What if a police officer completely falsifies your police report?
Anyone who files a false police report is committing a crime. Whether the crime is a misdemeanor or a felony depends on the law in that jurisdiction. That said, I'd guess that 90% of the people I arrested, if they read my arrest report, claimed that I lied in the report. Sometimes this is a matter of different perspectives, sometimes it's faulty memory (the people I arrested were often intoxicated), and sometimes one party or the other is not being truthful. If a police officer routinely files false reports and/or lies during testimony, it eventually becomes apparent. If the officer is shown on the record having lied, his value as a law enforcement officer is close to zero. If your testimony can't be relied on, there is no point in taking a case involving that officer to trial. While, without doubt, some police officers lie in reports and under oath, I don't think there are nearly as many as detractors of the police claim there to be. When there is video or other similar evidence of officer conduct, it exonerates the officers more often than it condemns them, as it did in this story.You can file a complaint against the officer with the police department. If your sole contention is that the officer lied in the report, and you have no evidence other than your word to back this up, the complaint probably won't be taken seriously. At trial, you can cross-examine the officer and present your own evidence. However, as other suggested, this is a matter best handled by an attorney.
My boyfriend lied to me about his sexual past..?
He and I have been dating for like 8 months.. Before we ever had sex.. I asked him about his sexual past.. He told me ALL of the girls he has slept with.. I also asked him if he had ever had unprotected sex with any of them.. He said only with 1.. whom he dated the longest.. Anyays.. him and I got into an argument and few nights ago.. and he informed me of another girl that he had slept with.. actually the last girl he slept with before he and i started dating.. Which I forgive.. because I had also failed to mention one person from my past.. Him and I and this "last" girl all went to school together.. She is beyond nasty.. I was really good friends with a girl that was really good friends with her.. This girl used to have multiple sexual partners. every week.. Even when we were super young.. like 14 - 15.. Grant it.. He didn't know her then.. So MAYBE he didn't realize the extent.. but IDK.. (We've all graduated now BTW..) I also learned that... He had unprotected sex with her.. like he had with the majority of the girls he has slept with.. btw.. who are all extremely promiscuous.. Even though I didn't tell him about that other "ex".. I never had unprotected sex with the guy,. I think that makes a HUGE difference.. It kills me that he just now is telling me this. I've always been so careful about things like this. The only guy I ever had unprotected sex with other than my current.. was my last boyfriend.. that I actually dated for 4 years.. So.. Give me advice.. We are going to get tested on Monday.. I'm just so scared.. Since we started dating.. We haven't used a condom.. Guess I shouldn't have been so trusting =[ So... Should I try to forgive him.. and accept that the PAST is.. PASSED or what!? because even though this was all before me.. He lied to me.. and he put me at risk.. He blatantly lied about how safe he had been.. =[ What do I do?!
Husband bipolar. Does he completely change his thinking or lie?
He goes back and forth between 2 completely different mind sets!!! When everything is calm and nice he tells me: that he believes he is sick, that I don't even contribute to our problems, that he would be this bad with any woman, that it's not me, nothing is my fault, that he never lied to me, that I don't drive him crazy and that its all from him and his sickness. Than when he gets unreasonable, overreacts and angry he tells me from each of those points the exact opposite: that i would drive anyone crazy, that I turned my family against me (he never spoken or met the last remaining members who haven't died!), that I make him this bad, that he would be fine if his death exwife was back, and when I confront him but why have you said only 30 hours ago In your love letter the total opposite and 15 things different??? he says that was to make me feel good. When he calmed down (as always) he took everything back and said that he never lied and that none of the bad stuff is true! He goes back and forth on around 20 points since 2 years since we married! I used to think maybe he genuinely changes and believes each time its true!?? But now I start to worry that maybe deep inside even when he's good he believes im a trouble maker and make him mad and abusive and that he doubts he's sick. He's that type of person who wouldn't divorce if he thought bad of me. Do bipar genuinely change their thinking on who's fault it is and other things back and forth or do they lie???
How should I deal with my boyfriend who lied to me about his past?
This is a hard question to answer.First, you should understand that the past of everyone is their own business. It can’t be changed and it should not be dragged into the present. Past stays in the past for a reason.Given this, how concerned were you about his past? How much does it influence your feelings, if he was married for a longer time and he is older? In other words, do you think that he did it because you would see him from a different angle? Will you criticize him?Can you accept a man who has failed his marriage, which lasted more than 3 years and he is older than you think?If you cannot accept him, then consider that you may have hinted it somehow and he hid the truth from you to get you to know him better, before you reject him for his past. If you can accept him, then he is a liar and you should be very concerned if he is trustworthy.In either case, ask him about the whole truth and if you feel that the trust can be rebuilt, set your boundaries about sharing only the truth between you. If he is uncomfortable sharing the whole truth, ask him why, do not criticize him or he will feel intimidated. Then, take your decision if you can stay with someone you can’t trust or if you can stay with someone with that past.
Is it ok to lie to your partner about your past relationships?
Another story.I dated a woman once, fairly seriously, and I was impressed at the beginning by how up front and honest she was with me. One evening, over the phone, she told me -“I have never had a boyfriend I haven’t cheated on.”Some may see this as a red flag. I did not. I saw that as something that must have been hard for her to admit to me, and I appreciated her candor. My reply was -“I’ve never seen a chicken wing that I didn’t eat. We all have regrets.��Because I think I’m hilarious. I also thanked her for the honesty, and the conversation went down a different track. That is, until she blurted out -“Oh, well, except my last boyfriend.”Her last boyfriend was also the father of her two children, and her longest relationship. I had no reason to not believe her, and as she was so honest, I wasn’t about to trivialize that honesty by questioning her. I said, well, that’s great to hear, and we moved on.Fast forward a couple months, during a lighthearted conversation with a mutual friend about sexual pasts and mistakes, her ex-boyfriend came up. She casually dropped this line -“That poor bastard still doesn’t know I cheated on him.”Now THAT was a red flag.To this day, I haven’t called her out on it. The relationship ended very shortly after this for a different reason, but it would have ended anyway. It would have ended because after that moment, I could never believe a single word that came out of her mouth. I went from admiring her for her honesty, to questioning her every word, and only after one simple sentence.You know that you shouldn’t lie, and I won’t try to give you a moral argument.I will say that things are a hell of a lot easier when you don’t have to watch the words that come out of your mouth. Especially when you’re with someone that actually listens.Truth is just easier.
My boyfriend constantly lies about his past. Big or little things he lies about them, he says it's to avoid getting me upset. Should I be worried about this or does it not matter because it was from his past?
I would be very worried.He sounds like a habitual liar to me, and trust me when I say that those kinds of people are not pleasant to deal with. You never know what is true and what is false with them, and they can be toxic to deal with. For example, one of my past roommates was a habitual liar; while she tended to lie about minor things, the real fun part came when she told my best friend that I slept with a bunch of people that I never slept with. If your boyfriend lies about his past, what is next? Your relationship status? “She’s just a friend”? That you are abusive towards him? How will you be able to trust anything he says to you or anyone else?Even if you are overreacting to his past, it is still not a good sign that he changes his story to appease you. While I agree that the past is in the past and people should not be punished for what they have done previously in a new relationship, the past still matters. All of our past experiences in relationships shape us into the people we are today (even two or three years ago my boyfriend and I were both very different people), and knowing where the person came from is crucial to understanding if you are a good fit for one another. An partner’s retelling of the past can also be a good way of finding that out as well; for example, if they talk negatively about all their past partners, you can rest assured that they will talk about you in the same way someday.Straightforward communication is key in the relationship, regardless of what the topic is. If couples cannot have an honest conversation about their respective pasts, then they are not fit to be partners.
Boyfriend lied about his sexual past?
Whatever he did in the past is in the past. As long as you are happy in the relationship and he has given you reason to think he's also happy, I wouldn't worry. A lot of people are wild and crazy when young and settle down later.
My boyfriend keeps lying about his past?
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we are both in our early 20s. Over the last few months it has become apparent that he lied about a few things he had told me early on in our relationship. The first thing was about an operation he had, which he claimed he had as a child. I recently found out he actually only had it 3 years ago, I thought this was a strange thing to lie about and soon dropped it as he said he had lied because he was embarrassed. The next thing was about a girl who had posted lots on his Facebook. I asked if he had gone out with her, to which he replied that he didn't even know who she was. I forgot about it until later when some pictures of them together turned up and he admitted he had dated her in the past. I was devastated, I don't care that he dated other girls but it makes me feel uneasy and upset that he lied. From then on he made a pact to be honest to me, however, last week, the whole situation repeated again when it turned out that he had a sexual history with another girl that he also claimed he 'didn't know'. All these lies have left me feeling really paranoid and I have been feeling sick and anxious everyday. I feel like our relationship is a ticking time bomb and though I love him with all my heart, I can't help feeling like i'm constantly on the threshold of stumbling upon another lie. What should I do? I hate feeling this way.