped you get over this.
How do I stop feeling like a horrible person for hurting someone?
Your conscience is trying to tell you something. Thankfully, you’ve GOT a conscience—-so that’s a good beginning. Sometimes the conscience overplays it’s hand, but that could simply be because you’ve been overriding it for so long that it is now hitting you hard. Whatever the case may be, you should definitely spend some time with your conscience and ask yourself if there is something you are missing that is bothering you. With that in mind and a little practice over time, you will no doubt get to the heart of the problem more directly the more you work on watching your moods and aggressiveness towards friendly people. So, I guess the real answer to what you’re asking is NO, not yet. You should definitely sit with the feeling you have for a while. Because that is your insides screaming back at you for how you’ve behaved. THAT part is working. It is merely a process of figuring out how to best apply the knowledge that your inner workings are attempting to impart to your conscious mind that is going to take some attention and some commitment on your part.
Am I a horrible person, or am I just depressed?
You are not a horrible person until you do truly horrible things to others, at least that’s what I think is the proper definition of a horrible person. All humans are theoretically capable of doing wonderful or horrible things, so don’t judge yourself based on your imagined abilities to act.Please don’t do horrible things.By the way, some people get confused about what is horrible, because they are attempting to follow a code of conduct which forbids doing things that are in themselves not horrible; so maybe you just need to re-examine what is truly horrible and what you were told is horrible to see if they match.Meanwhile, definitely speak confidentially to a mental health counselor if you feel you are about to do something horrible. If you are assisted to work out an obsession threatening you or others before anything irreversible happens, you will be on the road to no longer fearing you are yourself horrible. You will find you are then capable of being happy, which involves making others happy they know you.
I feel like a bad person.?
The past couple months have been hard. I'm almost 18 & I've been under a lot of stress. Everything that I had in life that made me happy got taken away from. My family moved away from & was forced to live with my grandma who's a drunk. There was always fighting so I left to move in with my boyfriend. With all the stress going on I had really bad anxiety & atarted devolping a problem with xanax. Just recently quit & that put me in a more worse state of mind. I feel like such a bad person cause I can't feel & I'm always in a bad mood. I don't even know what life is anymore. I've always beloeved in god and now it's hard for me. I've always wanted to be happy & have kids now I'm afraid to be around kids cause what if I am a bad person & I hurt them. I'm afraid to go home to my family for that reason. I love them so much & would never want to hurt them. But I get intrusive thoughts & it makes me sick to my stomach. Like what if I'm a bad person. I just hate living like this. I want to be me again. Full of life & carefree. Cuddling with my baby brothers until I fall asleep. Being a good person. I feel like I'm losing myself. How do I bring me back. This is not how I want to live anymore.
Am I a horrible person? (details provided)?
You made a mistake. You have learned from it. That is what mistakes are for -- so you can learn from them and grow. You should be proud of yourself for being wise enough to learn from your lapse in judgment. You are fortunate that nobody was hurt that night, you should be grateful that this learning experience was not a tragic one. This DUI was actually a gift and a wake-up call to you, try to see it as such and not be so hard on yourself. All human beings make mistakes, and the people who are saying those things to you are being awfully judgmental. I guarantee you they have done something in their lives they are very ashamed of. The only difference between you and them is that your mistake was publicized. You are not a bad person, and the world doesn't hate you. It sounds like you could use some professional help because you are obviously very depressed. Go see a therapist and get help, that is the best way you can overcome your depression.
Why do I feel that I am a bad person?
Maybe you do not love yourself enough. Maybe you have done certain karma which has hurt your soul. But feeling you are a bad person constantly, is like whipping yourself. Its a kind of self hate. Whatever you may have done, learn to forgive yourself. Instead of self-persecution, you should think of redemption. Thats a positive step forward. So reflect, forgive, love and redeem yourself.To read more of my commentaries on life, visit : www.karan-razdan.com