Have you ever rejected someone you liked?
A couple of years ago I rejected a guy I was into because there were many changes and circumstances ocurring in my life that were overwhelming and needed my full attention. I did not think it was the best time to be with someone....I was really overwhelmed with career issues and family issues, i didnt quite knew myself that well at that time..i was not sure about what i wanted at all!!!. On the other hand, he was accomplishing what he wanted or at least, he seemed to be following his own path. He didnt mind that i was having those issues, he said he loved me in spite of that......but some part of me was yelling at myself that he deserved someone with whom he would be able to share and enjoy his accomplishments, instead of being with someone who would be worried, stressed out and not able to enjoy the relationship fully.He was a really intelligent, caring and loving guy...but i loved him and respected him enough to walk away. i think it was really mature behavior from my part....Not all stories are the same.... You will hear a thousand people saying "when someone rejects you is because they didnt like you enough" but i think that is not 100% true....when one is not ready (mentally, emotionally) for a relationship one must not force it...and if the other person seem to be in love with you is better to walk away and let this person find someone who deserves him/ her. A relationship is a terrain to fully enjoy both of you, both of who you are....not to feel insecure, afraid and guilty all the time, as i was experiencing it.Reject is not always translated as " i dont like you" or " you are not good enough for me"....Though this guy now has a girlfriend i do not regret what happened because i know that i did what i was supossed to do: respect the development and experiences of someone i cared about. If i had accepted our relationship with all those issues on my back it wouldnt have worked out and i would have felt like i was holding him back from growing along with a person with his same level of development and confidence. Mine was a clear case of " if you really love someone set him free".
Have you ever been rejected by someone you liked? How did they reject you? Was it rude or okay?
Most people that rejected me were passive about it. They did not even really hang out with me, and I realized by these actions alone that they did not want to waste anytime being with me even as a friend. I was free from them once I realized it, I moved on as soon as I got the message.Others that rejected me? Two of them were jerks about it, first one that was a jerk about it, I bought carnations for him (I did not get the memo that guys don't like girls buying them flowers). I sent my friends to give him the carnations, he ends up ripping them up and that is the only time I took rejection harshly to the point where I wanted revenge on him, but that didn't go well. My so-called friends told the teachers on me and the teachers had a “heart to heart” talk with me, about why my stupid revenge plan was wrong. This was back in middle school though, I was immature what can I say? I think when people laughed at my attempt to send my crush flowers instead of being more sympathetic of me, I think that is what really broke the camel’s back. It just turned my heart black.Second guy? This was in high school. He got word that I crushed on him, he told a friend to tell me she was going out with him. The friend told me, and I just accepted it, but later the friend confessed to me that my crush told her to tell me that they were going out and that she lied about it. Was it immature, yes. Was it passive, yes. Was she just trying to help her friend? Yes. Am I that hurt, not really, I just don't understand why he didn't tell me himself. He put his friend in a really bad position, at least she confessed the truth eventually, I’ll give her that.Another one rejected me kindly. I am now happy to say the one who rejected me kindly, found someone better for him and I wish them the best.If all these people had the right to reject me, then I have every right to reject people I don't want to give a chance to. Yes you may get some immature rejections, and others might be more gentle. You need to reject people gentely, not passively or cruelly. The moment they ask you you out, just say no and mean it. Don't pussyfoot around.
Have you ever been rejected by a guy you liked?
Ever been rejected? Did it hurt? Did you get rejected because you were a loser or because he was a loser? Did you try to kill yourself by drinking away your sorrows? Was he cute? Did you ever think the guy who rejected you was a sorry mofo, and you really didn't have any reason to be sad? Are you still pining over the fact that u got rejected? Didn't he reject you because he was a sorry loser?
Have you ever rejected someone romantically?
I have rejected guys, although I'm not sure what sense of "rejection" you are asking us to further identify. I have rejected guys who asked me out on dates, rejected guys who I dated but things just didn't work out, and I have also been rejected. I have never regretted turning down a guy. I have however regretted not turning down a guy.
Rejecting someone you actually like...?
I've actually just came off of something like this. The reason was because I am a distancer and like you guessed I don't want to be hurt. Just like I had thought, they were the type I was protecting myself from... I actually and I don't know about everybody but it depends if they will still keep thinking about the person. I sometimes do, sometimes I'm glad I did it, it just depends on the situation. When the person stopped chasing or desiring me, I felt an absence slightly, and I just ignore it. Some people may miss it, if you like the person, then you should miss it, then you would think it was for the best. It may take a while for them to realize it. Like I said once before, it depends. Hope the best to you.
Have you been rejected by someone you loved? How much did that hurt you?
Everyone takes rejection differently. For someone it takes few weeks to recover while some may take years to come out. As answered by someone here, the more you love someone more is the pain. It also depends on whether you were dumped before and or have you been in love/relationship before? If its your first love (and as a result first rejection) it hurts the MOST.It also depends if it was a straight forward rejection or you were rejected after a prolonged period of a complicated relation (where the person on the other end neither accepts nor rejects you), In that case you builds up false hopes and dreams only to find out one day that you got rejected.As an example of how hard it may hurt and how drastically it changes your life I would like to tell you my rejection story:She was(is) my first love and after I proposed her (Aug 2012) we entered a complicated relationship. Later on things changed and she rejected me.I went into clinical depression, used to cry, would lock myself in my room in darkness, slept all the time, lost 5 kg weight, my blood pressure raised to 160/120 which comes under heart attack category, had to use psychiatric treatment and was prescribed heavy dose of anti depressent drugs which kept me lifeless for about a month. I was supposed to appear for my grad school entrance exam during that period (sep-oct '12) but I had to drop my plans as I was obviously not in my right senses. I lost one year and I will have to again apply for grad schools next yearIn short I did not take it well..But I am quite okay now. Still recovering from the loss but have regained my senses.What I have learned is that it takes time to recover. The more your heart is hurt the more time it takes to heal..
Would you date someone who rejected you initially?
Yes. And I have. And I've dated those who I rejected, too, initially.Time has a marvelous way of changing things; and we change and grow a great deal, too. Generally, it's not worth sticking around for more rejection; but sometimes, perseverence, patience, or just some time out has remarkable impact and effect. It just depends on how open your heart is; and sometimes, on how much you need someone who knew you in a different way at a different time, or how much they might need you. Humility, lack of ego, recognition of different attributes at a different time - there are tons of reasons why things work out the way they do. The reasons why I wouldn't date some of the people who'd rejected me initially who might want to date me now or in the recent past (and there are quite a few of those, actually) are not based on justice or karma or anything like that; they're more about changing tastes and experience. Reasons why I might date someone who'd rejected me before are the same; I get why someone who didn't like me then might like me a lot more now; maybe they grew up, maybe I grew up, maybe the approach is different, maybe things were misinterpreted. There are people who I didn't reject, or who didn't reject me who I wish I'd been wise enough to reject, or vice-versa. But that's a different question. Ugga - regrets give me the shivers. Things don't always work out; but heck, I can say, as can many of us (because we're not dating anyone at the moment) that we haven't had any successful relationships ever because none of them have stuck through till right this minute. Then again, I've had heaps and tons of excellent relationships with men that began romantically, or got romantic in the middle, or got romantic at the end, or never got romantic at all - and I think they've all been quite successful, thank you very much.Know how to set your boundaries; stay open-hearted and flexible. And understand that sometimes, rejection of you really is about them, and not about you. That's OK. Sometimes the rejection will be about you, too. So learn something new, and move along now; you never know but that you might get another chance to evaluate and develop that relationship.