Ok I Need help Swingers was your firt time scary.?
If you are going to take this step make sure your ready 100% yes there is a little fear in trying it for the first time just like anything really you try.But if you are going just for your husband sake dont.You will regret it for the rest of your life.I suggest you try a more private place for your first time with someone you know the more you know the person the more relaxed you will feel.If you choose to attend a party for your first time you do not need to try anything you don't want to.The rule no means no is there for a reason and all true swingers respect that.We have been swingers for a few years now and we run our own group and to answer one reply here its not just middle aged over weight people that attend swingers parties or Venues.Look I can say to you yeah go for it but I just feel your not 100% ready there are websites out there that can help you and I am sure there would be a swingers group in your local area ask them for advice.What ever you choose we wish you all the best.
Nervous about first time sex..?
Well some of these answers are brutal lol. Its normal to be nervous because your making yourself vulnerable and its a big step and if you trust him then you should tell him your nervous and why. Sex is pretty basic so there is not alot you can do wrong anyway. Have you got any friends who have already had sex? Ask them about their first time experience. As for the pain it all depends on the individual, it never hurt me all that much and if it does hurt you need to tell him, as for the bleeding that doesn't happen to everyone. My first time was in a horrible place and had so many things i could have picked fault at but didnt and do not because i loved the guy and trusted him and it felt right.....and if this doesnt feel right to you in anway then do not go through with it, and tell him and if he loves you he will understand.
I'm scared about having sex?
Everyone has different opinions about age and stuff but you seem like you are ready and its not like you are under 16 so don't worry about them grumpy old people, they probably don't get any. It hurts differently for different people, the more relaxed you are the less it will hurt. and even if it doesnt work out first time, thats fine, happened to me and I was just like "fail" and just tried again later. If it doesnt work, I know it sounds gross, but over a small period of time, just stretch yourself out with something unyill you gradually get bigger. It will be fine x
Staying at my boyfriends house for the first time?
I was so nervous when I first slept round at my boyfriends house. I was scared about walking around the house in my pjs - especially to go to the bathroom. I was nervous about snoring, or where we would sleep. I was just myself, and he loved that. And now, 3 years later, I live with him. It's up to you whether you sleep with makeup on or off.. He should love you, no matter how much fake **** you put on. Pjs - again, whatever you're comfortable with. Underwear, pj pants, and an old tee looks great, especially if it's one of his. Take a small bag as its only one night - toothbrush, pjs, spare clothes, hairbrush, makeup, deoderant.. I usually take whatever I need.. and nothing extra. You don't need to worry - you've been together 5 months! and you're clearly very close.. He won't mind what you bring or what you wear!!