Feeling Very Lost And Confused Help

I am feeling confused about my love life. Help?

Tell me, do they usually post this kind of information all over the place? If they don't do such a thing normally, there is really no reason why they should suddenly do it to you. (Obviously, if they do behave this way normally then they will)

There is always going to be some risks in asking people out although usually the worst is that they will turn you down. In that case you are no worse off than you were before you asked.

It can be a bit of a problem asking out friends in that it can unbalance the friendship. Some people are embarrassed or uncomfortable to know that a friend thinks of them in a different way from the way they do, and some people don't like hurting people if they turn them down. You might want to consider that.

Your real problem seems to be that you don't actually like one more than the other. To me, that would suggest that neither of them is a good choice with whom to go out, and that you might be better just remaining friends and waiting for someone who does stand out as being the one person you want to go out with.

I feel lost and confused...?

You know, something similar happened to me. There was one point in my life when i was strangely heavily depressed for some reason, and i kept thinking of the thought of how my family members are going to die one by one each day and every second is closer to death. But it will only occur to me at night. Around exactly the 5- 11 pm parts. NEVER in the morning, which i never knew why. My mom is a psychiatrist but i never confronted her..because.. i don't know, it was weird. "everybody hates me" I don't hate you. But i hate my school. Yeah, i know school is full of a bunch ***** isn't it? lol

you see about the ankle breaking..Self-injury seems incomprehensible to people who don’t engage in self-injurious behavior. Why would someone choose to cut or otherwise hurt themselves? It’s important to remember that self-mutilation provides individuals with some degree of comfort or relief. The relief itself rapidly gives way to feelings of shame over self-injuring, which encourages more self-mutilation.

you are thinking that it is your fault and trying to calm yourself down through pain. But its an act that grows if it is not stopped. I know it is overwhelming which is part of the disorder. Im telling this to you now before its too late, It can lead to you to suicide. Understand this while youre still capable of processing it before it completely takes over and youve lost common sense lol But im not trying to scare you, youll be alright. You want to be happy, yes? No one is controlling your brain, ahahaha. Its you if youve noticed... Only you. See, your brain is a private area where youre thoughts are meant to thrive and grow. A thought turns into an emotion. The emotion is affecting you. Change the thoughts. Its easy. Trust me, i know...

you can train yourself to be happy.
happiness and depression are just habits that you indulge in. take control of yourself and be happy.

I'm very lost on my feelings and need some help?

I have a friend who just broke up with his girlfriend and he's now interested in someone a state away. He really likes her, and I've really liked him since I met him. So much that I want him to be happy over my selfish need to have him myself. I was helping him with her, and he hasn't asked her out yet, but he asked me the other day "Hypotepical question... I am just asking this out of... wonder about myself... I am looking for an unbiased answer. I do not plan to go anywhere with this or anything like that ... Not trying to scare you away basically... Would YOU date me?" now I realize this is most likely ACTUALLY a hypotehetical since the way he said it, but when he asked, it made me so happy, and of course I said yes. I asked him the same, and he said yes. We have quite a close friendship, and I'm liking him more and more everyday. I mean I know now that there is at least a small chance one day, but right now..after the events, and my own loneliness after breaking up with someone if I should even say anything right now, or just wait.. I don't want to be selfish, or confuse him more. It's tearing me up though. :c

I'm so lost and confused about life?

I suspect you're a cut above most of the users on this site, as you seem intelligent. It is great to be ambitious, but don't you think you are getting ahead of yourself a bit? You're only 18, meaning you have so much time to accomplish things. You're confused and have been set off track because you're expecting too much from yourself. Take it from a 20 year old guy who's deathly afraid of looking back on his life when he is on his deathbed and thinking "what have I done to leave my mark on this world?" You have dreams of grandeur. I can see that. While that's excellent, it can also be self-destructive. You become so focused on the big picture that you lose track of the small steps you need to take to get there. Set some minor goals for yourself that will eventually lead you to the prestige that you desire.

I don't know if going with the flow is the best idea. It's easy to miss opportunities and make mistakes if you just go with the flow. You must determine exactly what it is you want to achieve, and then take the necessary steps to get there. You must stop thinking as though you can reach your final destination directly from where you are. It takes time and effort and intermediate steps. I tend to put more on my plate than I can eat (figuratively), just like you. You know, in general, what you want (pestige and success). Now you must think clearly and realistically to find out what you need to do to get there.

One can walk over the highest mountain one step at a time. - John Wanamaker