Can a husband have female friends?
I don't know him so I cannot answer this.Many men are capable of having single female friends. I consider it a good sign if a man I am interested in dating is one of them.Having friends at all means he is at least somewhat likeable and loyal. Having female friends tells me that he sees women as people, the same as his male friends, and is able to have healthy relationships with them. Having single female friends tells me he is able to do this without feeling entitled to them, otherwise they probably wouldn't still want to be friends with him. If he finds one attractive but isn't acting on it, it tells me he is able to control himself and consider his actions without being led by his emotions; good for him, that speaks positively for our agreements and future arguments.I would not want to have partner who considered themselves incapable of having single female friends. That means either I can't trust them, or they are unable to treat a woman as an individual, or they are incapable of being themselves honestly with women, at least without offending them.I have a number of close friends of various genders. They are very important to me; they are like my chosen family, with a bond built up over years. I also like to hug my friends. There is a strong chance that a man who cannot have single female friends may feel uncomfortable with me having many male friends. If he cannot adapt to that then he is likely to feel unhappy in a relationship with me. He would be better off seeking soneone else with similar views.I hope it goes without saying that if he reacts by trying to control me or restrict my friendships, then we would be over. I will not tolerate that kind of behaviour.
My husband let his best friend, who recently got out of jail, move into our basement. We have kids, and the friend gives me creep vibes. What should I do? He has nowhere else to go.
Let me tell you my story, then you decide.I was a single dad with my 4-year-old daughter, living a happy life. A buddy of mine who I grew up with, from 1st to 8th grade, called me from Dallas and said he was coming for a visit. I was really glad to hear it. We drank and shared stories till the wee hours and went to bed.I got up early the next morning and was making coffee, when my daughter came in and told me he had crawled into bed with her and was touching her. She was 4, I knew she was not making this up, and her little friend who stayed the night said the same thing. He was still in bed at this time. I became so angry, I began to shake and saw red. It was a feeling that I don’t want to feel again. He finally came into the kitchen all smiling and such. The only thing I could do, and just barely was able to do, was tell him, “Don’t say a word, run out the front door this instant as fast as you can. I can only hold myself back for the next minute or two. then I will cut your throat.”I called the cops, told the story, and they found and arrested him. The United Way sent a child counselor to my house, and worked with my daughter many times as we were going to court to prosecute. Luckily for my daughter, he plead guilty, got 5 years, and is labeled a sex offender. I was very, very lucky I held control, otherwise I would have went to jail for murder and left my daughter alone.That's my story. Do you want one of your own? Do you want the chance of a story of your own? I trusted this guy; he was a childhood friend; never would I have believed he was capable of it.But it’s your kid — you make the decision.
My best friend has made a move at my husband. He told me. She was drunk at the time. How should react?
First off, be happy that you have a husband that was honest with you. The best thing you can do is confront your best friend about it. If your really best friends then once things are out in the open and talked about you will both be able to move on and still be friends.
We move frequently for my husband's job, and I have no friends or family or time to take a break, how do I find a life for me?
I can empathize with what you are feeling. My husband is in the Army so we move every 1–3 years. It can be challenging emotionally to leave family and friends and start over socially, especially if making friends doesn’t come easy.I have found that getting myself involved in church, women’s groups, and serving others in the community, have paved the way for new friendships and networking opportunities to either provide employment or volunteer work.If not having enough time is an issue, consider reevaluating where your time is being spent and the areas you could adjust to leave more room for fulfilling activities.Here is an article that has helped me when adjusting to a new area. Hope it helps!
I need help kicking out my husbands best friend/roommate/mooch.?
So, last February one of our friends was having some marital difficulties and decided to go ahead and divorce his wife which didn't happen. When he first moved in, it was only suppose to be until he could find a job and move in with one of his other friends...it's now been five months. We live in a little one bedroom with our daughter, my husband, myself, and this mooch who has only paid the electricity bill once (what he and my husband agreed upon as rent, and he keeps losing his jobs after only a couple weeks) and has been bringing in girlfriends all the time. Every time I try to tell my husband we need him out, it turns into a fight and he gets mad at me saying, "He's trying to get on his feet still, give him more time." I find our situation is getting very delicate and I can't seem to figure out a way to bring it to my husband's attention without it blowing up in my face, I'm to the point where I don't know what to do, if I tell him to go, my husband will call him back.
Childhood friend!! future husband???
Is there a rush to get engaged? The looks are important but even more than that do you share the same hopes, same dreams, same beliefs? If your parents are determining the engagement process, then they probably have an idea about when and how you should meet....above all, be yourself. You want him to fall in love with the you who you are now as opposed to just being in love with the you who you used to be. 12 years is quite some time in growing up and developing your character and personality not to mention the cultural differences. He may need time to familiar himself with cultural differences so it is important for him to also not feel rushed or pressured, don't you think. It sounds like you respect his family and your parents involvement which is good. Your parents want the best for you so I am sure you will be a part of the conversation and development.
Should we let my husbands best friend stay with us?
A difficult decision. If you set boundaries and agree on a date for him to move out, it could work but make sure he will stick to the agreement. We agreed to let a friend stay for 3 weeks. It became 4 months with him struggling to keep a job and save up to move out. It became clear that we were offering a much more comfortable alternative to him paying his own rent as he continiously came up with excuses as to why he could not move here or there. He is now on his own but it happened only after we pushed really, really hard and started to phone around on his behalf. Value your privacy and remember that you just don't know someone until you live with them. Everybody has habits that they hide from others. It becomes part of your life when they live with you. Having someone else in your home also changes the dynamics of your home and can breed resentment. Good luck with your decision.
I'm depressed cause my best friend is moving away!?
i feel your pain, my bestfriend just moved to england somewhere in august. Ya, she is a good friend, we went to the mall, watched movies, i slept over her house a LOT of times. And ya, kinda miss her. And its ok. I have other friends to play with. I hope she replies to my messages (cause i sent her a message). I have another bestfriend she's still here. And i get to see her next year! (visit england!!) but not lets talk about you...i think u can handle it. Ur gonna get over it (thats what i know) it is okay to cry sometimes. You can ALWAYS find a person to chat with in the phone! A person who can trust you. A person who is just super nice. Someday you will meet soon. -Vembre