Why Does My Friend Brag About Her Boobs?
My friend is really obese. Her stomach is really big and so is everything else. She always brags about how all the guys like her, how one dude said her boobs were huge. She then always will tell our friends at the sleepovers we have how she has big boobs. She'll state out of nowhere"I have 36D and im growing" randomly. I am one cup under, small waist, and hips equal to my shoulders. She will point out how sometime I look anorexic or like a albino. She makes me feeling so insecure all I wear is baggy hoodies. She once said I was thirsty when I wore a dress for school pictures. She will then the next day say how I look like a doll or how she loves my blue eyes. Sometimes I think she's bipolar with her attitude..
My best friend always puts me down?
I am 17 and I've been friends with this girl for about 6 years. She's always been self-centered, argumentative, and brags a lot. I'm not popular and quiet in school so I have 2 friends: her and my other friend. My other friend is popular so we're not that close. Anyways, I have always wanted to go to this one university my entire life. I got accepted and I'm so happy to make new friends and get my degree. But my friend hates that I'm going. She always talks trash to others when I'm in front of her listening about how stupid people are for going to a university instead of a community college. It's my choice and she's making me feel bad about it. She just has this attitude like I'm a complete idiot and she's right about everything. What do I do? She puts me down about everything and she's made me have low self-esteem since we started being friends. It isn't healthy but I don't know how to stop being her friend without her retaliating.
She's such a friend always be there for me and cares me a lot. But I found she copied me in many ways even my dream. She has double standards and brags a lot. Whatever she does for me, she'll say it's all for my own good. Is she a true friend?
Lets not forget imitation is the most sincere form of flattery. I’ve sometimes been impressed with people particularly when younger and figuring out who I want to be and tried to adopt some of their habits or interests. But I wouldn’t worry to much if someone copies you they will steal your best qualities. In the long run in life whatever you are good at or do that you own more or put more into or care about more you’ll come out ahead typically unless the other person has just as much an innate claim to it.I’d say like the other answer follow your gut. But I sense some measuring up like you feel you need to apply some set of standards to people to be your friend. And you seem mixed that there are what you view positives and negatives. It’s up to you how much you want to be someones friend. But if the person is not doing downright negative things in the relationship like breaking your stuff or standing you up all the time or getting you into trouble I’d say learn to realize we all have some virtue and some less virtues qualities like maybe bragging or double standards. What I like to see in friends is they seem to try to do the right thing when there is some pressure and it matters and don’t worry about every little vanity they may entertain.
I feel like I'm dumb. My friends seem to be smarter than me, I feel really bad. Why so?
Simple answer: don’t even bother.Long answer: The grass is greener on the other side. If you know this, things can be much easier.There are multiple reasons why you should AND shouldn’t compare yourself with others, there is good and bad in doing both.Now here is the tricky part, cuz you have to know a little about this, in a sens that, the person your comparing yourself to, has a DIFFERENT life than you had, which resulted in the way that person is.Think of it this way: When Bill Gates donated part of his money to charity he said that he didn’t consider himself a hero. Why? Because he wasn’t sacrificing anything. BUT instead, if you dropped 50$ on the floor, how fast would you pick it up?Also remember that even if you and another friend had the same experiences, that does not mean you will come to the same conclusion.Now the real trick is to not compare yourself with your friends, but instead compare yourself with yourself.Confusing?Ask yourself today: what do i know today that i did not know yesterday?
Why does my friend make me feel stupid all of the time?
My "friend" is always correcting me and making me feel stupid. I know it's not because she is "insecure" because she is always ranting on about she's sooo good looking and better than everyone else, so I know that's not the issue. I tend to drift off into my own world quite a bit and dont listen to anything, and every time I do she gets a bitchy attitude and rolls her eyes and tells me she "worries" about me when she gets my attention. For example, today at DCI we were about to leave and I was listening to my band director give instructions and she moved to the front of the line apparently expecting me to follow her, I didn't see her move so I stayed where I was at but when I caught sight of her and moved to where she was she told me " i called you name and you didn't hear me, I swear I worry about you sometimes". Plus when I can do something better than her she tells me to shut up and that she hates me. Those are just some things she does to make me feel stupid. Does anyone have anyone have any advice? Sorry for the length.
Have you ever had a friend who made you feel stupid every time you talked to him or her?
I had a very similar situation like this at one of my workplaces a few years ago. A colleague of mine had this nasty habit of contradicting everything that I had to say. He didn't do it with the others, only me. This kind of behaviour started when I put him on the spot with one of his proposals that was deficient in a particular area. In the beginning, it was annoying me and I would be visibly upset. And this is what he wanted. For me to feel bad and hurt. But I slowly started changing that. The fundamental thing that all bullies look for is fear and weakness. If you don't display it very openly, the bullies will stand no chance. So, whenever I got a chance I would try to call him out on his behaviour. Like when I am making a presentation to the group and when there were a few minutes left in the end, I would say "I would like to make one final point and I would like to give XXX enough time to take a contradictory stand on that". And the whole room will burst into laughter. So, not only have I called him out on this behaviour towards me but I also pretended to enjoy it. He tried a lot harder after that and I put him down a lot harder as well. As others have mentioned, you cannot control people's behaviour towards you but you can always control how you respond to that. If you honestly feel it is getting too much just stay away from them. He/she might think that you ran away because of fear. But, every filthy pig thinks that people stay away from it because of fear.
My friends treat me like I'm dumb, what should I do?
It's really annoying me but I'm pretty sure the friends I have think I'm an idiot yet ironically I'm much smarter than them. Not to brag or anything but it's true. They can't even spell simple words and their grammar is atrocious. I realize things they probably don't know. Okay I sound like a stuck up know it all now, but they think I'm possibly one of the dumbest people on earth. The reason for that is because I'm very shy! I don't understand how shy people are automatically stupid just because we don't blab our mouths 24/7. My friends always use simple words when talking to me and you can just tell they think I have the IQ of a peanut. They always say, "Awe you're so cute! Look at you!" Like I'm a freaking baby or something, and I know it's because they think I'm stupid. I'm older than all of them, funnily enough. One of my friends got into NJHS (National Junior Honor Society) and kept bragging. Then out of nowhere, she tells me, "You probably would have not made it... Sorry." I didn't even apply so... It's becoming the most irritating thing. I absolutely hate being treated like I'm dumb and not being taken seriously. I am an extremely hard worker and I have straight A's. My friends know that yet still don't take me seriously. Advice? And if you want to complain about me being stuck up and too confident... Go ahead but also give me an answers
Is it normal for your friend to think she is pretty and brag about it?
I think it's normal for anyone to find themselves attractive, but i think if she is "bragging" then she would be considered vain. Being overly vain rubs people the wrong way, and becomes an unattractive quality. So if your friend is constantly complimenting herself in front of others it can either be because she's looking for validation from others, or she is just someone who either doesn't care or doesn't know how she's coming off.If I had a friend who constantly bragged, I would be blunt and sarcastic. "Great. Glad you think that about yourself. Now shut up already." **Having confidence is a great thing. But it's something that you show, rather than speak about to prove that you have it.
One of my colleagues at work is always bragging about her work. It really irks all of us in the team. Why does she behave this way?
In reality most people brag about what they are the most insecure about. They may look “professional” but if you look at the work they’ve done they aren’t or at least not as much as they claim to be.I call it the facebook syndrome. facebook is used to self-promote yourself, be it travel photos, photos of your house, what you did, family etc all so you can brag about what you have. It is a double edged sword because it also shows your insecurity. It is also a great tool for: employers ( so they can see all your crappy photos or photos you were tagged in while you were passed out drunk or throwing up), thieves ( when are they home, what is in their house etc) and other people.Most of these people talk in general terms, never define what they mean and rarely have complete strategies ( more or less) and they interrupt people constantly. I Usually tell people like that to shut up ( if you are the boss you can do stuff like that). You can all as a group go to your department head and talk about the woman's behavior ( says it screws up: work dynamic, productivity and is unprofessional).This has two outcomes, first the woman will be lectured about how wrong her behavior is and that it could get her fired and second she will be more professional. Of course women ( certain women not all, but a lot) rarely are professional enough to see the warning signs and then…you have angry woman syndrome on your hands. Record everything covertly so you have evidence.My 2 cents.