My boyfriend and I broke up last week I am going to see him today and I want him back, how should I behave ?
People say a lot of things they might feel deeply at the moment, but real love isn't a passing feeling. It is a commitment to doing everything you can to make your relationship work. Porn isn't just something to overlook. It is an addiction and is the number one cause of divorce today. It destroys marriages and totally affects everyone. It gets worse and is never satisfied. It's tentacles of poison take a person deeper and further into uglier issues like rape, violence and sadly to say that is how once good men become ugly pedophiles. Porn will make them lie and lie some more and soon he will just hide it better, saying flowery things to you. Think ahead..,., is this the kind of man you want raising your children, or letting your growing kids bring their friends home to? It is extremely difficult when you first go through a breakup, and it is normal to want a person back to fill that void that you feel is left. It gets better, and soon enough you will be soooo glad you made that choice to break up. Right now you just need to fill your time with other things, friends, writing down your feelings, going places, staying away from the things you two did together, things you used to do you enjoyed. Stay busy, but give yourself some good time AWAY from him because he will try to get you back, not necessarily out of love (which it doesn't sound like is the lasting kind) but because he is only lonely or wants the physical intimacy. That is NOT what love is about. You made the right choice, porn is truly poison, I know. And even the bible says, "That if you look on a women to lust after her, you have already committed adultery with her in your heart" Matthew 5:28
Girlfriend of 1 year and half broke up with me?
I'm 21 and she's 19 going on 20. So basically it has been a week since she left me. We have been together for over and year and during the relationship I felt like I was loving and caring boyfriend and as she was the same towards me .to her something that every girl wants, I even promised to her that before we started dating. I never in a million years thought that this would happen we are so happy when we are around each other it is like we were untouchable. About a month ago she had told me she needed space and wanted me to move on ( I instantly broke down) I asked her why? any problems that she had had, we would work on together and I always helped her through. Her family is very strict with her and school and all that sort. she has told me that in the past and I always helped her get through. I managed to save us by telling her everything I felt and so she stayed with me. Last week, she called me on the phone and told me the same thing she had told me a month prior. how she was trying really hard to see a future with me and she just could not see it anymore. She told me that she was not in love with me, but she still loves me and said that if we are meant to be it will happen naturally.. I don't know what to do. I love this girl with every inch of my heart and it hurt me so much when she told me that. its been a week and she still calls me to see if im "okay" she calls me babe every now and then on "accident" and just last week said i love you before we hung up. I'm just so confused, so hurt, and depressed. I've never felt this way about anyone except her..... Ive tried not contacting her it works every now and then but its so hard. yesterday she asked if I wanted to go to the library with her, turns out we ended up in the mall in VS like this girl is playing with my emotions as if it were a toy.... I appreciate the serious advice. thanks in advance.
My girlfriend and I broke up, did I make a mistake by asking her to give me space?
My girlfriend and I had dated for a little over year, but we broke up last week. We had been great up until a month ago, and then we started fighting about the little things. We had a big talk last week and she asked me for time and space because she was unhappy with herself and with things and that she needed to figure out how to be okay with being herself and standing on her own two feet. I'm obviously torn up about it, but still love her and respect her enough to give her what she's asking for. Well, five minutes after I left her apartment, she called to tell me that she loved me, and everyday she's called at least once and texted too to tell me that she was either thinking about me, missed me, loved me, that she was miserable, and it's really just broken my heart more. I love her, and I want to hear those things from her, but I hold onto everything she says and it's killing me. Today I called her up and told her that I didn't want to be her back up plan, that I wanted to be together and I wanted to be with her, but that I couldn't handle the constant calling and texting. I asked her to take advantage of the time and space and figure things out. I let her know that I would always be there for her if she needed anything, but I just can't handle her saying those things and us not being together. She told me that I wasn't a back up plan, that she didn't want to not be a part of my life, that she was sure I was the love of her life, her everything, and that she was absolutely miserable and wanted to run back, but I think she still needs time. I'm scared I might of pushed her away by asking her to stop texting/calling like she did, but I let her know that I was doing it because she asked for it and I love her and respect her enough to let it go and give her what she wanted. Do you think I made things worse? Right after we got off the phone she texted me and told me that she loved me and she would forever. I just want her back, but I'm scared I might have just ruined that? I know I need to not call her or text her, she told me that she would probably break down and contact me soon. I just love her so much and want her back. Do you think I ruined that chance, and what can I do to make things better?
Janes is giving good advice here. Know what you want before you pick up the phone. Try not to react emotionally. Be clear and logical. Why did she dump you? Were you a dick? How can you be less so. Was she a bitch? Why will she be anything less second time round and does she merely use you to make herself feel wanted? Think through the structural issues that led to the break up and try not to let emotions cloud your judgement when you speak to her. If you start getting emotional just listen, say nothing and then say you need time to reflect before responding - this will rarely be a bad thing to do and it gives you a little control.I wouldn’t play games and not respond for a month etc. This sends the message that you’re a dick and would only work if she has been bitchie and taking advantage of you but if so why would you want to stay with a girl like that? She’s hot? There are also hot girls who aren’t bitches.If you like her and she reaches out to you then don’t ignore her but don’t be needy either.
My Girlfriend of one year and I broke up, next day she's talking with another guy?
I started to cut & paste lines from this question to show you all the red flags, but it got to be too longs. Basically, there was absolutely ZERO respect in this relationship. Not only did you tolerate her cheating on you in the beginning of the relationship, you moved in with her a few weeks later. That makes everything that happened all YOUR fault for being a wimp. She completely lost respect for you, but thought "Hey. I have this sucker who will pay half the bills and I can do anything I want. He will forgive me and we'll keep getting back together until I decide to leave him for good." The word is "Chump." And LOOK! You're probably going to get back with her again! Because you don't have any self respect, therefore you don't demand to be respected by others.
My girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago...I want her back. What do I do?
awww you seem like such a sweet and caring guy. this girl does not deserve you. i know you gave her your virginity but we all learn from our mistakes. you appreciated her but she did not. i have no idea what she wants from a guy, it looks like you gave her everything. please try and get over her, do new things, and move on. she'll see how much she missed out when she sees how happy you are without her, and hopefully a time will come when she's running back to you, and you will say NO to her. if you are destined to be with each other, then you will come together in all the right time maybe she will change once she realised what she's missing just leave her for now. she needs a lot of time to realise things, and hopefully you'll have moved on by then and realised all this was just another lesson in life good luck :D wishing you the best
My girlfriend broke up with me...?
my girlfriend broke up with me yesterday... i know i've been answering people's questions telling them how to act after the break ups but i cant seem to do so myself. it hurts so much. i still love her a lot. she suggested breaking up because her parents gave her a lot of pressure. we had a peaceful break up. i agreed to do so because i still love her a lot and does not want her to be upset and pressurized... what can i do now... i couldnt sleep last night and in my dream, i kept on asking her whether we could get together again and she kept on rejecting. she says she still has feelings for me but shes doesnt have the courage to face the pressure... she was my first love and i was hers... how could i forget the pain and hurt... i still remember when we shared our first kiss together.. all our memories are popping up into my mind every now and then... what can i do.. can someone talk to me..
It means she's being too selfish to think about your feelings and your well-being.People need to understand that being "friends" after breaking a romantic relationship, never honestly happens. People just pretend. Most people will say otherwise though.... don't believe it.A lot of people can act magnificently and you'd never know that they weren't serious at all.Apologies...but i am not being unduly harsh here.Honestly...a lot of people do this...they are either emotionally unstable...or cowards....or manipulators....or completely oblivious of the concept of being accountable for individual choices.She is just trying to get your sympathy, so you don't hold negative feelings for her when she might need you in the future, even though she's planning something else and only wants to keep you like a spare sim-card.If you still love her, and trust her and would like to be back with her, get face to face with her and affectionately ask her why she decided to break up. You deserve a proper explanation. Do not get emotional, do not cry, keep using the word "truth".If she refuses to answer no matter what or you suspect that she's still hiding something...then she's not worth you....let her go, calmly, no anger or resentment, just leave quietly. I hope all the best for your life and your future :)
Friend broke up with girlfriend about 2 weeks ago...?
Ive liked him for like 5 years yes its a long time but when i found out he liked me at that age (13 am now 17 found out he liked me a year after i started liking him) i couldn't date him becasue i was to young in my parents eye's.. well now im able to date and have been for a year but he had a gf and they went out for almost 2 years and they broke up a few week's ago.. i still like him but dont know how or when to tell him or even if i should tell him cause i dont want to be a rebound girl..im throwing a "senior" party which is basically ill be finished with school this month and im throwing a party to celebrate me being done and im going to invite him hoping he'll come.. should i tell him then or wait? i know itll we weird around him cause he knows i use to like him but doesn't know i still do..how would i go about asking him? do i just act normal around him or hint i still like him? how long should i wait before i tell him? would i seem to desperate to tell him this soon? me and his ex don't get along that much so would it also seem as im getting back at her? sorry it's so long i just need a little help with answers and stuff.. if your thinking negative stuff keep it to yourself cause i dont want/need to see it thanks in advance much help is appreciated :)
My girlfriend of one year recently broke up with me....Now she is hanging out with one of my best friends?
well first of all theres no point of going out with her when she says she is over u..u have to accept that things happened for a reason and that she was not meant to b for u (i know is hard n almost impossible to just let it go, but is better..that happened to me)..maybe she likes you like a real friend and you should take that friendship with her and be there for each other, but if you're going to b friends with her..u have to have in your mind that you'll are just friends and dont get your hopes up..if you keep talking to her n b there for her her feelings could come back..but like i said dont get your hopes up..just let the time come and bring you what is best for you..that she talks to your friend doesn't mean anything maybe she just needs a friend..if she told you she wanted to b your best friend was probably because she trust you a lot and sees you as a really nice person..b her best friend if she wants u to..if you really like her you're going to want to c her happy..now if your friend is not seing her just like a friend..then he's not a real friend..n if they're both ignoring ur feelings then u need to let them go..because true friends don't let u down like that..don't get mad or jealous..act like everything is k..n jst b there for her n wait n c what happens..n if she ends up going out with him..just smile at them n wish them the best cuz she might end up doing the same to him..u deserve a better girl:)