Instead of asking a kid "what do you want to be when you grow up?", what's a better way to ask?
Having thoughtful conversations with children of all ages helps their brains develop and grow. One easy way to promote conversation in your household is to ask question. A different approach to the, “what do you want to be when you grow up” prompt could be, “what problems do you want to solve when you grow up.” You could ask them what they want to change in the world or what impact they want to have for the greater good. You could ask your children what makes them feel good, such as helping others, writing, being outside etc. Then you can ask them what problems or issues there might be with these things they love to do. What could make these experiences better for them or for others?In this world of technology, our children will have experiences that we can only imagine and their career options will broad. The true world changers are those that can see a problem, big or small and creatively offer suggestions for improvement. We will always need great doctors and teachers and engineers but even in these more traditional career paths, we need innovators and creative minds to keep progressing society forward.What is something that you would like to change? What problems do you see that need to be solved? What are some ways to make peoples lives better? These are the questions that get small minds expanding and thinking outside the box.
Why do you stop asking questions as you grow up and start answering them?
Maybe as you start to understand things, you are capable of imparting knowledge yourself so you answer more questions.Do you really stop asking questions though? I mean you just asked one right now. I think if anything, maybe you start asking less questions and answering more because your knowledge base has expanded, but on second thought, I haven't started asking less questions as I get older. I think that we ask questions to gain understanding, and as I get older, I'm still confused and I don't know everything that I want to. I've just been asking different questions; harder questions, thoughtful questions, some that even that don't necessarily need to be answered but that I want to hear people's opinion on etc. I've just stopped asking my parents as much and started looking for the answers myself in different ways (e.g I'm on Quora right now). Can you relate?
Is it fair for me to ask my boyfriend to stop drinking?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. Growing up my family had abused drugs and alcohol, killing most of them, and leaving me a tad bit scarred. So, now many years later, when I see people I care about involved in these activities I become extremely stressed and upset. When I first met my boyfriend, he took me to a party. I was extremely upset and uncomfortable. But, me being the person i am, I know what I want, so I immediately addressed that I want to be with someone that doesn't drink or do drugs, and I ended things before anyone had feelings. The next night, he called me and we talked for 5 hours, where I made my feelings clear. He said that it was not an issue and so we continued dating. Now, 2 years in, this is still an issue, I have asked and pleaded that he not drink, he will promise, but it still gets brought up and I am made to feel like I am some controlling monster. But, I am not. I just don't want that in my life, and I made it clear from the beginning. And, now we are at the point that there are deep feelings involved on both ends. I don't feel that it is fair to do this to me, when I tried to prevent it. We are adults, he is 31, he had his time to party with his friends and go through the fun college stage, and now all I want is to be married and have a family, without drugs and alcohol. I want my children to have the childhood I didn't have. I'm already contemplating saything this is the end of our relationship, as he refuses to even discuss anything with me at this point. But, i guess I want to just know if I was in the right, or not?
At what age did you stop asking your parents' permission for anything?
I'm 22 in college and of course stay with my parents. My dad is really laid-back, but my mom always wants to know where I'm going and who I'm going with. Which I'm ok with, but there this problem I've with my mother where I always have to ask "Can I" instead of just telling her... Then when we argue she always come at me that the reason I've to ask her can I go places so she can teach me responsibilities. How is that teaching me responsibilities when I come home at a decent time and have my own money. I believe every since I started dating my boyfriend of last year she start treating me like a kid. I have to ask can i go here and there with him. Have to ask can I spend the night with him? & it getting to the point that its breaking my relationship with boyfriend apart. What should i do?
Can I ask my boyfriend to stop talking to old flings?
of course you can. but you should be a little more secure then that if it really comes down to it he loves you. letting them talk is just showing how secure you are
What was your life like growing up?
My childhood was so normal, it was almost stereotypical.My parents have been married for almost 30 years, and I almost never heard them fighting. We lived in a middle class suburban neighborhood. My brother and I attended private school. We have always lived comfortably, and even when my parents struggled during the recession, they made it work for us.I had a typical love, hate relationship with my siblings. I always had a close-knit group of friends in school. My parents were strict, but not so strict that I wasn’t allowed to do anything.I got into some trouble as a teenager, I rebelled, I talked back, and I did things I shouldn’t have done, as all teenagers do. I put my parents through emotional hell, but they loved me, so they carried the burden with me. Our relationship significantly improved after I turned 21.I’m very lucky to have lived a “normal” and comfortable life. I’m thankful for that every single day; not everybody is blessed with a life of stability.