Have you ever wanted to get married but it just didn’t happen?
Yes, my first love who I was in and out of a relationship all through high school and some college. I wanted to marry him badly but it didn’t work out. We tried to make the relationship work again and again but we were just incompatible. In many ways we helped each other grow and mature so we could be better emotionally equipped for our future relationships. In hindsight I can now see why things happened as they did. I needed to learn from the dissolution of that relationship and feel the loss of something I placed such value in. The loss of it was part of the reason that I began a spiritual search in the first place. Suffering will often lead one to a path to discover Truth.
Would you ever get married right after you graduate high school?
At 18 I couldn't wait to get married to boyfriend. Then of 2 years. But now I'm so so so glad we waited at 18 you have no clue what you want let alone getting married. Real life *house, bills, stress of money, your own insurance, a job &/or college. Is way to much to take on plus planning a wedding then the stress of keeping a marriage going. You have to find yourself first! Marriage is the last thing they need. 20-40 years ago marriage at 18 worked now, hardly!
If she wanted to get married, would she bring it up?
If my girlfriend wanted to get married, would she have mentioned something by now? We’ve been together for two years this November and we’ve never really talked about getting engaged or married. We were friends before we got together so we already knew each other’s friends and parents,family, etc. We are graduating next semester and starting grad school right after and have full schedules as it is, so maybe we just haven’t had time to really talk that far ahead. We’re visiting her parents for New Years and I’m thinking about maybe touching on the subject. So would she have mentioned it if she wanted to? A close friend brought this up and I can’t stop thinking about it so I may be overthinking it.
Should i get married while im still in high school?
In our society people are brainwashed into believing that 17 is too young for a girl to get married. However, until after the early 1900's 16 was a common age for girls to get married and the marriages were very successful. It has to do with your maturity level. If you are intelligent and you both have been raised to be responsible and if your husband will have a good job so that money, which is the most common reason for divorce, is not a problem than 17 is not too young. If fact there are many advantages to marrying younger. You are not set in your ways so you are more adaptable. You are more flexible so babies pop out much easier. And, when you are young, you have the energy, stamina, and strength to better care for babies. Women that wait until they are thirty to get married, are more likely to get divorced and they have more problems with childbirth, and they are less able to give their children all the attention they need.
Can i get married to my boyfriend while he is in tech school for air force and live with him on base or off ?
Hello Nikki. YES. His technical school is longer than 6 months. Of course his command has to authorize it but even back in 1962 in my school squadron at Keesler AFB, Mississippi we had an Airman who was the only one married. He was permitted to reside off base with his wife. Of course, he had to make all the other student requirements like the rest of us. (It will mean nothing to the AF how long you know each other and have dated. They don't care. Of course, when will you have the time to marry him? Not while he is in technical school. He will go right to technical school (whether it is Mississippi, Texas, or California) directly from basic training. He won't have time to get married. If you were already married it might have been able to be arranged. Of course, we know you are "young" and in love. But, he joined the Air Force for 4 years! And, he is going to serve whether he is single or married. And, you as an AF wife to be have to learn to WAIT. One reason to NOT get married YET is that he needs to only be concerned about studying his job in technical school without worrying about the responsibilities of being married man. You would be actually hampering him by being married at this time. He won't be able to study effectively being a "husband." You could actually be hurting him by marrying early. Why not wait until he graduates from school, gets 15 days leave. Get married when he comes home and go with him to his first AF base? Yeah. I know. You love him so much and you can't sleep without him by your side. But, try to think more grown up. OK? What if every one in his school squadron got married during technical school and the entire barracks wanted to move out with their wives? Guess what? No one would be authorized to do it! Or, the AF would kick them all out of the service for failure to train. Patience, please. Best wishes, Larry Smith Senior Master Sergeant, USAF (Ret.) First Sergeant
Do you ever wish you married your high school sweetheart?
Occasionally. My high school sweetheart is one of the most kindhearted and intelligent people I have ever met. We have remained close friends since high school and I hope to include him in my circle of friends for the rest of my life.However, I am confident that he and I are better off as friends and that we each married people who are perfect for us.
Has anyone ever married their childhood crush or friend?
I’d like to share my story.Me and my wife met when we were less than a day old. My mother had me on 28th October just after midnight. 30 minutes prior (27th October) another woman gave birth to her daughter (my wife) two doors away in the same hospital. Our mothers became fast friends with each other and decided to make us friends, introducing us before we aged a day.Me and Rachel grew up together as best friends. We were completely inseparable as kids. Eventually her parents moved just three houses away from ours when we were four. We went to the same pre-school, school, and secondary school (Ireland). We had joint birthday parties so we could get all of our friends in the same location.When I turned 10 years old I started developing a crush on her. When we had sleepovers I would start getting shy sleeping with her (we slept in the same bed). And I just wanted to kiss her.Just before we both turned 14 she had become amazingly attractive over the Summer (2007) and she caught the eye of some of my male classmates. Afraid that she might date one of them I decided to finally bite the bullet and asked her out. She said yes. We dated all the way throughout school despite expectations from others that we would break up.I proposed to her at Graduation and she said ‘yes’. We married at 19 in a small ceremony with family and a few close friends and had our first child at 20.We are now 24 with two kids and I am still crazy about her after all the years we went through as children, teenagers and now adults.We recently celebrated our fifth anniversary. There have been ups and downs throughout the years but we have stuck together. Being married to someone you have known your whole life is one of the most amazing feelings for us both.UPDATE: I see not many are believing my love story just because I’m anonymous. For your information I go anonymous on every answer I give on Quora.And it is true. It may be unbelievable because it is rare, but some childhood sweethearts do end up together. It is common in my family. My parents were childhood sweethearts, my grandparents were (maternal side), and my second cousin is marrying hers on Friday (7/9/2018). Don’t doubt love. Embrace it. It may take a while to find ‘the one’, but you’ll find him/her.
I'm sixteen. I love my girlfriend and want to marry her. We’ve talked about this. Is it too soon? Should I wait until I finish high school?
I married my high school sweetheart. I was a year ahead of her. When we married she was a senior in high school and I had just graduated Boot Camp and get stationed in Korea.This being said, statistically most high school relationships don’t last. As you grow you become a different person. The teenage you can be considerably different from the 20 something year. And the young 20 something you can be different from the older 20 something new. Who you are now may work great with her. But who you will become may be completely incompatible with her.Now, it is possible that the two of you can marry grow old and die together. But those kind of relationships don’t necessarily exist anymore. They were from an era where the force was almost unheard of. Now, it’s just way too easy to bail. And as a man who’s been divorced twice, it’s expensive and can screw your life up for a very very very long time.If you truly do love each other and plan on being together for the rest of your lives, then there’s no reason to take your time. There’s no reason to wait and get married after you spent some time together as adults. Get to know what it’s like dealing with each other and being in a relationship with each other when you have responsibilities of adulthood. When you’re paying your own bills and financial burden is something that you’ve taken on.Our stress, drama and issues become something more and go to a whole new level when we’re out on our own. If you can survive this, then I’d say you might have a chance. But still, wait a few years. If you truly love each other then I won’t matter.Plus, it’ll give you time to save money for an amazing wedding and an even more amazing honeymoon. If you start saving now and get married between the ages of 24 and 26, then you’ll have a ceremony that you’ll never forget. And by that time who you are as an adult will be mostly set. And if you are still compatible by then you’ll know.