I love a girl who is currently dating someone else, but I feel she might love me. I don't know how to talk to her about this clearly. Is it wrong to tell her to leave her boyfriend?
You're too nice. I'm sure that this answer is going to be in my top What is the worst dating advice? Ever. You love her. She loves you. She's going to stay with the guy she doesn't love. So she's either lying to you about love, or lying about the guy.I had this situation a couple of times and whilst it wasn't love (I had a romantic idea that I'd only tell one girl I loved her in my life - been married for 10 years now) there was something there. It didn't happen. I was useful as a fall back option, a reserve date, as pressure on the boyfriend but I was never in the running. So you have a couple of choices. You either raise your game or stop playing. When you raise your game you can either do it the moral or immoral way. Morally these are the things you do:Get your body in shapeGive your clothes a make overThink about what she likes (not what you think she should like) and reflect thatImmorally Control your Facebook feed so that she only ever sees you with girls prettier than her. And she must see themFind a 'beard' who will pretend to be your girlfriend. Very pretty and articulate. Going out with someone better than you raises your value. Identify and create 'stories' that will make her attracted to you and make sure she hears them via third parties. (Your work with orphans, the local children's hospital and small furry animals)Find the matchmaker her parents use (if old fashioned) and bribe her to include your nameThe present boy friend may or may not last. Macho telling her to leave him will not work. You put yourself in the same class as men who attack women on buses if you do that. The best you will get is scorn and a slap. You make yourself look so good that when it ends you are the best choice. Not because you believe it (which is what you do being a naive optimist - a general reflection on people rather than you specifically ;)) but because she believes it. This almost certainly won't work but you will then be set up to get a really great girl to spend the rest of your life with. So you have a win win solution. Either you get her or you get someone better than her
Does anyone else feel hunting has been too commercialized?
I have a theory on this... In Utah the deer hunt was shortened this year down to only three days in some parts of the state. This may not be common in all states, but there is a seemingly increasing trend toward reduction in hunters, permits and/or season. I believe that it is this difference as much as anything that makes people spend more for their deer. There are a couple factors at work. First off, if you are only able to hunt for 3 days there seems to be much more pressure to perform during that time. In that instance it only seems to make sense to have the best equipment to augment your skills so that you don't miss a single opportunity. Second, this means that those of us who enjoy hunting have a lot of hunting down time to sit and think about next year's trip. That sitting and thinking frequently puts me in my favorite sporting goods store browsing the newest gadgets. I think that there must be some sort of fine line between having the right gear to augment your actual hunting skills rather than attempting to buy ability. Lastly, I think that a greater risk to hunting is the lack of hunters in the younger generations. It seems to me that it the real place to keep the art of hunting alive is by passing it on whether that be through gadgets or not.
Why do you feel unhappy when you see your ex with someone else?
I will answer this using some analogy. Imagine a moment which you spent with a small kid (I hope you did). You see the kid playing with his favorite toy and you snatch it from him. What will the kid do? He will start to cry and yell demanding the toy back. Why does he behave that way? BECAUSE THE KID LINKS PLEASURE PLAYING WITH THE TOY AND WHEN THE TOY IS WITH SOMEONE ELSE HE FEELS PAIN.The same thing applies to us. We used to get pleasure from our partners and in spite of the break up we feel unhappy when someone else is with our ex. This is one of the main reasons for feeling unhappy. Our partner is the source of our happiness and when she/he avoids giving us happiness and instead becomes some other persons source of happiness we would naturally felly unhappy. Some other reasons could be regret if the relationship didn’t break consensually. Also, ego can be one of the reason as you might feel neglected and rejected by your ex as she/he chose someone else over you.We talked about the reasons of feeling unhappy above. Its a problem and we need to focus on solution for the problem. So what are the solutions to get over the unhappiness? (I hope all of us want to be happy).First thing is to understand that all our negative emotions always try to give us a positive message. For eg, negative emotions like guilt, regret, hurt, loneliness etc always try to say something positive to us however we always try to avoid the message by negative behaviours like self pity, smoking, drinking etc. Instead, we must create more good ways to give ourselves pleasure. We must not depend on someone else for our happiness. Our source of happiness should be something that we can control ourselves. Do you think you can control your partners mind so that you get happiness? Obviously not and you shouldn’t be doing it too.
Numb/tingly feeling during pneumonia?
Hi, I'm just wondering if anyone else has experienced this... I currently have bronchitis and walking pneumonia and I've been on antibiotics for the last few days. I've been getting a little bit better everyday, but it's been the most pain I've ever experienced. Anyways, this morning I had a violent attack of coughing and felt very weak afterwards...I felt like I couldn't catch my breath and of course every muscle in my body has been worn out from this happening the last few days. Just as I was trying to get myself together and stop coughing I had the absolute strangest feeling I've ever felt. First I felt it in my stomach and thought maybe I was about to throw up, but it was somewhat different. Within only about a minute the feeling spread out in all directions of my body...from my head to my toes and through all of my limbs. It was like a numb/tingly feeling and almost felt cold...I know that sounds weird but I could feel where it was spreading in my body. I felt very shaky and strange and it freaked me out so I began pacing back in forth trying to get the feeling to go away. All I kept thinking was I was about to have a stroke or something terrible (i'm a college student studying in a health care related field and I think I've been hearing too much lol) I was convinced if it got any worse I would call 911. Thankfully the feeling went away in just a few more minutes and I was back to normal. I'm fine now and not even coughing as much as I was...but I'm just curious as to what happened? It was just the strangest feeling I've ever had. If anyone knows what could have happened, please let me know. I will ask my doctor about it as well but I'd just like to hear if this has happened to anyone else.... (Oh and by the way, I'm only 20 and normally in very good health)
What is this feeling in my belly??
I am 22 weeks pregnant today with me and my husbands first (woo-hoo!) and I’ll feel the baby kicking and poking me, then it’ll feel like something is pushing my belly outward in there, like a stretching feeling, like the baby has his / her feet against my belly pushing outwards. Has anyone else felt this? Is it the baby or am I imagining things? Thanks in advance for the answers and congratulations to everyone who is pregnant or even already had their baby(s)!
34 weeks pregnant...no bond with the baby?
That's perfectly normal, especially of it's your first and you have no idea how it's going to be once the baby arrives. It's not abnormal to take time to connect with your baby, even after she's born. It took time to connect with my daughter when she was born, especially since she was a bit early and it took nearly 2 weeks of finger-feeding before she could nurse, and I was so tired. When it's our first baby, everything is changing, our whole lives. I think more women than not have trouble with that "instant connection". There's so much new input, how could we be anything but a bit confused? I found it easier to imagine the baby when it was my second, but even then, it's still just speculation until the baby comes. All babies are different, so our relationships to them are different. Don't worry. You WILL love your baby. I guarantee it. The connection will develop naturally, sooner or later, as you care for your baby. An aside, though--If you feel like you are still having trouble after the baby is born and you have had time to acclimate and get to know each other, talk to your doctor and see if you might be having a problem with depression.
Has anyone quit taking Zoloft and Wellbutrin XL cold turkey?
I have decided I don't want to be on these drugs anymore. I have tried tapering in the past, but I couldn't do it, I felt like crap so I started taking my regular dose. Now I have decided to just stop, and deal with the withdrawal. Anyone else done this, how did it work out? Is it very dangerous or do you just feel sick for a while? Any tips or thoughts on this?