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This guy flirts and says he's just kidding?

I told him that i liked him 3 wks ago & he asked me on a date (we still havent gone on) & was thinking about kissing me. Then a wk later he tells me he wants to make out w/ me b/c its not like i would feel anything, even though i told him that i liked him. He flirts w/ me sometimes but always adds 'jk' to the end. these past couple days he's been doin it a lot and yesterday txted me that he wanted to hold me in his arms. Then today he was telling me about how he has feelings for some girls and i asked how many, and he's like, 'few, but you're one! jk lol' and idk what to say b/c he does that a lot and i guess he doesn't get that i like him a LOT. and when i ask him if he likes me he says 'idk'. What do you guys think and what should i do?

****Flirting*** What are the reason why guys flirt??

Hey there!!!
I know its kind of a weird & stupid question to even ask, but i am just curious on how guys think and why. I know that they flirt to females because they find they attractive or cute, but dose that means they also would want to get to know the females they flirt with or they just want to mess with the females head????....

Just curious, because i know someone and she likes her guy friend and everything we go out i notice that they are always flirting with eachother and i know that they both like eachother more than friends n yet the guy is not stepping up...i know you think that he or she dont want to ruin the friendship, but its not even like that. They' ve only known eachother for one month and they dont really talk on the phone or hang out...only if i call them up and we go out..

So, this is all so very weird to me and i just cant find what is the problem here.. Please shine some light...


How can you tell if a guy is flirting with you?

if hes trying to look for you in the eye and if hes trying to make you laugh... if hes kinda like showing off... like saying hes smart and gud in stuff... guys usually wont tell that theyre gud except when they really like a girl... and look at his sign language.. if hes trying to get close to you physically...

Why do guys flirt with me but never ask me out?

I like to flirt with women a lot.  It is fun and an ego booster for both of us.  It is good practice for when I might meet someone that I really want to go out with.  It is a fun form of play, just like a kitten will play with a ball of yarn as practice for hunting mice.  I'm sure some of these women are disappointed when I stop before asking them out.  They seem to act that way when I suddenly say " nice chatting, go to go".  But if they initiated some sort of indication to me that they were interested in me, made some sort of positive move on their own, that would be entirely different.  This might include them turning it around and asking something about me, showing an interest in getting to know me better.  All women, all people, like to have people show interest in them.  It makes them feel good, but if they don't reciprocate, if they just passively enjoy being the center of attention, is says they aren't really interested. If I complement a woman and she enjoys it, well, that is just normal human behavior and it means nothing.  If she complements me back, that is a sign that she might be interested.  If a woman complements me first, that is confirmation.I'm sometimes lacking in confidence because the girl appears too young for me or too attractive, but flirting with the really attractive ones is an easy fun confidence booster without making the commitment of asking them out and risking rejection.  That is the key.  This is not always the case, often I flirt with women that I have no desire to go out with.  They seem to like it and it makes me feel good to brighten up a woman's day.

How to tell when a guy is flirting with you?


1) Guys may be flirting around all day, but before they go to sleep they always think about the girl they truly care about

2) Guys are more emotional then you think if they loved you at one point it takes them a lot longer then you think to let you go, and it hurts every second that they arent with you

3) Guys go crazy over a girl's smile

4) A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to

5) Giving a guy a hanging messa​ge like "You know what uh...never mind....." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking and he'll assume he did something wrong and he'll obsess about it trying to figure it out

6) If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him.

7) A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.


9) Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. They rarely use beautiful or gorgeous. If a guy uses that, he loves you or likes you a whole heck of a lot.

10) If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with you

11) When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he's definitely thinking something

12)A guy would give the world to be able to read a girl's mind for a day

13)No guys cant handle all his problems on his own He's just too stubborn to admit it

14)NOT ALL GUYS ARE RUDE! Just because ONE is RUDE doesn't mean he represents ALL of them


16) Even if you dump a guy months ago and he loved you he probably still does and if he had one wish it would be you to come back into his life

How do I know if a guy is flirting or just messing with me as a friend?

I have to say that most of the points mentioned by Priyadarshi are true. We boys are ourselves confused about how we feel towards a girl. Even though a boy can mess with you as a friend, he could also be flirting with you. The dufference is not alway clear, though.Like Priyadarshi said, there are a few points worth noticing, and I can add to that:The special treatment: He could prioritize you over other female friends of his.However, the best is to check this consistently because some of his ‘seemingly prioritizing’ gestures could be common among other friends too. If he takes time out for you or mentions that talking to you makes him feel way better, then that could indicate an attraction towards you.Listening to you more attentively than he doe with other friends: A clear indication that he’s onto something more than just being friends. Even if he somehow doesn’t know that himself (rare cases :P).The ‘distinguishable’ compliments: He will compliment you on anything (just not on your looks) in a different way that is easily distinguishable. Boys who flirt often wanna make their compliment stand out from the others’ such that you get the point.Making you blush or blushing when the joke’s on him: Another clear indication that he’s not just messing with you. We wanna make the girl we like blush with comments that make the girl feel special. On the other hand, when in an embarrassing situation, friends will laugh off the matter but a guy who’s into flirting with you will blush, no matter how hard he tries not to. ;)He’ll make a date, not a get together: If you’re single, the guy who is flirting with you doesn’t wanna just be a friend always. So he will seek opportunities to make ‘alone’ time together with you; just you and him. Might ask you out, even if its not an official ‘date’, he will make the day seem like one. If he’s just messing with you as a friend, the day will feel like hanging out with a friend.Hope his helps… :)

Do guys get turned off to girls who are flirting?

Depends upon guy to guy.
Some like and others not. No universal rule on this.
BUt believe me most guy dont like gals who r flirting in nature, they just use her and after that dump her.

Do some girls get more attracted to guys that don't flirt?

I think you might need to clarify why you don't flirt?If it's because you can't, then you can either try and learn it, or you can just accept that flirting isn't for you.However, I will be honest with you and say that I've never dated, kissed, etc. with a guy who didn't flirt, even awkwardly, with me. It might be different for other girls, but if you don't flirt, I will simply not get the hint that you may like me.I'm also afraid this goes for quite a few women, though I cannot speak on behalf of all, that if you're not flirting, not showing interest and “playing hard to get”, how is women supposed to guess you're interested?Most women I know, myself included, would simply assume you weren't into me, and move on. Unlike what it may be presented as on the Internet, women do face rejection now and then. This means that most will not run around after you either, if you're not showing interest the other way, unless they have become absolutely smitten with you. Which I'm afraid is unlikely unless you're 100% gorgeous, when you're not giving anything away.Instead of playing hard to get, find a middle ground, be nice and awkward with your flirting. Wanna know the worst flirting you can do?My boyfriend on our first date, showing me around his village:Me: so I guess you know the place really wellHim: yeah I could totally hide a body around hereNot the best pickup line I've ever heard, but it didn't matter, cause at that point I already knew he was a great guy.Not because he knew how to flirt, he didn't, but because he was/is a good laugh, and knew how to hold a conversation.That's what matter in the long run in dating, good conversations and a laugh, not cheesy flirting. Flirting is great and fun, but if you don't like it/can't do it, don't, it's not the end of the world.On the other hand, don't play hard to get. I personally wouldn't get it, and would at best assume you not to be into me, at worst a jerk.If you really want to learn to flirt, there's a ton of guides online and in books. Flirting doesn't have to be complicated, it can be a small touch, a compliment and a smile at the right time.But again, it's not the end of the world if you're just not into flirting, opposed to what I hear sometimes, good guys don't always finish last.

Why am I only good at flirting with guys I don't find attractive?

You answered your own question. If it's someone you like, you get super shy. Rejection matters; you have something at stake. Rejection doesn't matter if it's someone you don't fancy.I have good news and bad news and then some more good news about that.The good news? Pretty much everyone feels just like you do. Rejection is always scary if you don't want the other person to reject you. The people you see flirting and laughing around you--they feel the same feelings you do. They just choose to flirt anyway, in spite of it. That means you can too.The bad news? It will be uncomfortable. Your shyness will try to get in the way. Your knees might shake. Your hands might tremble. You may stammer and stutter. It always feels uncomfortable The more good news: Once you've made it through the discomfort and come out the other side, you'll learn something amazing: you can feel shy and still choose to engage with people anyway! That's awesome, because the shyness and discomfort will suddenly feel a whole lot less powerful. Pretty soon, as you keep doing it, you'll wonder why it ever felt like a big deal at all. :)