Feeling down and friendless, advice?
Of late I've been feeling a bit down, I've been in a rut for some time now and I'm trying so desperately to hold on to anything. Recently I have made some choices to point my life in a different direction and haven't been involved in some of the things I used to. Because of this, I feel I have drastically dropped in the amount of people I can talk to. I have some amazing roommates but I almost feel like they smile politely but don't care and definitely don't try to hide it. I took a trip home this past weekend but almost felt like a stranger in my own home. I guess I have been trying so hard to relate and to just have a good time but there is something that is blocking this and I have no idea what it is or how to fix it. It's been made quite clear that I'm the problem and I realize and am trying so hard. I guess I just feel like I can't win and it's killing me. I want to be happy and be accepted for who I am. Does anyone have any advice? Ways to work on keeping friends, winning old ones back, connecting with my family? I have obviously done something wrong but I can't figure it out. Maybe it's this rut I'm in. Any advice, words of wisdom, anything would be completely welcome.
Friendless high school senior, need advice?
Hello :) I can make perfect sense of your "rambling". I also am an introvert and it is hard for me to make or keep friends, because I am really bad about keeping up with communication. In my earlier HS years, I was really shy and didnt have too many friends, but as I got older and more confident, I started being more outgoing, and soon I was friends with almost everyone in my school (I went to a small private school with only about 70 other people). Currently, I am a Sophomore in college. What I can tell you is whether you are an introvert or extrovert doesnt really matter, if you are still living at home, like me, seeing as my college is right down the road. But if you will be living on campus, or off campus in an apartment, being an introvert may well be a bad thing. You will be lonely when you see everyone else hanging out with their friends all over campus, whilst you just go to class and then home to your dorm or apartment. The good thing is, people in college for the most part are more mature. Rarely drama or gossiping. So it could be really easy to make friends. As for me, I went back to my introverted ways, and now I have only one friend. I also dont have a Facebook because I decided to delete mine. I mostly had kids i went to HS with as my friends and I pretty much lost contact with them, so I figure whats the use. Please just make an effort to be outgoing. It will be much easier for you in college. Just dont lead a boring, lonely life like I am right now. I too, need to change and make friends. Good luck to both of us :P
How can I accept being friendless in my 40s? No one wants to be my friend.
You do realize that there are millions of people out there who say the exact same thing, right? Many times, friendless people are that way because they don't put themselves in the RIGHT places to meet others with like minds. For instance, if you don't drink, don't try to meet others in a bar. If you don't play/like sports, don't go to the soccer field and expect to meet others who share your exact same top interests. Make a list of ALL the things you DO enjoy that may be shared with others, and look for online, local, nearby groups that do them. Another good place to find people “wanting” to be friendly is at religious/volunteer organizations, so perhaps try there as well. Remember, you are NEVER truly alone, you are surrounded by MILLIONS of people who are potential “besties,” but you have to stop looking at the glass as “half full,” (“NOONE wants to be my friend,) and instead, lift it in a toast, and say “CHEERS to new friends!”
Why am I alone and friendless?
I have no friends, I don't do any activities. I draw, that's about it. I dislike myself, and wish I was someone else. I'm only 17, and this is not how I imagined I would be spending my teenage years. I have been in college since I was 15 and still no friends. I even avoid my family. What is the matter with me? And I don't need statements like "There is nothing wrong with you", I just want an answer. I have near perfect grades, but I feel no accomplishment. Oh,and please no Jesus answers. I don't have anything against religion, but I would rather not have to receive advice based on a metaphysical concept. I think it would be better if I were to disappear, or cease to exist. One last thing, I don't need "Life is going to get better" comments either. Unless you have some psychic ability, you don't know that. I've dedicated my life to studying, but that is not enough for me anymore. I am sorry that I am not very organized with this question, but I'm not feeling well. Please just give me some answers here, and if you have none, move on. I don't want or need your sympathy.
Serious advice needed urgently?
What do you do when you worry so much about how lonely and friendless you were in the past is ruining your life, im constantly worried and depressed that my life will go back to the way it was before every friend i had fell out with out me, and the small few friends i have now i feel is off with me or have a problem with me, i fear im never goin g to find a best friend, ive recently started seeing a boy and im trying to keep a balance of him and my friends but i feel my friends arew forgetting me and i dont hear from them unless i contact them. I feel so bad im letting my hygine and apperance go, im almost 27 and i feel im spending my whole life worrying ill have no friends again, sometimes i wonder whats the poit, its easy to say go out and make more friends but where? i dont have groups andplaces like that here, im driveing my boy away by clinging to him incase my friends cut me off, im always sad and down
Middle school! Friendless?
I start junior high (7th grade) on September 8th and I'm really scared. I don't have any friends at all (because I'm the smartest kid in school and am writing a book) and I was wondering how to make some new ones. Also, how do I not get lost on the first day? And how can I change my look without seeming like a poser? This summer I threw out my old stuff and got things from Hollister/American Eagle/Urban Outfitters. Any advice is good advice!
A Friendless Summer???
Im currently in the midst of my summer vacation before I start my senior year of H.S, and Im dying of absolute boredom. I only have a few friends in school, but they are all busy either on vacation or at camps and are never able to hang out, leaving me with nothing to do. Ive finished my summer reading and so many other books, that Ive gotten sick of reading. My parent tell me to study for the ACT, which Ive been doing occasionally, but I don't think its fair that I have to spend my last high school vacation (because next summer ill be getting ready for college) doing nothing. I already volunteer at the local hospital a few days a week, and have hobbies, which leaves me nothing to do. Im also sick of playing xbox and watching tv. Both my brother and sister are ALWAYS out, leaving me alone. I can't go on vacation either because my parents have to work. I honestly don't know what to do with my life.
What should you do when you feel totally "friendless"?
I feel the same, rather I felt the same and sometimes it feels I am a third wheel among my friends and it irritates the hell out of me, if not depressed! They would talk about things I had no idea of, and I used to sit there clueless as to what was going on. Other few times, I could go away and they still wouldn't notice I did! The doubts of them ignoring me gnawed at me and slapped right on my face making me more cautious of the next time I spent time with them and slowly, the doubts intensified, the distance tripled and we drifted apart. I lost my friends.I wish I knew then that they weren't ignoring me. I wish I knew what to have done to not have lost some of my friends. And, it was simple. I only had to believe in them and trust them that they wouldn't abandon me. The seed of doubt of them ignoring me, if at all it wasn't there in the first place, I would have had them in my friend circle to this day. I shouldn't have felt self-conscious, and you shouldn't too. The feeling that I wasn't to their standards is something I should have cut and put at bay, and that is what you should be doing! You may not have anything to contribute to the conversation, but you can always lend an ear and add in your opinion time to time to show them you actually are listening to them. You don't have to talk; you can listen. But you should make sure you let them know you are listening to them. And, how you do that is up to you. In the meanwhile, you should also be doing these things: Go out and make new friendsSeriously! You are in a college, and you have thousands and hundreds to make friends with. Don't miss the chance. Unless you put yourself out for others, you won't be able to befriend people, and who knows, maybe you will find your twin, a person who thinks like you and wouldn't that be perfect? Know yourself Know what conversations interest you.Know what kind of 'fun' you love.Know what gets you excited. Explore within you and in that attempt you are sure to find others who happen to match your frequency. Oh, I also went ahead and bothered a complete stranger to let go of my frustration, but it helps too. Smile, and think good. You are friendless when you have left yourself at the mercy of others, and until then, you have you, and you are never without a friend. Good luck!
Is it okay to chose to be friendless for a while?
Yes it is, it is very hard to find real friends now-a-days.
Why am I friendless and antisocial?
Let me give you some advice; Be the change you wish to see.If you want to be social, then be social. You need to start approaching people. I can link you to plenty of readings and psychological guides to achieving social freedoms, but you need the field experience. You need to go out and practice your social skills.Highschool was an amazing time for me, I was a very outgoing kid. I was a popular kid, throughout my entire school. I was cool with the nerds, the geeks, the jocks, etc. you name it. I wasn't afraid to make friends and talk to kids like you, who I could tell, wanted the interactions but didn't know how to achieve it.It is easy to approach people and begin conversation. You just ask them questions, answer questions. The basics like name/classes etc. And then continue to talk about current trends, stay trendy and embark on endless conversations and enjoy their presence. Don't force interactions, if they seem cold, okay move on.With practice you will become less forced and go with the flow more. You will learn how to read body language. You will realize how much easier it was to become outgoing, and achieve the level of sociable you want to be.Here are a few readings for you;10 Useful Tips To Make New FriendsHow To Make Friends As An Adult In 4 Simple StepsMaking Friends is Easier Than You Think8 Ways To Use Psychology To Get More FriendsHope you go out there and gain new friends!