How do I deal with fake friends?
Well ive been hanging with this group of 3 other guys for about 3-4 years. recently (past 4-5 months) they havent been inviting me to most places and hangout / go places without me. They act all cool in person and nice but over the phone (texting) they ignore me and reply with simple stuff like "k" "idk" every time I ask if they can hangout they say "idk maybe" I dont want to call them out cause they would probably make a big deal out of it... they make a big deal out of everything, i really go out of my way to be nice a lot and they are ***-holes. Im on summer break right now and its been a month and a half and ive only hungout with them about 3 times. How do I deal with this? I dont want to just stop hanging out with them... they have been my good friends for a long time I feel it would be really weird if I just stopped hanging out with them... They stress me out SO much... what should I do? by the way, Im in Highschool, Going into junior year in a month.
How can I deal with ex-best friends?
I don’t understand the question because if he/she is an ex friend there is nothing to deal with but I am guessing that you have to interact with the ex friend anyway.The best and simplest way to deal with it, in my opinion, is be up front and don’t bullshit around. Try to be as objective and neutral as possible when it comes to conversation. Never let any anger or irritation or any other negative or vulnerable feeling come up that might give an indication to the ex friend that you still consider him/her close enough to let in on your personal shit.Be a good listener but also be very careful how you respond. Try to answer to the best of your capabilities without keeping in mind his or her shortcoming or weakness whenever the ex friend seeks advice.Most important of all, draw lines and boundaries. You cannot talk in the same endearing or thoughtful way you used to. You cannot hug and stuff like you used to. Be very very clear about the fact that that person is not a friend anymore through your gestures and body language. You cannot be the same person around the ex friend now as you were before.Bottom line is, tone everything down a notch and be a little stoic, like you would with someone you just met. Most important of all know the distance you need to keep now.
How do u deal with Emo- friends?
What do you mean exactly by "how do you deal?" Emo is short for "emotion" therefore an Emo kid is an emotional person who shows it by their attitude and style. So if you are wondering "how to deal" with them when they are having an emotional and dramatic moment...depending how serious it it, talk to them to calm them down and give them good advice or just ignore it if it is going to cause you to be pulled into drama you don't want to be pulled into. Now if you mean "how to deal" when it comes to treating and behaving around one...then treat them as any other person. After all, they are "human beings"....they just wish to have a certain "name class" stamped on them. If they are your friend, be a friend. You need to elaborate your question a little because I don't know exactly what you are asking.
How do you deal with jealous friends?
In my mind, I take them as snake who can bite whenever they get chances. So, I avoid them most of the time. But in front of them, I just praise them to the highest (and do not forget to inform them that I envy them!).
How to deal with this "obsessive" friend?
I agree about not throwing people away, but sometimes some people want way too much of us. It is a form of selfishness, she is taking from you and not giving in return. She takes your time, your energy and your patience. She will not respect your boundaries and has no consideration for your needs. I had a friend like this once, she drained and drained me, but I put up with it because she needed me. Then something bad happened in my life and I needed her to be there for me as I was constantly there for her, and guess what, she dumped me because she didn't want to listen to my problems. Try to gently detach from this person. Pretend your phone is out of order, or go out of town for a few days. Be diplomatically 'sick' for a while. Break her habit of constantly contacting you. I think if you try to be honest with her she will take it the wrong way and things could get scary. Don't forget, all she can see are her own needs in this friendship and not yours, so even if you talk to her gently about needing space she will feel rejected and then vent on you.
How should I deal with my wishy-washy friend?
I have the same problem, and although your friend may be different, I've learnt that there isn't really anything you can do. You have to either accept the friendship for what it is, and come to terms with the fact that she will never be someone who'll drop everything for you when you need her - or you move on. You could try talking to her if you really value the friendship, but be aware that it still may not get you very far. Maybe she'll apologise - maybe it will work for a while, but before long, she may slip back into her old ways again. Once a fairweather friend, always a fairweather friend. Obviously she's going through a hard time at the moment, but if she's treated you this way for years, then it isn't really an excuse. The other poster was right - she is far too wrapped up in her own problems to realise that just maybe she isn't the only one who needs a bit of attention now and then. Let her know that you want to be there for her but that you are sick of always having to be the one to make the effort. But whether it makes a difference or not, you should still tell her how you feel. It never helps to nurture bad feeling - you have to release it. I held on to the resentment for a long time, and now the friendship is irrepairable either way. Tell her the truth and then give her some space to evaluate what's important to her. Maybe once she loses her support system, it will hit home just how her behaviour pushes people away. And if she continues only ever getting in touch when times are hard, then end the friendship. It's sweet that you want to be there for her and you're obviously a good friend, but her happiness isn't your responsibility - and a one-sided friendship is no good to you or your self-esteem.