Have you ever been dumped for someone else?
I was dumped very recently... without being told the true reason. I had to find out from my best friends what she really left me for. How did you get over it? I'm going insane...
Are great girls ever really dumped?
Imagine you are this Guy saving every penny you earn to buy your Dream Car. After months and months of saving you own it. You wake up everyday, go to your garage and see this shiny reflection of yours on polished car. You take the car for long drives on the weekend.Life’s truly beautiful until work starts getting to you. You are promoted and sit on the topmost floor. Your major chunk of time is spent at office. You no longer have time to polish your car, take it to service or go on long drives. You know the car will be there and you take it for granted.After a few years, you see the car gives lot of trouble as you didn’t maintain it the past few years. In short you took it for granted. The perfect car turns into a nightmare, as it makes unruly noises, won’t start sometimes and chugs a lot of fuel than before thus burning a hole in your pocket.Very soon, you decide to sell it and get another model, one that is more suited to your lifestyle. One which requires less maintenance and doesn’t burn a hole in your pocket in terms of fuel.This analogy can be well related in every relationship. You need to take time and effort to make relationship’s work. The “Great” girl/guy factor lasts for a short time, after which you need to work upon the relationship.When you realize thinks don’t work out, the best thing to do is move on, rather than trying to force things upon each other. Like Sean Kernan's answer to Are great girls ever really dumped? , using high school terms like “Dumping” or “Breaking Up” won’t help, rather, it eats into your ego.
Have you ever dumped someone for being a bad kisser?
Yes, I have. Once.I was in grade ten and only fifteen years old. I was unaware of how to talk about those things and I didn't know that someone could change or improve their kissing with practice. I was an overwhelmed kid with no clue what I was doing.Basically when we kissed it felt like he was trying to murder me with his tongue. He shoved it so far down my throat I thought I would choke and he swirled it around aggressively so that there was a lot of saliva left on my face when we kissed. I'll never forget it because it felt like an assault every time we kissed.So I dumped him.I couldn't take it!The crazy thing is that almost exactly ten years later we dated again and he was an incredible kisser. We stayed together for five years and I was relieved he had improved his kissing game but had he not, I would have been more comfortable discussing it and working on improving it at that age.Now, I would not dump someone for being a bad kisser unless they were unwilling to learn. It's easily remedied and not reason enough to ruin a good relationship or potential relationship in my opinion.
How do i get over being dumped for someone else?
My ex dumped me on our anniversary he said "he needed time" and got a new girlfriend 5 days later! I am SO HURT! This happened in Jan and I still cry day and night. He posts on facebook how happy he is with her and how she's his everything..the same things he told me. It hurts so bad to see that. He puts pics of them on facebook and one pic she was laying on him and she had on the hat I bought. Him for in birthday in nov. I am so unhappy. Sometimes I just feel like I shouldn't even be here anymore. I don't understand why he would do something like this to me and I didn't do anything wrong. All I every did was try to make him happy! I deleted my facebook today because I can't bare to see them happy together. What can I do to be happy n be my normal self again? Please help!
He took my virginity and then dumped me. I'm really sad and broken. How do I cope with this pain?
I am very sorry that he turned out to be such a terrible individual. I understand that sex must have been a really big decision for you. You obviously have trusted him a lot. Allow yourself to grieve a little for your lost trust and broken relationship. It is okay to grieve. But once you are done, get back up on your feet and don't cry ever again for the same reason. The guy treated you so badly, so why would you want to give him the added satisfaction that your whole life is defined by him? It's not. Believe me, things will change, I know its hard to believe right now but over time, this will be a small blip from the past. Make sure you find someone in life that is broadminded enough to understand that people can have a past and it means nothing. Please don't carry this baggage with you, it will only weaken you. You are going to come out of this just fine, believe me. Here are a few things that might help: Keep yourself engaged with work, hobbies etc. Stay around friends, being alone invites sad thoughts. Believe that one incident isn't going to jeopardize your life. Sex with another person will be a fresh episode and a positive experience. Don't let that thought occur to you that your past will affect every interaction you ever have with a guy. That is not true. Be happy, you have dodged a bullet. He could have taken far more from you than just your virginity, it could have been self respect! Take care and be happy. Life is far bigger than any one aspect of it...
Should you ever get back with an ex who left you for someone else?
I did. I took an ex back twice after he left me for someone else. Each time he told me he’d made a huge mistake and that it was me that he really loved and each time, I believed him.I still loved him and it was hard for me to say no. Until, I did.He left me again a third time for the same woman and I had had enough so I closed the door, permanently. In fact, I moved towns.Here’s what you have to consider:This person was shopping for someone else while they were still with you, so, they were lying to you for some time.This person did not have the courage to come to you and tell you how they were feeling, so, they set you up to fail.You won’t ever trust this person again, not like you used to. Every time they are late, or don’t turn up at all, you will be wondering what they are doing and who they are doing it with.I have a saying “Never say never” but, when it comes to letting an ex back in that didn’t have the courage to end your relationship and go out on their own, I think it’s fair to say that they’re never going to put you first.And, for a relationship to be successful, you have to be kind, loving, and considerate of one another.