How can I destroy my ex's life?
Thank God it was only two years of your life, right? That's the bright side bud, trust me. She's a nutcase, you get that, don't you? Outta control, emotionally and mentally unstable. She may APPEAR happy right now guy, but I have news for you...She won't mask these issues for long, trust me. Sooner or later? She will repeat the same pattern IF she hasn't sought long term help. You should get this. You shouldn't be "scarred for life" dear. Just a bad relationship that taught you many lessons, most of all, how to spot and not stay with a nutcase if things start to go south with weird behavior like the former girlfriend. BE THANKFUL YOU'RE OUT OF IT! BE GRATEFUL FOR THE LESSONS LEARNED! LET GO OF YOUR ANGER AND COUNT YOURSELF LUCKY TO HAVE THE CHANCE FOR A CLEAN SLATE AND TO MOVE ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you victimize yourself here? You're no better than her to some degree, and just a tad bit as crazy. The fact you want "revenge" is indicative of YOUR not so well-being! So get a clue, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start again like MOST normal human beings do when they've come out of something bad in their lives. You're plenty young to start again and be more watchful...but you ALSO need to ensure you do the "work" on yourself if you were ANY part of the negativity of this relationship, get it? It usually takes "two to tango". So a little circumspection would be wise on your part as well... Grace
I have no motivation and it is destroying my life.?
I can't find the motivation to do anything. I'm 21 years old, and I work as a bus Person at a restaurant 30 hours a week. I've had the owner of a car business tell me that I can call him whenever I want if I want work, and I can never motivate myself to call him. I can't even motivate myself to do my laundry or clean my apartment half the time. All I ever want to do is drink, play video games. I've lost interest in guitar playing, one of my strings broke and I can't bring myself to drive to the music store and buy new strings, the only thing I ever spend my money on is beer almost every night. My dad rides me all the time about how I never do anything except drink and sit on the computer. I realize that these are all problems but I can't bring myself to fix them. My dad thinks it's just because I'm a lazy piece of you know what. I told him the I would kill him, and of course I didn't actually mean it, I was just mad at the time I don't actually want to kill him and he pretty much resents me now. He told me that if my other 2 brothers stopped talking to him it would bother him, but if I stopped talking to him it wouldn't bother him one bit. I don't think it's because I'm lazy I think they're more deep rooted issues that are going on with me, and I don't know what to do. I'm considering seeking professional help, I don't know whether to do outpatient therapy or impatient. My lifestyle right now has become unmanageable and I need help.
Help! Furries ruined my life! How do I become a normal person again?
When I was a teenager I got into furries, thinking they were just fans of things like Star Fox and stuff. I used to be very creative and used to read fantasy and enjoy it for what it was. But now I can't write or draw anything unless it is pornography. Furries have killed my creativity, all they care about is sex! I've even lost all interest in real human women. I can only get off to furry porn. This has destroyed my life, how can I become normal again???
Would becoming a cam girl ruin my life?
Being a webcams model, cam hoe, whatever you want to call it, interest me. I heard you can make bank from just getting naked online. I'm trying to move out of my controlling, abusive, Mom's house, and need money ASAP! I'm getting a regular part time job, but I won't get all the money I need by the time I plan on leaving. I was thinking I could wear heavy makeup and a wig to disguise my self? If people found out, I wouldn't care that much. I just wouldn't want it to bite me in the butt 5 years from now. I want to work in an industry where I might become famous though.
How can I become confident if my physical ugliness is ruining my life?
I remember in college I took an advanced algebra class that I had no business being in. I had a hard time keeping up and found myself being envious of those who just “got it.”The guy who sat in front of me was no instagram model by society's standards, but the way he talked and carried himself made him so appealing to me. He was smart, very smart. Always asking the questions nobody else would and challenged the professor.I never did speak to him, but I did admire him.My point is this, you don't need good looks to be confident. Just be passionate about something. Nothing makes people more beautiful than when they talk about what they love.Beauty fades but your insights last for as long as your heart beats. Display your passions and intellect onto others and you might be surprised who it excites.
Depression has ruined my life. How do I turn it around?
I remember the time I met a very powerful preacher in India at his residence. I went up to him and I wept bitterly. I wept because I was depressed and sad about life. I was really sad and upset because of all that I was going through. To my surprise - the preacher suggested for us to go for a movie. I was like “what?”. And before I knew it - I went with him to watch a movie, and then after that we went to eat ice-cream. And after that went for walking around and talking. And then end of the day - he dropped me back home. And since it was late - he asked me to come and meet the following day after prayers and worship.I very happily went to meet him the following day. He looked at me smiling from ear to ear. As I walked towards him, I gave a super big hug because I was so happy. He too was happy and then he asked me to sit down. As we sat down and spoke, he told me this. (and I am paraphrasing)“Son, I want you to know that the day we spent together, I truly enjoyed it immensely. You were the most wonderful friend I could spend time with. But I want you to know, I have to go. And tomorrow when I go, I don’t want you to go back to that lonely place where you came from. There is always a world out there where you can enjoy, have fun, be happy. Life is more than just being sad and feeling sad. But no one can make you happy, until you choose and decide to be happy. So the next time you feel sad, and no one is around, I want you to remember what we did together. We did everything that was fun, exciting and joyful. And we did it because we choose to make it happen. So the next time, you feel depressed - make it a choice - A choice not to be depressed. But a choice to be happy.”Loy Machedo
What do you do when you have completely ruined your life?
Using this horrible analogy, your life is a bowl, the universe (wathcamacallit) fills the bowl with experiences.When you view your life as ruined, the bowl had fallen and is now broken in pieces.What do you do?Pick up the pieces and mend them with gold. There is actually such thing in the world, it's called Kintsugi.So how do you apply this? Ask yourself this question, "What is golden to me? What is the most exciting thing I would like to do right this moment?" And you go do that.Once you've mend your life, this bowl of yours will be UNIQUE, there will not be any other bowl - broken or not - that has the pattern like yours.This is why kintsugi is so beautiful: They are all the same, and yet they are all different. Sounds like us human yet? :)More on ruined life, go read up on Stephen Hawking, and how motor neuron disease slowly "traps" him in his body.In Kintsugi's terms, his bowl is almost made fully out of gold now.He can't even talk! Yet... look at how bright (or golden) he is.May you find inspiration from him.All is not lost so long your heart still beats.Be a kintsugi, my friend.