Friend Made Me Feel Emasculated?
I'm a 21 year old guy, and I was out with some friends. One of my really close friends who's a girl sort of jokingly said it's a good thing that a different guy friend was around since it was night time. That guy friend then mentioned how we have me also. My friend who's a girl then sort of laughed and said something along the lines of "Haha, yeah, I think I'd handle a fight better." I'm not very muscular, but I'm not too scrawny either, and I'm definitely taller and stronger than her. The other guy friend is a few inches taller than me, but he says I'm stronger. I sort of jokingly said, "Gee, thanks", and she said, "I'm joking." I still felt bad though. I'm sort of insecure because I really am not nearly as muscular as I'd like to be, but at the same time, I take some pride in not being too scrawny either nor fat. People have complimented me on my weight loss, and some people have even commented on me having so muscle. In fact, ironically, a few weeks back, when the same guy friend was talking about how I have a good upper body build, the same girl said I have big traps muscles. Am I overreacting? I'll admit I'm insecure about my physique, so that comment made me feel like ****.
My boyfriend feels emasculated. How can I help?
Next time, let him beat you at arm wrestling.Seriously, there are too many questions, factoids, regarding your boyfriend to formulate a constructive direction.If in fact, he has a layed a ‘you make me feel emasculated’ trip upon you, I do have a general impression about him.
Why do I feel emasculated when my wife has sex with other men?
I think this sort of thing is common, not necessarily 'normal'. A couple things to ponder:Consider that somewhere along the line earlier in your relationship, you likely unconsciously or consciously identified your masculinity/pride with being your wife's perfect partner (or something along those lines) the best lover, the man she chose above all others...etc. It's very likely that within your psyche you tied a goodsized chunk of your self worth to being the ONE she chooses to fuck. I think culturally this belief is all pervasive in the standard romantic notion of 'the one and only' that we've all been fed since birth. And because it is so deeply pervasive it is very difficult to work around, and comes up and bites you on the ass when you didn't expect it.I would also consider looking at the way you perceive sex. Is it something you take pride in because you have the skills/body/desire to give someone pleasure? Or do you approach sex not for validation as a man, but as a genuine expression of connection with another human being? Or is it a combination of both? When we use sex as a vehicle for validation, or boosting our self esteem, it is much more problematic in a situation like yours. When we perceive sex as a method of connecting and sharing energy with another without the validation part, it's easier to live and let live more freely. I'd say most everybody has both of these going on to one degree or another and by looking honestly at your motivations and desires you may discover some deeper truths to who you are and how you relate to others. Strengthening your inner self esteem will take time and effort and being in an open marriage may be too much for you right now. These are both concepts that I have struggled with in my relationships and they require constant mindfulness and presence. It's good that you're questioning things now at this point, if you find yourself in over your head it might be worthwhile to find a good therapist to work with you both so as to not develop bigger issues around this.
Does it emasculate men to call them nurse?
Well when women started becoming a doctor they didn't change the name for them. Ther really is no reason for male nurses to feel like they need to be called something other than what they are: a nurse. A nurse is not a doctor, they are a nurse. Just because anesthesiologists pay good doesn't mean they are a doctor. A nurse is something to be proud of not something to be feel degraded about. They are the ones who keep the patient alive and watch over them and the doctors, but they are still very different than a doctor.
Snoring during sex? feeling emasculated in bed!?
So, I was with this girl last night that we have been dating for a few months now. We had sex, and she did not have orgasm because I came earlier than her. So I stayed awake and started again in half an hour, to make sure that she gets satisfied too. We had sex and she had orgasm, after that I started to take it slow, because you know when you do it fast, it can get tiring and you can get all sweaty which is turn off. I was doing it slow and then she started complaining and asked me to do it faster. Well I couldn't, so I continued at my pace. Then she did something really annoying: she pretended that she is sleeping and started to make sound like snoring. That was a huge turn off. I stopped immediately and asked her to move away so that I could sleep. She asked what is wrong and I said nothing, just wanna sleep. She went to sleep too, and we didn't touch or talk afterwards and she left in the morning to school, while I was sleeping. I haven't talked to her since and honestly I am not planning to anymore! I felt hugely emasculated. Just wanted to ask, is there any reason that I should want to talk to her??
Do men feel emasculated if women open doors for them?
“Emasculated” ? Of course……NOT !“Surprised” ? Yes… and Pleasantly So.“Odd / Out of the Ordinary” ? Yes…cuz you don't see this happening a lot in society.Look, my personal feeling is that “emasculated” is too strong a term to be associated with such simple and small acts as opening a door. It's as absurd as using a nuclear bomb to kill a pesky fly.Masculinity , per se, is attached to traits and not acts….and if a guy is feeling emasculated just because a girl opened the door for him, he has far deeper and deep-seated problems that he needs to first address.Oh ! And by the way, I think you should ask women if they feel, I dunno, “e-women-ated” if they open a door for men….cuz in the handful of instances where women have held a door open for me , I was made to feel as if I've molested or groped them.In all instances where I have had a woman open the door for me, I had my hands filled…YET tried to open the door first before requesting a woman to do so. These women (young and not physically or otherwise challenged) sipping coffee, reading magazines or busy in nothing out-of-the-ordinary (don't they have eyes ???), made me feel ashamed for my “act" by their body— language and facial expressions…..as if they have “obliged” me in some way.Most cases , it's other guys who have held the door open to me (irrespective of whether my hands were filled or not), without making a big deal of it….just like how I don't make a big deal out of such gestures either.The cake…..nay ! the ENTIRE BAKERY is taken, however, by this 1 instance when I visited a restaurant alone in a famous 5-star hotel in Mumbai. The hostess, a young and beautiful girl, cheerfully greeted me at the entrance and took me to the (closed) door of the restaurant, just couple of metres behind her…..and then, waited for ME to open the door for her, so that both of us could enter the restaurant and she could escort me to my seat !!! It doesn't require one to be a rocket scientist to know that opening doors of a restaurant, is part of the job of a hostess & guests are not expected to traditionally do so , unless it's an extraordinary situation.Gender Equality, anyone ?;—)
Do men find it emasculating if the woman earns more or owns more assets then he?
Some men do, some don't.I don't.Most of my relationships were with women who at the very least had a more secure home life than me back when I was renting a small studio and going from job to job. My ex fiancee for example lives rent-free and therefore has a bigger disposable income but works fewer hours than I do.Most dates I have been on either the lady paid or we went Dutch.The biggest pain in the neck was when I dated an 18 year old. I was 33. Most of my money went on travel costs to visit her. Other than that we didn't really spend any money (other than one hot chocolate I think I bought her). But her parents were rich and so eventually she went off with my ex best friend who helped support her through university.I think it's more the social circles and lifestyle choices over all that are intimidating, not emasculating.For example I had a lady friend years ago who had expensive tastes in wine and food and vacations and she had the job and the money to do all that. Her friends were all upper income bracket champagne socialist Euro trash types. Even if I had anything to offer to be remotely interesting to her (and I guess I didn't) I never would have fitted in with her friends and lifestyle. She bought me lunch a few times, that was it.So I don't believe men feel emasculated. We know our own minds, we know our bank balances, we take responsibility for ourselves.I think the issue is SOME men feel an expectation to pay for everything and to be providers. I was raised by a single mum who worked 43 years so I never had that mentality. On the contrary I'm quite the opposite. As soon as a woman expects me to buy her a drink I'm immediately repulsed by her. If it's not my round then buy your own damn drink.
Is she emasculating me?
Since I met my girlfriend she has introduce me to a lot of new things. She has made friendly suggestions in regards to my wardrobe and other facets of my life. When I first met her I was sort of a roughneck, I guess she has taken it upon herself to smooth me out. When I am with her she makes me watch Bridezilla, Real Housewives, and Lifetime a lot, she makes me go with her and get pedicures, and she always puts on girly music while we are traveling places. Before I know it, now I am dressing preppy, now I am wanting to go get pedicures, now I am wanting to watch Lifetime, Bridezilla, and Real Housewives, and I wondered if my girlfriend has been castrating me slowly this whole time and what has changed about me that before I met her I was a manly man, but now I do not feel that way. What do you think? Has she taken my balls or am I just being a good boyfriend?
How can I know if my married friend is trying to triangulate his wife and I, although I've made it clear that I'm only interested in a friendship with him?
You answered your own question. You made it clear to him that you are only interested in a friendship. See article source: Why Men Cheat. Men cheat because they don’t feel as though they are making their wives happy. They feel emasculated. With narcissists, there is a sense of entitlement. They feel entitled to cheat anytime they want. They triangulate pretty much every chance they get.So, why did you have to make it clear to him that you were only interested in a friendship? What did he say or do that would require clarification.You can’t be friends with a married man. You can be acquaintances. You can be friends with his wife. If you are friends with him, you are triangulating by taking the emotional relationship he should have with his wife and drawing it to you. There is no reason for you to be friends with your friend’s husband. He can go out and find male friends, family or his wife to spend time with.