Why is it so hard to find true friends these days?
TLDR: Because trust is difficult to obtain.Because people are assholes.Hold on, let me explain. As you get older, you become picky. As a kid you don’t care. You like baseball, Johnny likes baseball, so Johnny is now a friend. As an adult a friend is a serious investment. You have a job, you have responsibilities, you come home after work pretty much dead, pondering to just shoot yourself and be done with it.At the age of about 15 you learn the true nature of people: they put themselves before anything else. It sounds like a simple idea, but it’s a bit more complicated. People will easily betray you, people will spread rumors, people will do anything if they see you as an obstacle that needs to be removed.As you (and the people) grow older, cynicism comes into play. You learn to not trust people. You learn that strangers will betray you, stomp you into the ground for a measly dollar. Hell, they’ll do it for fun.You need someone you can trust and that’s one hell of a requirement.You need someone who, regardless of consequences or potential profit, or hell, entertainment will trust you and you can trust them to not suddenly stab them in the back. People do it “for the lulz” all the time. Finding that someone is difficult. It’s one hell of a quest. Finding a true friend these days is almost impossible.That’s why people pretty much give up once they’re older.You need to invest time and money into friendship and if the other party senses something shifty is going on, they pull out immediately and without any explanation.
Why are true friends so hard to find these days?
Ya its very sad , its true, its hard to find friends that are trustworthy. In my experiences, ive had my feelings hurt alot from friends that i thought were true. When i was in High school, i had all these friends , and then half of them became really mean . Theres about 10 people in high school im still friends with and are my true friends. I have a hard time making friends with people for some reason, if i go to a party or something , or an event, i maybe make 1 friend, or sometimes my feelings get hurt right away . Im a unique individual and i treat people with respect and nice to anyone. Im never mean to somebody to make myself feel better. I knew lots of girls in my school that did that , and i thought that was lame to do something like that. Lots of girls and guys did that to me, just was evil to me for no reason at all. It sucks ***. My best friend is my fiance' i love him soo much, without him idk where would i be. My best girl friend would be my sister. And i have about 3 best girlfriends that im still in contact with. Another example, is my mom , she had friends in highschool and th e y all left her, and then my mom hung out with guys as friends cause th ey seemed nicer. And then later found some of her best friends in college. Now my mom just has 2 main best friends. Other than that its just people she knows. Ya your social life can go through phases, and life takes you places and all kinds of different situations. Its okay dude, youll find some true friends out there, take a class or hang out at new location and try making new friends. Good luck dude:)
It's hard for me to make friends.?
You should maybe try to find some people that have the same hobbies or you maybe know already. When you do find potential friends. Invite them over to hang-out and try to get to know each other. Then try to make a habit of getting people's contact information. Also do your best to accept every invatation you get.
Should I just give up on having friends?
Whenever I make friends, they always backstab me, use me for something, lie to me, ignore me, etc. And they all end up abandoning me. Friends aren't a necessity anyway, and I hardly trust people anymore.
I am in my 40's and do not have any friends. I would like to have at least one friend that I can hang out with
In church one week I had an epiphany- something very simple, but yet so true and something I would tell my middle school students- To have a friend, you first have to be a friend. I never really thought of it like that. I'm kind of an introvert myself, so I can understand how difficult it is to make friends after marriage. Sometimes just this can come across to others as being standoffish or snobby. I'm not sure where you live, but that can make a difference too. If you moved to somewhere different from where you grew up, (ex: from Georgia to New Jersey) it can be a culture shock of itself. Perhaps you could reach out to someone in one of your classes or activities. Take a risk. I know how you feel. I'm often wondering how to make friends since most of the people who live around me are older and people seem to be busy all the time. You could join a group- that's the best way to meet people and build your self up as well- like a community life group at church, a class at the YMCA, a volunteer organization, even a chat group of some kind- etc. . . Then you have a common bond with the other women there anyway. You could just make casual talk the first few classes and then maybe ask them about themselves. Then, maybe you could just ask some over for coffee, out to a girls lunch, or something else casual and comfortable where 2-3 other women can get together and chat. Once you've done that, you've opened the communication for futher meetings. I also find tuberware type parties are nice to get to know new people. They have a purpose, and you can get to know different women.. . In your case, it doesn't matter what group you join, just anywhere where the people aren't cliquish and they are there just to have fun and meet others. Women need friends- sometimes I think men are happy without many, but we need to talk and relate to others. Good luck. You've already taken the first step by writing this letter and reaching out to others. Keep it up!
Why is it so hard to make friends in highschool?
Everyone is sooo cliquey and they only talk to certain groups of people and it's sooo annoying. Like, some people are nice and all, but they already have their groups of friends and they won't invite you in. I talk to a lot of people in school, but they're not really my "friends." We don't hang out or any of that stuff. Is this just a highschool thing or is there a social problem with me?