My girlfriend doesn't want to open up her problems to me, so what should I do to change that?
Unless you are also a psychologist, let her be. That’s what a gentleman does.There are times in your life you realize you have a problem, and you are trying to deal with it. You may not necessarily be proud the problem, and decide not to share that problem with your loved ones.If she feels that sharing it with you will help resolve the issue, she will approach you. It is maturity to respect partner’s boundary.But that doesn’t mean you cannot do anything useful to help her.You make her feel comfortable around you. Comforting someone takes energy and time. Comforting has the active ingredient of giving strength.In fact, the etymology of comfort is com = together; forte = strength.When she feels that she feels comfortable being with you, she is really saying—”in togetherness, she feels strong.”Give her that sense of security, and you’d have done much in her resolving her problem.
What must I do when my girlfriend tells me about her family problems?
Listen. She’s your girlfriend, dude, what do you think you should do? Sit by and nod like a wind up toy until she’s done with her story, and then awkwardly change the subject? She’s telling you about her family problems because she trusts you enough, and trust is a very rare thing, something that should be treasured. So treasure that trust she gives you, and whenever she tells you about her family problems, listen with all the energy you have.And that’s not it. Suggest what she could do. Suggest talking things out. Suggest acting a certain way. Suggest talking about this or that. Delve in the conversation, into the topic, when she brings it up. She’s trying to get a heavy weight off her chest, so respect that, and answer in kind. Try and help her to get that heavy weight off her chest. Listen, discuss, and treasure that trust she has in you.
Should I be worried about my girlfriend spending habits?
I've been with my current girlfriend for 4 years and I watched her blow through all her alimony and spend foolishly. I generally didn't criticize her because I figured it was none of my business. Then came the money woes in which affected our relationship and she would always be complaining about money and stressed out about not having enough. So I ended up trying to help her, and she just refuses to understand how to save money and understand how money Works after me trying to tell her for a year. It got so bad she had to cancel her internet and cable, she had to borrow money from me which she did pay back, and she had to get on food stamps. So I just noticed she spent $60 at Lowe's on a bunch of plants for her place? I just don't understand so I question her about it and told her how is she ever going to save money if she keeps spending like that? Now she's getting mad at me telling me she doesn't need to be in a relationship.
Is not having a girlfriend a problem?
It doesn't have to be a problem but can be on different perspectives.1. If ur one of those who are easily influenced by peers and their boasts then yes it's a problem2. If u think having any good looking girl an eye candy by your side is the in thing then yes it's definitely a problem3. Among the three W's ( wine, women and wisdom) u choose the first two then again it's definitely a problem. Fortunately there are some solutions available1. Don't get bogged down by peer pressure and jump into things without analyzing. Usually it's the case of "have tongue, will talk" and everyone is trying to sell themselves of as better. Be happy with who you are2. There is a saying a man who treats his woman like a princess shows he was brought up by a queen. Get out of having a girlfriend for a trend thing and show your respect for women. For all you know you might get the right girl with the right attitude3. After the wine and women you will automatically get wisdom so it's OK :)Just be yourself and succeed rather than try be someone else and fail
If a girl tells a guy friend about her dating/boyfriend problems, is she just being friendly or does she actually like him?
Well she's most certainly being friendly. Girls cozy up to guy friends really quickly. If you are any good at listening then most probably almost all your female friends will tell you all they have in their heads. Be it about their boyfriend or a dress/shoes they are stalking on myntra or the problems they are facing at work or what her mother keeps nagging about.Rest assured, you'll know it all. And all you need to do it sit there with your ears open and keep nodding your head. You don't need to reply or advice them or judge their boyfriend. Just nod and listen. They are not telling you stuff because they are interested in you, but cause they just want to say it to someone who is capable of interpretation and secrecy. And if she's interested, she'll let you know. Or maybe you can risk your friendship by making the first move.P.S: Don't feel too bad about it. You are the “kandha” (ie Shoulder- Tanu weds Manu reference!). A useful component of a woman's life.
I accidentally kissed my girlfriend's twin sister thinking that she was my gf?
I wanted to surprise her on her birthday and so i brought a bouquet of flowers with me to her house.She lives with her family.She is 17 now.I asked for her, went into her room where she(her sister, to my woes) was standing.So i took her in my arms and frenched her.She pulled away and cursed me.Having realised what was happening, i immediately apologised.She told me her sister was taking a shower and she was there to help her get dressed.Does my girlfriend need to know that this happened? We had a deal that we would never-ever mention this, for her sake.
What does it mean when a girl talks to you about her problems and leans on you for support? I have a crush on one of my close friends who is a girl (I'm a guy). Am I friendzoned or could she actually want to see where things go with me?
First, I feel you. I’ve been here. I’ve been the shoulder, the advice-giver, the confidant, to someone who I wanted romance from but was getting mixed signals, instead.In my unrequited-romantic past, every time I’ve over-explained someone’s actions I am not looking at the clear honest truth that is in my gut. My friends do the same thing.The “talking her through some of her insecurities and issues.” Ugh…my stomach turned over at this sentence. Like really did a tornado-twist that made me almost not reply.There’s this great episode of Friends where Phoebe is dating a therapist, played by Fisher Stevens. She ‘loves him’ because he’s so insightful, and she introduces him to all of the gang. He dissects all of their ‘insecurities and issues’ and so well that they all immediately hate him. Even though he’s right. When she tells him later that her friends don’t like him, he explains why, and hits it right on the nose. She then hates him, too.No one wants you to talk about their insecurities and issues unless you’re their shrink, and even then some people will fire the shrink so they don’t have to look.We learn what we have to fix about ourselves on our own…the hard way. That’s the cut and dry truth.It’s so not hot for a potential lover to do that. So that makes me think you’re not a potential lover. However…You might be right - and I mean this - that you might be in the friend-zone because you are so far away. Maybe.Only one way to find out.My best suggestion is this: Be less available. Don’t talk about her other relationships, with men or women, and yes both are equally real, no matter what she says.Leave her issues for her future therapist if she pays for one.Be a guy she’d want in her life romantically. Be charming. Be complimentary. Shut down the drama. Shut down the gossip. Be a little elusive. Wait and see what she does because she will show you how she feels. Stop listening to words and start listening to actions.Step back so she can see you. Really see you.As who you are, not how you can fix her.Start to use my belief in what you have to offer, until you believe it yourself.I believe you can be loved, and love, for real.I believe you can have a woman — or a girl — who doesn’t want to kiss anyone but you.But you have to believe that first, and act like you believe it, until you do.Borrow my belief, and treat yourself like you’re the king of your world and worth everything your heart desires. Even this girl.xx,Faleena HopkinsAuthor Faleena Hopkins
If my girlfriend is dealing with personal problems that she'd rather not talk about, what should I do?
If my girlfriend is dealing with personal problems that she'd rather not talk about, what should I do?I know that if you are in a semi-serious relationship and you care about this girl, then you will want to know what is going on in her life and how you can help her.Sometimes however… people have to handle things on their own. Since you don’t know what’s going on, you have to handle things a certain way. I would advise trying something like this:“Hey babe, I know you’re going through some tough stuff right now. I understand that things aren’t always easy to talk about, but if you need me I am right here for you. I hope sometime you will be comfortable enough to go ahead and tell me so I can help. Until then, whatever you need from me let me know, and if I can help in anyway let me know. I love you darling”Then kiss her on the forehead and proceed with the day. If she opens up then, listen. Intently. If she opens up at all, make sure you listen and pay attention and don’t do anything that would be insulting. If and when she opens up, it is a very personal thing for her, and you want her to understand you really do care for her.I hope things work out for you two. I know exactly what you are going through. I wish you nothing but the best. Good luck.
When a girl calls you crying, what do you do? ?
my ex girlfriend called me out of no where crying.. and im a type of guy that hates to see a woman cry.. it just that i dont know what to say or do most of the time.. last time we spoken was about a month ago.. shes 4 or 5 months pregnant... her baby's daddy walked off on her.. like a freaking loser.. she feels like she has no friends...depress of course.. and wants to tell me her problems in person.. this is the part "what do i do or say ?" come in PLEASE HELP ME WITH IDEAS OR ADVICE.. i still care for her as i do all my ex girlfriends plus im a very nice guy.. and like to keep that title.. :) i want to do things to get her mind out of that.. how open minded should i be... or what are the little things i can do... but have a major impact on making her feel happy and loved...please give advice and dont leave any dumb responses like yo mama... ect. Thanks have a great day
Why doesn't my boyfriend share his problems with me?
I have been in relationships that’s lasted for a couple years, and what I’ve learned in that time is boys feel like it’s almost unmanly to share their problems or their emotions. They feel like they should deal with it and not talk about it when honestly that’s what they really want! Make your boyfriend feel like he can talk to you about anything but don’t ever pressure him to talk. Let him know he can come to you with anything, comfort him even if he doesn’t want to. They will soon come around!