How do you know what the right thing to do is?
Right thing, a tricky question to answer because right thing is subjective it changes from person to person but still there are times in our lives when the most difficult things are right thing and we do it just because they are right.Let me enumerate the factors that give a clear idea that what we are doing is right.You will always have “ Peace of mind”, right thing always yield positive energy that will help you restore your strength even in adverse circumstances,You will feel “fearless”, no matter whether people are against you, verbally slam you,backbiting about you these things will not deviate you,it may cause stress but always remember that greatest lessons are learnt the hardest way.You will “never regret” your decisions or conversations if it was the right thing to be discussed or told.You will have deaf ears to how and what people talk about you because its common that when you are right you often get rivals, and they work together to shatter you, thats the time when you sheild your esteem by being deaf to badmouthing that goes around about you.Thus whenever you feel the adrenaline rush or an intense mood to decide what is right or wrong may be above points will be of help, its what I treasured through life experience. A skill to define “right”.
What's better advice, be yourself or do the right thing?
Yourself is an ugly carbon based body filled with anger, fear, jealousy, greed, lust and every conceivable and non-conceivable ugliness looking for validation from the external world.Self does not exist. It is ever changing. When I was a kid I would post stuff on the internet that I would feel embarrassed with now. Our thoughts, opinions, knowledge, energy everything keeps changing.Forget about being yourself and do the right thing.A little twist though, doing the right thing would be very hard and turn you into the right being which is none of the above. Then you can be yourself.Nitin Sethi
I'm about to join a gang... any advice?
joining a gang is a dumb move. you get paid, sure, but you also get beat up, stabbed, shot, kidnapped. you wont run into many of those problems you described in college. go back to school, fool.
DO THINGS RIGHT ALWAYS vs DO THE RIGHT THINGS ALWAYS?
Your question is missing an option: “DO THE RIGHT THING” singular, not plural.Doing the right thingS = follow the correct procedure, so that no-one can blame you if you fuck up. (popular antiquated mother-to-daughter advice, helping the daughter become a sanctimonious hypocritical bureaucrat)Doing things right = whatever you do, don’t fuck up. (popular antiquated father-to-son advice, helping the son become a ruthlessly fanatical soldier)Doing the right thinG = do what you know deep down is right, and take full responsibility if you fuck up. (not so popular but still up-to-date parent-to-child advice, not because it is bullshit, but because it is always being given way way before the the child is mature enough to understand it)
If I have to choose between "the right thing" and "the thing which I want" in life, what should I do?
I will tell you upfront that there is no perfect answer to this question. Most people try to do the "right thing" all the time, but sooner or later they choose what they "want in life". You can only struggle for so long. At some point, you take small defeats; you take the easier road; you get tired of doing "right" and you want the easy way out. I haven't met a person who has been with "right" every time. A lot of people "claim" to have always done right. Their claim is never a proof. At some point, you always do what is easy. And what is easy is taking the thing that you 'want'.But, I think that choosing what you "want in life" over the "right thing" won't make your life restful. In the long run, it will make you extremely uneasy if not worse.And choosing what you 'want' too many times is how people create their own "personal" hell. I have met people like that. People who became rotten on the inside because they chose wrong and now, its too late to change it back. Hell, I think I have even been such a person at one point or another.So, I would do my best to choose the "right" thing every time. And I would advice you to do the same. The apparent sacrifice in giving up 'what you want' for 'what's right' is nothing compared to the trauma in store for you if you don't. Even if you somehow protect yourself from the trauma, there will be someone who will pay for your choices because if you don't do right, you do wrong to someone.P.S. I apologize if I sound too preachy. This is one question that I am too close to.
Advice about one parent in prison?
Why would anyone have the nerve to try to bash you? You have a very legitimate question and I have been going through this for all of my son's life(he is 16). I think that you as a mother should bring your child to visit her father because it will lessen the trauma of your child wondering why daddy is not home. I provided some websites for you to look over so you can come up with the best solution for your daughter and by the way, I would suggest that you look up some help for yourself. An incarcerated parent not only effect the child but the parent who cares for the child. I go through periods of sadness because I always wanted my child to have the experience of having two parents involved in his life or at times, I get really angry and resent his father so much for not staying out of trouble to be here for our child. Maybe you seek some or join a support group which emphasizes the impact of an incarcerated parent. May God bless you and your child. Take care.
Need some advice! i hate lying to my parents but i feel like i have no other choice?
Get a job, pay your own way, get your own place, and do what you want. Doing that last thing without doing the first three is called being a spoiled brat. Unless of course you are a thieving, pimping, drug pushing, thug or a stripper/prostitute/ho. Why not pursue the things that will prosper you in life like career building, family life, eternal security? Partying and drunkenness are not conducive to any of those. While you can't image at your age how short life really is - I assure you all the time you waste with sex and drugs and rock'n'roll will come back to haunt you. Go and pursue a life as a Christian Missionary - you will not be bored and you will have a social life that includes your most important friend - The Creator. If you died today would you be ready to face God? Only the Blood of Jesus Christ can justify you before Him. Find some folks who can help you understand that, and depression will never oppress you again. God is good, all the time!