Is my friend using me for money?
some people need boundaries otherwise they will continually cross them until they are enforced. she is one of those people. I think she truly does want to be your friend, but she is also taking advantage of you because you are letting her. the true test will be when you stop lending her money. if she remains your friend then you will have your answer. dont jump to conclusions right now and assume she is ONLY friends with you because you lend her money, because I honestly really dont think that is the case. but you really do need to stop spoiling her because otherwise shes just going to keep asking for more stuff. she doesnt mean to be a bad person, she just assumes you would say no if you really didnt want to buy her something. its not really her fault if you can't learn how to say no. obviously dont buy her a phone for her birthday. buy her something little. or heck, just tell her you're letting her off the hook for all that money she borrowed and that will be your present to her. (because trust me, you're never getting that money back from her anyway.) and STOP lending her money. just stop. you dont have to be rude about it, but be firm. next time you guys make plans to go out to eat, you might want to remind her that she has to pay for her own food. if she doesnt have money, then either eat at home or figure out something free to do together. and a little bit of wisdom I've picked up over the years is that you should never borrow anyone money expecting to be repaid. because it wont happen. if you're ever going to borrow someone money, just give it freely as a gift or dont give it at all. unfortunately, thats just how it has to be.cause you dont want to have to resent anyone or have things get ugly.
Are my friends using me?
i feel like i always go out of my way for my friends, but they never give anything back :( examples: my grandparents have a house that backs-up to a lake. it's really nice in the summers because we can go swimming off their dock, go water skiing/tubing, ride boats, and do the little things they have in the lake town (put-put, go-carts, plays etc~). my grandparents let me invite a friend over during the summer also. one of my friends i invited over for a week. my grandparents spend a lot of money on us, and it was really fun! but a few months later at my friend's birthday party, she showed off this picture of her and two of our other friends she invited to a roller-coaster park a month or so after i invited her to my grandparents house :( i felt really used...like it would have be the nice thing to do to invite me to go, right? i invited another girl the next summer, and she did the same thing (different place though)!!! i stopped inviting people after that. one of them begged for me to sign-up with her for track and field. i was nervous (im not very social) but i was really happy to be doing something outside of class with one of my "friends." so i signed up, and the first day of practice i walked into school feeling great for the first time in awhile, but then she ran up to me and said, "i've decided to do winter-guard (a form or color-guard) instead. im sorry!" i used to buy everyone valentines candy, but every year it seems like i am the only person who's handing anything out. sometimes, though, a girl will hand candy around, but she'll forget about mine, and feel guilty that i bought her a gift and MAYBE give me a gift the next day if she remembers :( they never tell me when they're all going to the movies or out to eat or anything. i get to find out the next day when they're all laughing at the inside jokes they made :( i asked them to please invite me out the next time they went somewhere, but the next day, i one of my friends wrote on facebook, "whooo! everyone's havin a great time at the pool!" (a community pool) then tagged all of their names. by then couldnt take it anymore and i told them they were horrible friends, but then THEY got mad at ME!!! was i wrong for getting mad at them? i feel like they're just using me, but am i the one in the wrong? i feel so hurt :(
Is my friend using me for money?
I mean I have lent her money a couple of times and she told me she will repay me back and she never did plus I have noticed that she has stolen things from me. She also asks for me to buy her stuff and says she will repay me later do you think she really has no money or she is just plain using me pls help me i thought she was a good friend :((
How do I deal with a long time friend who uses me for money, without losing the friendship?
I have a friend who is constantly using me for money, wanting me to buy her things whether it be makeup, food, clothes, and other things. Even if I don't say yes, she'll look at me and grab them anyways and put me in a position where I feel like I have to pay. She rarely ever gets me anything in return, and only really ever takes. I've known her for 20 years, and don't want to give up this friendship. I'm afraid if I stop treating her, she'll drop me completely.
Does my boyfriend love me, or is he using me for money? He asks me to pay the bills and is always busy with his friends.
You already know the answer, but your afraid to admit it to yourself. He’s using you, if you keep giving him money? He will keep using you, don’t let this go on. No one can use you unless you let them, so stop sending him any money. Your wasting your time and money on someone that doesn’t want to spend time with you. I’m sorry if I hurt you but you needed to hear the truth. You deserve to be with someone who wants to spend time with you-Move on and don’t look back, your future is waiting for you-Good Luck-
How do I know if my friend is using me?
It will be really painful to have been used by our closed one, so called Friend! We may feel lost and confused when we try to figure it out. Who knows? We may even lose trust on others around us. Some of the behaviour patterns from which you can be sure of your friend using you areFriend in Need is a Friend Indeed - Notice if he/she wants you only when in need of something. A real friend will always want to hear you everyday, if not, at least every week.Trust Matters - A real friend doesn’t betray the secrets that you shared with him/her, particularly in a way that could damage you.Access Denied - A real friend want to take you along with him/her whereever he/she goes. That means he/she will never exclude you from any plans or events. Friends don’t need to invite each other everytime but a friend who never invites you to anything, should be confronted with your suspicions.Actions Speak Louder Than Words - A real friend will keep his/her words; will appreciate even a small favour you do; and will promise to return the favour!Bossy Attitude - If your friend is always trying to control you with his/her and never ask you for suggestions, he/she may be definitely using you.These are the important actions that confirms your friend is using you. The best way come out of this confused state and clear yourself is, asking your friend directly. More than these points, Trust your Instincts!Prepare yourself what you want to ask for, look for a nice private spot where you and your friend can spend some time alone, wait for the time, figure out his mood and shoot up your questions only if your friend is ready to answer. Speak calmly, express what you feel and ask what’s in your mind.Every Problem in this World has a Solution and that’s YOU!Thank you for reading!
How do you deal with a friend asking for money?
I’ll repeat an answer I just gave now: Right now, today, we’re suing a man - he used to be a great friend of my father of the old, old times - that a decade ago asked my father to lend him 50 grant, twice - so a hundred grant in total. He was a GREAT friend. A wealthy enough man too. But he just “forgot” to pay it back. And as time passed, he was being less of a good friend. Soon, his wife started disliking my dad - no reason. Then he stopped showing up. Now, you don’t want to know how the thing is. Really. So we’re suing. There’s no more friendship.I know much about life. Not nearly everything one needs to live in the best way possible - but a lot. One of the things is “JUST LEND SOMETHING YOU’D GIVE.” Another one is “PEOPLE HATE TO OWE”. There’s also “EVERYONE HATES THE ONE THEY OWE SOMETHING TO.” It’s human nature. Remember these if you wanna profit from other’s experiences.This brings us back to grandpa. He was a very wealthy man - owned many apartment buildings, important companies and the land of a strategic hill in this city. Nowadays he’s a broke old man who owns nothing more than a small house in the country side. THAT’S CAUSE HE MIXED DOING BUSINESS WITH TRUSTING FRIENDS. ‘Nuff said, I hope. Only a few years ago he finally quit his very real plan to physically exterminate the ones who betrayed him so disgustingly and robbed him of everything he had - including his sanity for many years, and much of his self-dignity. And as soon as he did, they all died in months, one so guilty that he wouldn't die until he received my grandpa's forgiveness. And when he did, guy died squeezing my grandpa's hand. Funny how things work.I much rather saying ‘no’ than losing a friend, getting an enemy, losing cash AND face. Do you not? Not to mention true, worthy friends have a 0,0000000001% chance of ever asking for any money in a lifetime.The fastest route to lose a friend and gain an enemy is by lending.
Is my female friend using me?
I met this woman at college last semester. So one time when i took her out she said we were just friends. I paid for her lunch that day, and i even got her a birthday present(it was cheap). Now since we were just friends i was expecting not to pay for anything no more. I took her to the movies two months ago, and guess what she brought her friend with her. Now when we got to the movies, and it was time to pay. I asked are they going to pay for there tickets, because she told me before that she likes buying her own stuff. But she told me that she only does when she has the money. So i had to buy my female friend's ticket, and her other friends ticket. I felt like a sucker that day. I haven't took her out ever since then. Then she only text me when she needs something, like last week she wanted me to actually take her to a festival because she was bored. Guess what i would probably have to pay for that too. Is my female friend using me because i don't see why i should spend money on a woman i am not dating.
What do I do when my friends only use me just for my money?
Stop letting the money flow as freely. Ask your friends to just hang out watching netflix or something that doesn’t cost much.If they still do it and have fun, then it’s not just for the money. If they don’t , then you know. If that’s the case, when you make new friends, don’t let them know you have money. Just do low key stuff, and don’t offer to pay for their part.Keep in mind that money does play a part in getting relationships going sometimes. Lots of beautiful women are married to ugly or fat or nerdy rich guys. I even know of a model who’s married to an orange guy with weird hair that insults everyone. But they still love and have kids, etc. it just started with wealth and beauty.