I am 25, not yet settled and depressed about my career. I have written a lot of competitive exams and failed in all the exams. What should I do?
Sadly… This is life. My mom always tells me that Life isnt a golden platter. Everyone has a bad phase in life and this is just your bad phase. the way it came, it’ll go as well.Let me tell you my story. A bachelor and Masters Degree from a Top B School in India. Second Masters degree from Abroad. I am still jobless. Everyday I see my friends as compared to whom I am way much smarter working in really good firms in Mumbai and Delhi. When I wake up and I see people getting dressed and leaving for Office, I feel someone is piercing my chest with a very sharp knife. But I am helpless. I have given nearly 150 job applications, 20 interviews but still at the last moment some shit happens and I lose it.When this Wasn’t enough, the Love of my life turned out to be a hopeless cheating loser. When I somehow managed to cope with these two sorrows, I lost a Family Member.Hence, I sometimes feel like screaming at God for doing so bad with me for no fault of mine. I believe that every human has an emotional threshold, which once crossed, we fall apart.This is life mate. Everywhere u see you will find injustice and unfairity but we have to live with it. I trust myself that academically I was Smart, hardworking and today the only problem is luck isn’t on my side. Its the same to you. Its just your bad phase and everything is gonna pass soon and you’ll see success in your career. You are just 25, you have a long way to go. To hell with all the negative minded people in your life. Don’t be very hard on yourself. Just have a little more patience. Trust me when I say this - “ONE DAY, EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY.”
I haven't seen my dad in about 3 years, and I think it's starting to really have an effect on me?
People/parents tear you down to build themselves up- Think about this for awhile. Words are not said to help you at all. Its only a trick to make abusers/parents feel good. When people are sick they say mean things to feel better. This goes for people at school as well. Abusers use put downs, ignoring or hitting. You are tricked and thats why you feel bad. Abusers lie and have lies mixed with past truths other times. They have problems so its not your fault. Hurting people hurt others and were abused themselves. You are being abused. Divorce, father gone, abuse, ignoring can make children grow up with all types of so called "Mental Problems" or turn them into abusers. Know mean people often are calling you names of mental disorders to abuse you. The "Chemical Imbalance" claim is false. It has been thoroughly discredited by researchers. They "vote" to make it a disease.." Its total fraud" -- Dr. Fred Baughman Neurologist. It's okay to live away from abusers verbal or physical and cut them off. Dont speak to them. They will never change unless forced. Remember- Read 20 sites daily on Emotional Abuse- also Tell your teacher. God wants you to Forgive- which does not require talking to them again- Call Child Protective Services transitional housing to age 21. Source(s): Experience seeing this work.. Contact me I have questions for you.
I havent seen my dad in 14 years?
right now i am 16.. i have a mom and a step dad.. i never knew my real dad beacuse he left me my mom and my brother when i was two.. about two months ago i founds my half brother.. i was really exited and wanted to get to know him.. i knew my real father owed my mom money because he had never paid child support. i told my mom that i had found my brother and that i wanted my mom to get the money she deserved. now my mom talks about how my real dad would want to have a relationship with me and my brother. i was shocked at first that i really hadent thought about it. i really want to have a relationship with my half sister and half brother . but not my dad. i know people talk about second chances but i feel that what my dad did just leaving us and with out paying child support.. i dont feel like he deserves another chance.. do you ? this is my question do you belive that what my dad did to me , my mom and my little brother that he deserves to have a relationship with me.....?
Haven't seen my dad in 10 years? I'm writing him a letter,what to say?
Just remember that most men do not handle divorces well, which is why they do disappear. A large percentage usually commit suicide, so if you think he just didn't care, it's more likely he was severely depressed. By the time he got a handle on it, he would have thought it too late to try. http://www.aolnews.com/nation/article/suicide-rate-greater-among-divorced-men-research-finds/19388300 Don't worry about the wording. Just say you want to get to know him again, and you understand things happen that we all feel sorry for later. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\
Havent talked to my dad in 6 months. help?
Well, i just got to meet my daughter for the 1st time since birth 3 weeks ago. And she's 14 now. I didn't get to spend any life moments with her and it was because of her mother holding an immature hateful grudge. We haven't stopped talking and building a father/daughter relationship. This is mostly because we never got to see each other. Thinking about the past 14 years w/o my daughter, i can see that your dad is latching onto something that takes his mind off things. In this case, it's a disgusting alcoholic tramp. He's not acceptng blame for the breakdown in communication because he doesn't want to accept the guilt. He knows he's being a terrible father and it's likely that he drinks and runs to her to forget about his misgivings and irresponsibilities. (He sounds identical to my daughters' mother) If you want him back, it's going to be VERY hard and hurtful. But you may win him back by giving him more love and attention then his tramp whore and alcohol. Be careful. You're fighting the 2 biggest evils men succumb to. Sex and alcohol. But you do have a more powerful ally, a daughters love. Try calling him EVERYDAY and just tell him you love him. no small talk. no lecture. let him come around. just tell him everyday that you love him and see what happens. You're gonna graduate soon, and having him there would be great. Knowing you love him might get him there, and sober.
I haven't seen my daughter in over 10 yrs. Do you think that she would or wouldn't want me to contact her?
I haven't seen my daughter in over 10 yrs. My ex and I separated about the year before. I lost the 2 loves of my life so i suffered from depression but didn't think of it as depression then. When I was young my father would verbally and physically abuse my mother and when we visited on weekends he would always be angry and unhappy. I didn't want my daughter to go deal with me when I was depressed I was neither physically or verbally abusive to anyone in my life. when I'm angry i usually close my self down and say nothing to anyone. My ex remarried 2 months after our divorce and tried to get me to sign over my rights as a father. Stupidly I then cut my self off from them so she couldn't get Me to sign it over. My daughter is just turned 18 and was wondering if anyone else had gone through something my daughter did and should I contact her? I could never get up the courage to see her.
Does anyone have a brother or sister they haven't seen or spoken to in years?
I have a brother that lives in a different country to me. We have facebook, but dont even talk on there, we have not seen each other in person in 13 years. He is not interested in having a realationship with me, which makes me very sad, as I have a little girl, and so does he. I will never know my niece, and my daughter will never know her uncle. I also have a half brother that I have not seen since my mother and father divorced when I was 5, I am now 25, I randomly found him on Facebook, and we are slowly reconnecting, I think the most important thing to remember, is that although you are family, you are also strangers, it may take awhile to really get to know each other properly. I have been talking to my brother for about 7 months now, and I hope to see him in the next year, right now we live on opposite sides of the world, so that makes it harder. I really hope your situation works out, and you and your sister can form a wonderful relationship!