I feel so lonely and worthless and want to give up on life. Help?
I asked 2 questions recently, one on how I have no friends and another about how I dont feel good enough to have a boyfriend. Basically, I'm upset because I have never had many friends growing up or in high school and those few "friends" that I have had never showed any interest in hanging out with me. As for the guy issue, I don't have any positive qualities that will make me stand out to a guy. I have never had a boyfriend and no guy has ever liked me. I'm also very shy around boys. I'm very dissatisfied with myself. Growing up, my parents put me down a lot and they had very pessimistic views on life and people and they isolated me from others. As a result, I have no faith in people (I always think I'm going to end up getting betrayed or heart broken), I'm socially awkward, extremely shy, and my self esteem is extremely low. I also don't have any talents (honestly, I am not good at anything) and I am not very intelligent. I don't have any motivation to do anything. I just sit at home every day by myself. While everyone I know is spending time with each other, I'm home alone with my parents. I'm 20 years old and I don't feel that life is going to get any better. I really hate my life and I am too much of a coward to commit suicide or anything, but I really have no will to live. I've tried seeing a therapist before but it hasn't worked. It has just gotten worse. Not only am I extremely lonely, but I'm also hopeless about the future. I can't see myself being successful or having a nice happy family (I dont think I would be a good wife or girlfriend and I'm sure whoever I end up with, if I end up with someone, will quickly get bored with me). Is there anyway I can improve my outlook on life and myself? Also how can I resolve my loneliness issue? I know I need to get out there and meet people, but I am extremely shy and it seems like no one ever wants to be my friend, even if I try to befriend them and be very nice to them. :(
Songs to listen to when you feel like a failure in life?
Recollection of a difficult phase of life that I encountered encouraged me to listen to songs that are somewhat OPPOSITE to your initial inclination. The songs I refer to reveal the failure & depression of other people & allow us to define WHERE we are in comparison to were we could be in a WORSE scenario; 1) 'Comfortably Numb' (Pink Floyd) 2) 'A Horse with no Name' (America) Though you're sadly confronted with an unrequested phase within your life I feel that these songs help us recognize that countless others have encountered the same unheralded dilemmas. Having focused upon that during my unwanted time, it generated a massive dose of self-repair! All the best to YOU.
Why do I feel bad about my life when looking at other people’s Instagram accounts, and what should I do about it?
Trust me, pal, life would be much better and easy if we know how to and when to demarcate between reality and virtual reality.You are not alone.Almost every other person on social media feels mentally down for one reason or the other, seeing the highlight reels of others on social media platforms like Instagram, Facebook or Snapchat.I am no different.But having a career in digital media AND growing to know this social media world better, I have understood that it is foolish on anyone’s part to buy everything that social media sells to us, at face value.A simple way of putting this would be, you have a bad, bad day, wherein, say, you had a fight with your parents, your cat died, or you just simply don’t even feel like waking up from bed and do nothing but laze around the whole day.Now, would you put this negative/mundane angle of your life on social media?Chances are marginal, for you may feel the onus of the possibility of being judged, being called an attention-seeker, moody, et cetera.Now compare this to a day where you just feel good about yourself. Say, you got a damn nice dress, which fetched you a plethora of compliments, a bevy of people viewed your Snapchat stories, etc. And you do feel like basking in this glory for a change, and you click a picture and post it on Instagram/Facebook.These are all highlight reels that you are sharing.There are people (though less) who share as much of their sad stories as they do for their happy ones, and then there are people who only let their positive side show on social media, concealing the chink in their armor fairly well, simply for the reason that they do not want the world to see their inner demons.But amid all this: truth remains just one. Everyone has their dark days and perfection is just a myth. Nobody’s life is as perfect as their Instagram Feed or Snapchat history might look, and this is a fact.You may feel like, ‘’Oh, she’s got a perfect life!’’ ‘’He has nothing to worry about! I wish I had a life like that!’’ but bottom line is, those persons aren’t living a life that’s hunky dory either, just like you. Just that their problems might be different than yours.It’s the best to thus treat highlight reels as they are: ‘’Reels’’ and know that ‘’Real’’ is quite different. It is basic, it lacks background music, and sometimes, it sucks! But hey, that’s life. We make, we break, and we gotta live it the way we want, whatever it takes! :)Good luck!
My parents think I'm a worthless and a total failure?
I'm a 16 year old in year 11. I just pass or fail my subjects at school. I do try to get better grades but I just can't get higher than a C+. My parents are constantly yelling at me, especially my father, and they think that I'm lazy and have a bad attitude. They always say that I do nothing around the house but I actually do. I do the washing every weekend, dust the living room each week, cook meals when I'm told to most of the time. I always over sleep and just make it on the bus to school or miss it, but that isn't totally my fault - I have anaemia, which makes me more tired than most people. I'm not allowed to go anywhere after dark, go anywhere more than a 30 minute walk away from home by my self, I never get pocket money and I'm not allowed sleepovers. I feel like my parents are controlling my life. There's a trip over seas for ancient history students at the end of next year, my parents said I could go, but just now they have changed their minds because I don't do anything around the house. I'm so disappointed because I was really looking forward to going over seas with my friends. I just don't understand why they didn't just say no in the first place and saved me the disappointment. I don't smoke, or drink etc. What can I do to feel better about my self and prove that I'm not failure to my parents?
I am 25, not yet settled and depressed about my career. I have written a lot of competitive exams and failed in all the exams. What should I do?
Sadly… This is life. My mom always tells me that Life isnt a golden platter. Everyone has a bad phase in life and this is just your bad phase. the way it came, it’ll go as well.Let me tell you my story. A bachelor and Masters Degree from a Top B School in India. Second Masters degree from Abroad. I am still jobless. Everyday I see my friends as compared to whom I am way much smarter working in really good firms in Mumbai and Delhi. When I wake up and I see people getting dressed and leaving for Office, I feel someone is piercing my chest with a very sharp knife. But I am helpless. I have given nearly 150 job applications, 20 interviews but still at the last moment some shit happens and I lose it.When this Wasn’t enough, the Love of my life turned out to be a hopeless cheating loser. When I somehow managed to cope with these two sorrows, I lost a Family Member.Hence, I sometimes feel like screaming at God for doing so bad with me for no fault of mine. I believe that every human has an emotional threshold, which once crossed, we fall apart.This is life mate. Everywhere u see you will find injustice and unfairity but we have to live with it. I trust myself that academically I was Smart, hardworking and today the only problem is luck isn’t on my side. Its the same to you. Its just your bad phase and everything is gonna pass soon and you’ll see success in your career. You are just 25, you have a long way to go. To hell with all the negative minded people in your life. Don’t be very hard on yourself. Just have a little more patience. Trust me when I say this - “ONE DAY, EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY.”