Girlfriend Twists my words?
My girlfriend has a mother who is sick and she wanted to send her money. I wanted the address so I can personally send it off western union but when I ask she gets mad at me and says she always gives it to someone who sends it for her. She screamed at me and got very angry at me because I said I don't want to drive 30 miles to get the address and instead wanted the person to tell me the address over the phone. This has caused a big fight, I don't know why its weird. But she cursed at me and was very angry at me not able to talk. She makes me out to be a very bad guy to her family all the time over simple things and I don't get it. Please help
My friend always has to twist my words! what do I do?
When ever I say something like "oh the weather's nice today" she comes back and says "yeah but I'd like it if it was nicer" and although it would be she always ends up as you say "splitting hairs" and always has to find a way to disagree. What do I do? If I say "yeah but I was just saying that it it's nice" she will gat annoyed and we have this other friend and she's really good friends with her as well so if I say something she'll just go off with her! What exactly do I say? Any suggestions at all! I don't mind. Just please help!
Friends twist my words?
Just realised that two of my friends have twisted my words around and claimed i have said things about people that aren't true. As of now i am no longer friends with them and no longer wish to be. How do i let them know and deal with this? I really cannot be stuffed confronting them about it then having both of them deny it.
My "Best friend" twisted my words....what do i do?
my "bestie" was trash talking someone and i happen to knwo the person really well, i, being stupid, defended this somone, my friend then turned around and told the someone that i said HE was trash talking HER....i know its confusing but should i confront her about twisting my words and lying or should i just dump her as a friend and not confrtont her?
How do i get out of the habit of twisting words around i dont mean to its just how i interpret things?
You have your guard up and it sounds like you take things personally. Maybe you could pause yourself and think about how you are perceiving things before you talk. Just a suggestion but try keeping a journal that you write in everyday. You can write everything thats going on or has happened and then when you are done you can read what you wrote. Over some time you will be able to look at what you have written and see where your sensitive and maybe how you rush to judge in certain situations. Journaling is very therapeutic and it is a great way to process feelings and emotions. I started doing it when I was in college and I still do it now.
How do you deal with people twisting your words around or projecting things onto you?
It's highly disappointing. This happens most often with very honest people. Their honesty and truthfulness is a character which is 'too true to be true'. It's being expressed in the proverb 'Straight trees are cut easily'. They need to be alert while talking especially in the workplace. One should be alert when boss fires. The person who heard manipuated information is also innocent most of the time. These manipulators make good team with other manipulators. They keep one honest person in target at a time and all, at various situation fill the boss's mind with all well crafted filth about the victim. So, very often the leader hears same type of complaint about the victim. So, finally, the leader starts believing that the person in reference is really a wrong fit. This victimised person is unaware of all these and so he never had a chance to share any word with the leader. So, one fine day, the boss, fed up of all these, fires this honest person out and others rejoice the event and get satisfied with their ego.Such people are highly creative enough to talk ill of of someone specially if one is selflessly outstanding in their work. But, crafty people don't understand the fact that such people think a lot before they talk and hence they remember each word they speak.The moment someone gives them false blame, they even remember every step of their thought process and they are sure of what they spoke. These people cannot defend themselves on the spot because their heart, mind and tongue are clear and are in co-ordination. And everytime, each false blame is unexpected for them. They think what they feel and they speak what they think.So, it is better honest people understand their trustworthyness and move on with life and leave the rest to the universe. If humanbeings don't trust the honest person's honesty, still, one should not get heart broken because there's the UNIVERSE to keep a watch on such pure, childlike souls.When the torture becomes unbearable, the kind Universe or the Positive energy will slowly lift them up from that dirt and place them softly elsewhere and this new place will again be tested over a period of time by the Universe.So, Trust your truthfulness and leave the rest to the Universe. Craftiness or manipulation is possible only at human level and not above that…
My friend thinks that using the word feminism sends a wrong signal to people that women want to rule over men. How do I persuade her that the word itself is not at fault, but the people trying to twist its meaning are?
You don’t, because it’s irrelevant.Where the blame lies does not matter. If you manage to persuade your friend that the word itself is not at fault, that will not change the facts of the matter at all, and it will not necessarily do anything to change her opinion on the proper use of the word.The issue is how the word affects people. Does it actually send the wrong message? Then it doesn’t matter whether the problem lies with the word itself, or with subversive people. Does it not? Then you should be trying to argue that point, directly.Once the issue at hand is settled, then you can worry about where the fault lies, if it does at all. If the word does not send the wrong message, then there is nothing more to be done. But if you end up accepting, like your friend, that it does send the wrong message, then you can take up the far more productive task of trying to figure out how to repair that failure of communication. And only at that point does it become relevant to consider whether the best course is to change the word, or to try to change the people.
Why do people twist your words, when what you said is easily and wholly easy to find?
Because they want to get their message across and don’t care about you. In many cases they are working against you and are creating misinformation to mislead the public or others. Even if the truth is easy to find, if they twist your words enough and repeat it enough, eventually some will start to believe them. They count on people not thinking for themselves or fact-checking the claims.
How to get rid of my backstabbing "friend"?
i had a friend like that, i stopped talking to her and after 2 years we recently started to mend our friendship but she still hasnt changed since, because she twist my words around as well. just distance yourself from her and get some new friends, shell probly start to see that shes the problem eventually
Do covert narcissists twist your words around making it seem like you "threatened" them? In turn, trying to lay on the guilt trip?
I’ve never heard of a covert narcissist. However I really recognise your description of twisting everything into a threat.He was a master at it. Though when later questioned about what he insisted you had said, he’d give multiple different versions in the same explanation, each more aggressive than the last.On one occasion I challenged his re-interpretation of something I had said. He gave me his ‘quote’. I gave him my recollection. He insisted on ‘quote (ver2)’ & I calmly restate my recollection. Without missing a beat he swears I said ‘quote (ver3)’ and it rolls straight off his tongue, as many ‘f*ck’s and “you little (whatevers)” as he could cram into ver2. Ver3 is the superlative of aggression & menace.I laugh & point out that he’s just given 3 different versions of the threat he claims I made in less than 2 minutes; even inserting a new sentence into the latest version.He tries to argue, seems to realise its pointless and a strange change comes over him. He goes from woefully wronged & menaced victim to… child that’s just been caught out!Imagine a small child that’s been told“I saw you break your own toy, don’t come crying & blaming your brother”“but…but…but… ….”Then it stopped. His face registered a look of “aw…S**T!”; he just gave up the whole pretense like a switch went off, and quietly walked off.He continued to twist anything as his needs required, but stepped up his careful engineering of who knew what. He was always collecting opinions of his own conduct from others.“everyone thinks I’m xxxx”- some sort of saint- too soft hearted- being usedHe’d contorted everything he’d told them. Then I began to realise, he was always the saint in every argument or disagreement he spoke of. He was always the one who was being taken advantage of by every one of his friends in some way.He did more dangerous things when he was caught out after that; like speeding off as I tried to get out of his car.It sounds like we were a couple, doesn’t it. Nope. This guy was my landlord.Does any of this match up with “covert narcissist”?EDIT - I’ve done some reading on the covert narcissist; then I re-read my post… and laughed!