Should you help your friends?
People will value you based on how much you value yourself.Being nice to people is good. Helping and co operating with others forms the core of our social structure. We as species have evolved and progressed so much because of our ability to work in groups. However, survival in the tough social environment made by humans is an individual affair. Living in cities, we don't have to fear about getting eaten by a tiger, but the competition among members of society for resources has to be handled by individuals only. You will have to compete. for food. for money. for companionship.When you are sacrificing your good for others, you are sending out a signal that you are less important than others in the society. You dont consider yourself to be important enough even for yourself. When you are sending the signals that you are not capable enough or important enough, the society will start to see you that particular way and thus will be less willing to spend its resources on you. Its a negative feed back loop thus. You give up your claim of scant resources first, and if you again claim up after sometimes, you will be pushed back out of the line. People will call you selfish. double standard.The solution you ask? Place yourself first. You are the priority.This sounds like being selfish. But it is really not. You are only claiming on what should be rightfully yours. Believe in yourself. Believe that you are also special and deserving. This is the self confidence the whole world talks about. Selffishness is getting everything for yourself. The right thing is equal distribution of resources. You do it for other. Give yourself the same importance here. Also, do not expect anything good to come out of doing good for others. When you do good, do it for yourself. Because it makes you feel good. Doing good for fame or recognition generates expectations which only leads to hurt. One good way to get good returns on good deeds is by doing good things to many people. Invest in a large number of people rather than a small group of close friends. Expand your circle. There are many good people out there who are happy to help. But you have to find them and than invest in them. The only way to this is by going out and meeting new people, and taking risk of helping them. There are only two things that can happen. Either they will reject you and betray you. Or you will get life long friends. No gains without pain you see.phhhh long answer! Hope this helps!
To what extent should one help a friend?
To the extent where YOU as a FRIEND, DO NOT, cross the line. While doing that, telling your friend to not to cross the line as well! Do not let your friend keep on borrowing money again and again and never paying up for it..yes, give him or her far amount of time but after that stop helping him or her. Tell your friend not to do drugs, as much as a friend should tell and intervene. If the friend replies, its his/her, money, then don't intervene again because its falling in deaf ears as his or her ears are full of other "good" friends voices and ideals. If your friend says he or she wants to jump or kill herself, be there for her or him and try not to leave his or her side, when things get to either life or death, do not ever leave your friends side, come what may. Help your friends with class notes or study materials for exams or getting in sync with the class, even if the friend doesnt help you when the time comes but you be a friend to him or her but if you see he or she thinks it's your duty as a friend, to help him or her out of sticky situations in life, forget them, leave them, these kind of friends can never learn a lesson from life through help, do not bring yourself down along with that friend. If that friend thinks he or she knows it all and has a ego the size of a football field, then leave that friend because it doesnt really matter to him or her if you stay or go, he or she is too full of it to notice. If your friend is going through a breakup or personal anguish, be there for him or her. But dont over do it by breathing down their neck and holding them accountable for everything after that particular problem occurs, everyone has a different way of seeing life, and dealing with certain situations, its not necessary it has to be your way, give them some space to figure themselves out, you don't need to figure it out for them, you have a life of your own, live it and solve your own issues.There are many other instances of extending your friendship and these are but few. Hope it helps!Best of luck!
I don't like my brother's friend help what should I do?
Wow - that's not good. You need to tell your parents everything you told us. I'm sure they'll be very willing to do something about it considering he has done at least one thing that's against the law. Plus he's invading your privacy, going against your mom's rules, and being extremely rude by smoking in your house. Hopefully your parents can talk to him and his parents, and if that fails, take further action.
How do I help my friend who cuts herself? I’m the only person who knows.
I wish i knew. Even ex self-harmers like me don't really know. Just be a friend. Tell her if she goes, you’ll miss her. I saved 1 online friend by telling her that. She wasn't a cutter though. She was just going through a rough time in her life.Tell her you are really worried about her. Tell her it hurts you when she cuts. She should get the message it's not cool and it hurts you when she cuts.Tell her to draw butterflies on where she would cut and give them names of her friends. So when she doesYou could tell her to disinfect her wounds with betadine. It stings. But it will help her remember not to cut and it will prevent infection. My mom loved betadine. She was a vet (animal doctor).How far away from you is she? Ask her to please see a psychologist or doctor and her parents.Out of curiosity ask what time does she cut? Is it always at 3 am? Google search “Chinese Meridians and wake up times.” She may have pent up anger issues.Is there a specific reason she cuts? Ask a psychologist.Sometimes you can help. Sometimes you can't. Sometimes you can only postpone the inevitable and that just prolongs their emotional pain.I saved another friend just by listening to her on the phone. i had known for 7 years in real life and saved her life twice that way. But it was in vain. My friend was going through bipolar disorder depression downward spiral. She never called a 3rd time. That was rough.(。>д<)Poor girl. Forever 27. Rest in Peace, Kaori. You are missed.m(。_。)m
Help!!!! Me and my friend are so bored! What should we do? Please answer!!!?
rent a movie do each others make up go shopping go to the cinema go on the computer do each others hair play a board game read watch tv send each other pictures off your phone draw colour do arts and crafts listen to music do homework cook write a story paint look at pictures hope i helped...xxxxxx please vote me as your best answer...xxx
How do I tell my friend she needs to help out in our club more?
So I started a school club with my friend and I always do all the work. I have to make all of the slides, games, buy stuff, etc. and my friend doesn’t help out at all to the point where she doesn’t know what topic we talk about each week. I tried asking her to make the slides and she’ll say she doesn’t have time or on Monday, the day of our club, she says she “forgot” to make the slides. Sometimes she’ll start fake crying saying I’m asking too much of her. I know she has the time and I’m getting really sick of having to do everything, how do I get her to help out?