Help with my Virgo mom...(plz help!!!) no, seriously...?
okay, so my mom is a virgo. and really, honestly i can't take her anymore. she's always trying to make me feel bad for her. she's so easilly stressed, and when i'm mad at her, she occasionally goes, "fine..hopefully i'll go to sleep and never wake up.." She tries to make me pity her, and she always makes it look like she has it worse than me. sometimes i dont even want to go on with my life when she acts this way. she always plays the victim role, and nothing is ever solved by us screaming at eachother. i end up saying something i shouldn't have said, slamming my door, and locking myself in my room. it makes me so upset, because i cant stand people who make others feel bad for them. it just makes me sick, because at least she's not homeless, abused, or dead...i dont understand why she thinks she has it so bad. i know she would never commit suicide, simply because i know her. she wouldn't do that. so, honestly..i don't pity her at all. instead of making me feel sad and sympathetic for her, every sentence that escapes her mouth makes me more numb and bitter. i'm a cancerian w/ aries rising and uranus in aquarius. maybe that's why i'm so distant, but i still don't know my mom's chart, so i can't find placements that would make her act this way. please, just gimme some advice to ease everything. just tips on how to deal with a virgo mom. thank you.
Scorpio placement people, how do you control obsessions?
gggrrrrrr you're right it's so irritating. it's also pretty hard to stop, if you try that you just end up letting it out all at once. i would suggest directing your obsessiveness towards something more positive, than say, manipulating your friends. try to put your obsessive energy into a sport or your work or a hobby, and if you feel yourself going over the top, at least try to make $ off it :) also, don't try consistently telling yourself NOT to quietly control things, it doesn't work you just go insane.
Natal Planets in the 12th House?
I'm a Virgo Sun, Libra Moon and Virgo Ascendant. I consider myself to be an intermediate beginner to astrology. Currently, I keep mulling over and over again and studying my natal chart. It's incredibly fascinating to me. I've discovered I have a couple planets in the 12th house. - Sun - Mercury - Mars - Venus Also, Virgo is placed in all of these planets. (I know Leo's ruling planet is the Sun but the astrological sign seems to be placed in this house as well.) What I have noticed and can definitely attest to, is that I do consider myself to be kind of a loner, like seclusion, like a certain degree of discretion. I can be alone for a very long extended period of time and not feel "lonely". (In fact, I prefer. I'm not very fond of big crowds.) I'm definitely a THINKER. BUT, I do feel that all my thinking does and has gotten in the way of my will to act and execute important matters. For the most part, everything seems to be delayed. Because of the Sun's placement in this house I did experience the death of my father at a very young age. I've read somewhere that the Sun and Venus placement in this house is not a very good one, especially for women. I find myself attracted to men of a certain age bracket -- older. Don't know if that has anything do to with the placement of these planets (?) *My father was 20 yrs older than my mother* Night time, is definitely MY time, and when I feel the most energized and mentally active. I'm interested in and have a love for the arts. Particularly acting, have never acted in my life but would love to do so. Social work is another field of interest for me too. I'm going back to school for either one or both of these but mostly like both. Thoughts? Do any of you out there have any of these placements? What is your interpretation of them? Is there "redeeming" of these planets in this house? I'm open to and welcome, any and all of your suggestions and advice. Also, any suggestions for really good astrology books on how to study natal charts, or just astrology in general? Thank you for taking the time to read. Sorry for the incredibly long winded question. 'Looking forward to your replies. Thanks :)
I have sun, venus and mercury in 12th house..can any1 please tell me if i hv anythin good to look forward to??
I wouldnt "blame" your 12th house. A lot of really successful famous people have a lot of placements in the 12th. The 12th is not about being "alone" Its about your subconcious personality and a place to restore yourself. Its a very personal house too. Its also the house of creativity(like the 5th) and imagination. Now its the aspects that problably make you feel lonely. You have neptune squaring mercury and venus and pluto squaring the moon. You have a lot of planets in Aries which gives you a strong individual streak . So at times it can make you so self aware that you may not even notice that there are people aound you, because you only see yourself. You have a moon in aquarius so you have a need for friendship and to belong, but the square from pluto makes you afraid to step out and be noticed. Jupiter is near by so the need is magnified . Channel the Aquarius moon and the trine from Uranus to your sun and develope your need for a social life into reality. As for the Planets in the 12th, Venus in the 12th can mean that you'll meet your spouse in a hospital or get married on the beach. She may be a nurse or work in a hospital. Or you might work in a hospital. Mercury there might make you a writter because it gives imagination and sensitivity to your mind. The one aspect that makes you lonely is your SATURN IN THE 7TH OPPOSE MARS IN THE FIRST and even thats not too bad because it puts older more successful people into your life. Maybe thats where you need to go to be apart of the crowd. for your issues look to the SOCIAL houses 3rd, 7th and 11th. Not the 12th.
I hate everything about myself I wish I could change?! Plz help... :/?
So I take all honors classes, and advance placement and its a ton of work so Friday nights Im usually doing homework so I dont have as much to do over the weekend so I can finally get a break from it all. Everyone usually leaves on Friday nights and Im stuck home alone, and my mind just goes all over the place I often just cry and think about things at school, home, and my personal life. For one, I never had a boyfriend it really doesnt bother me because Im almost scared to because Im so insecure. I just get lonely sometimes and I want to feel loved. Secondly, I go to a prodominely white school and a lot of kids are racist towards me because Im black I mean its not like Im bullied but they constantly tell black jokes and make remarks and I just try to laugh it off but sometimes it hurts a lot. Ive grown up with a very huge background of racism, for example in the third grade this girl told me I couldnt play with her because my skin was dirty, and a lot of my friends wouldnt let me over there houses when I was little because of my skin color. And a lot more untold stories. But those things stay with me.... Where I live all black guys date white girls and theres nothing wrong with this my problem is my brother is black and teases me because he prefers white girls and he tells me all black girls are ugly, and have nasty hair. But I was raised differently.. I am very clean and I have long relaxed hair. I dont know it just hurts.. I have sucha problem trusting people with this I have a few friends, but I wouldnt even call them friends. I hang out with no one on the weekends, or text anyone outside of school. I just talk to one person all day that I went to school with in Florida I moved away now. So were like long distance friends. But it makes me feel like Im missing out on actual conversations, I have a hard time having conversations with people I guess because I've been in silence so long... In addition, my brother, grandma and mom are who I live with and they are all light skinned and I am dark skinned (not very dark) like my father. And even my mom says stuff like I dont like darkskin men, and my brother says the same, even my dad talks about light skin girls..it just really hurts me Im in tears writing this.. I dont know what to do or where to begin...I am so broken.
My Observation Of The Aquarius Personality?
fyi its Aquarians...not aquariuses... and the sun sign is way to general... it's like saying virgos are all nitpicky and analytical... you must dig far deeper than the sun sign... basically what i am saying is. your observations are inaccurate because this day an age the sun sign barley says anything about our personalities...you probably made these observations based on a couple aquarians...it would be a bit absurd to believe that all aquarians fit your description...also...two of my closest friends are aquarians...and neither of them are how you described. it is not the majority of our personalities, it is the 'General' which isnt alway accurate...obviously the description of a sun sign says some things about us...maybe you are just an astrology noob, and I don't mean that in an insulting way...but I have been studying astrology since I was about 12 and im 17 now. seriously look more into it...I promise its fascinating. And you will find there are tons of different aspects that play a roll on our personalities... funny, because im a virgo...and I am the most unorganized, messy, scattered virgo female you would ever meet...upon first impression, most think im a pisces or a leo... my moon opposes my sun...exactly...my point... of course I say im a virgo, but it doesnt mean im exactly how virgos are depicted...if anything im ALMOST the opposite... moon sign reflects your emotions and intuitive side of your nature. In the Old Astrology, the Moon sign was a lot more important as the more general Sun sign... I believe the ascendant is the most important, then moon and then the sun. the sun represents our ego, identity and ideology...but the moon represents the mind and emotional personality which better describes an individual's "inner self". the ascendant is the most important because it sets the context of your horoscope and dictates how an individual's general outlook on life... the sun is only so emphasized in Western culture because of conveniency... sorry i guess i just dont understand your argument.. "gosh, you aries are all alike!"