When you move you leave your pets behind!!!!!!!?
Ok right now I just want to hug you :)!! We see SO many people at the shelter I volunteer with surrendering cats because "the new place doesn't allow pets" and it sickens me to no end that they can so easily give up their pets. Yes, I do understand that bad allergies can develop, people can fall on hard times and be unable to care for your pets, that people have to move into nursing homes and the other valid reasons for having to give up pets. But moving into a place that doesn't accept them is CHOOSING to give up one's pets. And with as many places out there that DO allow them there's really no excuse. But sadly, a lot of people view pets as possessions - not family members. So if it's between keeping the cat or getting the fancy condo with a pool and exercise room - the pet often loses. Even sadder - these cats are often ones that are 10-15 years old and have known no other owner their whole lives. And unless they're taken to a no-kill shelter they're often euthanized shortly after being surrendered. People like this toss out their cats just as they would a dining set that's no longer the style they want. I pity people that are that shallow and uncaring towards living, breathing beings. And I hope that karma comes back to them tenfold for their actions. Now I want to know what a "pacman frog" is. Is that really what it's called or do they just have really big mouths like PacMan? Oh and Metro is a really cool cat name!!!! He obviously realizes he's found TRUE pet lovers and knows how lucky he is!
High Maintenance Sister-In-Law?
I'm visiting my brother, sister-in-law and 3 neices (all under 5) for a couple of weeks. The problem is my siter-in-law is extremely high maintenance. She hs always been like this - I know as I used to live with them a couple of years ago. If everything does not go EXACTLY her way she has tantrums. She has extremely low tolerance for stress so therefore she is constantly yelling at her kids for just being normal kids - eg being a little noise / messy / asking questions (which is what all normal small kids do) If everything in her house is not perfect clean and tidy she also has a coronary! She also is constantly going off at her husband (my brother) cause he "doesn't help enough" when in reality he does everything - cooksl works full-time, listens to her constant whinging etc. What upsets me the most is the way she talks to my 5 and 3 year old neices. I won't go into detail but the worst is that she doesn't even say goodbye to them when they go to daycare/prep school or say goodnight to them. (PS Yes they are in daycare/shchool including the 18 month old baby 0- She also receives full support from her family.) She also will whinge to me about my brother / how hard her life is etc etc How do I deal with this? Shoudl I say something to her? Or just put up with it? It may seem like I'm also whinging but I've gotten to the end of my tether with her childish, destructive behaviour. Help!
How do Indians feel when they go back to live in India after living in US for 5+ years?
Here is a word of advice for all NRI's who are looking to move back to India."If you are looking to move to India because you are bored of your job in the US or feel there are more opportunities here, then DON'T move back"I moved to Gurgaon 6 months back and its been a mix of pleasure and pain :)Its dusty, dirty, noisy, crowded, humid with crappy roads, even more crappier condos etc etc..you get the drift.If you want to live in a condo like you lived in the US, it will cost you atleast a lakh per month :)Most service providers and handymen will not be on time and will even be very blase about it.Shopping for good quality veggies and fruits is a pain.The fine line between a weekday and the weekend usually blurs.Maids and cooks are supposed to be a convenience but they are usually a pain in the neck because you gotta supervise them and keep an eye on them.Options for weekend breaks are very limited.If Google Maps says you will reach a place in 6 hours, it will take anywhere between 10-16hours.Sports facilities are pretty limited and the ones that are available are pretty expensive.The gyms here are crappy and are usually in the basement of some house nearby. There are good ones but usually very far from where you live and the commute is just not worth it.5kms of travel is like 25 miles of travel here.If you have been out of India for more than 3+ years, and have not been here in the last 3 years, you will get THE STICKER SHOCK of your life when you get back.Stuff has become frightfully expensive...some examples include petrol, wine, fine dining, movie tickets etc etc.Basically, everything is available here but at a price. You can almost duplicate your US lifestyle but the cost will be directly similar to what it was in the US. The only difference will be a drop in your salary (And this is if you were living in NYC or SFO. If you are living in Dallas or somewhere in the midwest in a $800/2BR apartment, the fun will be even more)Well, that's the bad part.Now to the good parts even though they may seem a bit vague :)Its home and I feel more 'alive' here.The food somehow tastes better.There is a notional sense of freedom (like zipping on the expressway at midnight without worrying about a cop car on your back)
Can I Sue My Sister For Her Share Of Inheritance?
My mother just died and everything is in probate my sister who has not seen her in over 23 years shows up and first thing she wants to know is if she can have the car and how much money will she get. My mother is worth over a quarter of a million dollars and left me a life insurance worth 100 thousand to me only none for my sister. But her condo and her lake house and car our going into probate can I sue her for her share because I am the one who drove over 2 hours to get her and take her to see doctors and shopping and fix things for her I am disabled and use a walker and I was there for my mother. She has not seen her in over 23 years and I don't think she should get a dime. Can I sue her for her share?
Where is the cheapest place to live in hawaii?
Right now, probably Hilo, Puna, or Ka'u on the Big Island of Hawaii. Land can still be purchased relatively inexpensively there and homes are less expensive than in Kona (also on the Big Island) or on the islands of Oahu, Kauai, and Maui. You can also build there -- lots of people choose to do that. Check out the MLS listings for Hawaii here: PS - I don't know where "liberal" got her information, but she is dead wrong. First of all, according to the 2005 census, there were over 62,000 people living on Kauai, not 1,000. Unemployment IS low; so she was right about that. Also, the center of Kauai is an extinct volcano and no one lives there. All of the communities on this island are on or very near the coast. No one lives on Mt. Wai'ale'ale, the center of the island. Don't believe everything you read on the internet, including Yahoo Answers.
My landlord treats me like crap, is there anything illegal about this?
It all depends on your written rental agreement. Under that agreement, you may be responsible for the cleaning bills and other repairs. So, maybe he is not just a jerk, maybe he has a better understanding of the rental agreement than you. Take your copy to a lawyer for a complete explanation of your rights.
Is it okay to walk around half dressed or nude in front of your 15 year old son?
I have 2 friends who have teenaged sons, who feel there is nothing wrong with walking around the house in their panties and bra, or a short tee shirt and panties in front of their sons. One of them actually goes nude in front of her 17 year old. They both feel that being nude is normal and that their sons will soon see nude women, so what is the big deal, they don't see a problem. The worse part is that both of these young men have expressed to me that they do not like to see their mothers that way. They are both embarrassed and uncomfortable by the situation. I have spoken to both friends about how their sons feel, and I got different responses. One said that she doesnt think its a big deal, that I am making it more serious than it is. The other said "so what, I am the mother and I can do whatever I want. If he doesn't like seeing me, he shouldn't look. " I just want to know if I am the crazy one. My 3 sons (grown now) have never seen me undressed, (unless by accident).