Can I join the army without going overseas?
He's lying. There is ALWAYS the chance of being deployed. The recruiter would have no idea if or when you would deploy because he has no idea what unit you'll get into, or what their deployment schedule looks like. I feel like a broken record, but I'm going to say the same thing to you as I do to everyone else...........if you aren't prepared to deploy, don't join. What is up with this lately, everyone wanting a free ride-- free schooling, benefits, a steady paycheck--- yet they aren't willing to earn it?
Husband had sex with a prostitute while overseas, what are the chances he'll do it again?
.Generally speaking, anyone who has cheated is more likely to repeat the behavior than for someone who has never cheated to do it for the first time. As someone else said, him saying that a lot of military guys over there do it, is an excuse...and a pathetic statement about military persons. I am proud they serve our country, but having been an AF dependent for 28 yrs, my experience is that far too many of them have the morals of an alley cat. My father cheated on my mother....my first husband cheated on me (both were career AF. Will your husband cheat again? Nobody knows that...maybe not even him. Even if he doesn't intend to or think he will (as of today), that doesn't mean he won't. He did it, you forgave him in the past...so he may feel like he isn't risking a lot of he should choose to do so. OR he may sincerely be remorseful for his stupid, thoughtless, and dangerous behavior and may walk the straight-and-narrow the rest of his life. The question you have to ask yourself is...can you trust him? No trust, no (real) relationship.
How much more do you get paid for active duty overseas in the army?
Wow my neighbor just went into the marinbes and his brother said he was making almost 4000 a month and I heard that when you go overseas you get payed almost tripal pay. I'm not trying to get into something into combat though. But best answer to the guy with the HOAH!!! haha esprit de corps!!
My boyfriend is going overseas to study, what should I do?
Dear Quora users,I am currently 21 years old, and have been in a steady 3 years relationship with my current boyfriend. He too is 21, and we are each other's first boyfriend/girlfriend. We are really loving to one another, often the admiration of friends around us. However, recently he was offered the opportunity to further his education abroad, and the course would be 3 years. No doubt his parents would really want him to go, but he is still thinking about it. I believe that he is more inclined in heading abroad as well. Consequently, we would be required to engage in a long-distance relationship.When he told me about it, I am in 2 minds about it. Yes, I understand that it is an opportunity for him to enhance himself, and through his educational pursuits, it would more likely than not, mean that we would have a brighter future together. However, at the same time, I am really disappointed that his impending departure, would mean great suffering for us. It really is hard not having his physical & emotional presence with me. Afterall, we have been through 3 years together and it really is painful for me to see him go. I don't know if this is selfish of me, but I told him that if he decides to further his studies abroad, I would break up with him. He really is confused because he has to handle his parents & me at the same time. However, it is simply too painful to bear the pain, and it would be tiring in the long run. I am really perplexed as to why he would have to ponder over this. Isn't a committed relationship about choosing your partner, regardless? Why would he not choose me? I really thought he was to one I would be with in the future, and I believe this feeling is mutual. However, I really don't understand why he would not want to stay... I really cant handle a LDR r/sPlease help guys... I am really frustrated over this...
Boyfriend is overseas partying..will he cheat?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months. He is overseas in Europe for 5 weeks. He has been gone already for 3 weeks. The day that he left he was really upset and said he cried a little bit at the airport. He says he will never cheat on me and that he loves me and misses me. Most of his trip he would call me every day and apparently every girl that tried to hit on him he said that he missed his girlfriend. I spoke to him on the phone yesterday and what really bugged me was that he said he goes to sleep early so that he doesnt get tempted to cheat. He also said that he got really drunk and his friend said to him "go to sleep so that you dont do something you regret" Im sorry but if you really like someone why would you get tempted? I am quite upset so I have been giving him the silent treatment. What do I say to this?! What do i do?
My boyfriend is in the military. He's been deployed overseas for a year. When we talk he always sounds irritated and tired. I don't feel he's paying enough attention to me. Should I break up with him?
Yes. Break up with him. Clearly you are not cut out for his lifestyle. He is +7 or more time zones ahead of you, eating MREs, taking baby wipe showers, carrying 40 plus pound of gear, having private phone conversations a room full of his coworkers, not to mention possible getting shot at or BLOWN UP. And he's neglecting you? Poor you. Now suck it up buttercup and at least have the decency to wait till he gets back and do it in person.Yes, a relationship takes two and there is responsibly on the service member to maintain a relationship while deployed. Deployments are hard on everyone but you have it easy. You get to see your family. You get to sleep in your bed. And you are asking for relationship advice from strangers on the Internet.***Edit - I have done a lot of thinking about this question and I feel that my initial response may have been a little harsh. However I still feel the same way.What you have to consider, is that the government owns him until he decides not to reenlist. So you have to be aware that one day he will come home and say “I”m leaving for 1 year next week”. Goodbye any plans you have made. You might get to spend a couple of months of your first years of marriage in the same time zone. If you are pregnant, there is a really good chance that we won’t be there for the delivery. Vacations, trips, weddings, funerals, your child’s first birthday. If you can’t handle deployment when you’re dating - a marriage will not survive. That being said, if you can’t handle that, have the decency to break it off in person no one deserves to be broken up with via any other means of communication.
I am in love with a married Muslim man who has a wife overseas. He says to me that they have been separate for four years and he wants to go his country and divorce her and come free to marry me. There is a child over there also. Is there any hope?
My god. If there's one thing that seems to be a common element in the answers here, it's that there is an assumption of infidelity. This may be the case, but nowhere in the question does it imply this. It just says that the man has been separated from his wife for four years.Why was there a separation?Who initiated the separation?How did it come to be that the child stayed with the mother?There are many cases where marriages just do not work out. That may have been the case here. Why are they separated but not divorced? I don't know. And neither does anyone who has written an answer here.It is absolutely disgusting, and possibly borderline sexist. The man is separated from the woman, so clearly the man is cheating on the woman? Clearly the man has ditched his responsibilities as a father? Come on. There are many times when couples separate and the child stays with the mother. Maybe that's what they both agreed was the best. Perhaps the mother wanted the child to stay in his/her home country, and the father agreed? That's certainly a possibility. But again, that is only conjecture. I will not give a definite answer based on conjecture, and neither should the others on Quora.The other answers just assume way too much. Why? What has led the other authors to assume that the man is lying to his wife? What has led the other authors to assume that the man is cheating? If it is nothing other than the fact that he is a man, then we absolutely have an example of sexist answers.My AnswerIf this man that you are interested in is indeed cheating and lying to his wife, there is absolutely no reason to expect him to be faithful to you. If you do not know whether or not this is the case, then I suggest you find out the exact reasons for the separation. Maybe you can even speak with his current wife. If you have any doubts about his trustworthiness, then odds are the marriage will not work out.On the other hand, if the causes for his separation from his wife are reasonable, and you think that he would make a good husband, then I don't see why it would be a problem. Marriages don't always work out. People separate, get divorced, and remarry all the time. Maybe it's a shame, but "until death do us part" is not really a promise that everyone can or should keep.
Should you move on if a person who usually helps you acts as if they no longer care?
I leaned on my cousin for emotional support in the past. I had depression and he was there to help. I have gotten support from him for a couple of months. We don’t actually see, we just talk on the phone as he is overseas. then he started getting money from me. Not huge amounts of money, but to help out if some things had to be paid for. But it was always pertaining to my case. and then my mother made a comment one day about him asking for help financially But they couldn’t help him. I started realizing that it seemed he required money to do things. So I slowly stopped sending money. After that it’s Like if I needed his support he would always have excuses. there was a time when he was sick for a while, then when he felt better it was his wife who got sick, then his child who got sick. Or he got very busy and couldn’t talk. It got to a point he would say we will talk today and won’t answer until the next day after with some excuse. Or he will not even talk to me for a while altogether. yesterday my depression was really bad I reached out and he then told me that his wife also has depression and he felt bad for the both of us. I said ok. I try to understand and give him as much space as I can. But then I reached out again when I felt better, he also said she started feeling better. he said he would call but then he didn’t. he helped me so much I don’t want to be ungrateful with him But I feel like if he doesn’t want to help he should tell me. What should I do?
You go visit your girlfriend’s family overseas and paid for the whole trip and stays at her mother’s. What would you do if while in bed you heard her saying to her mom that “he high jacked my trip, and I didn’t mean to invite him”?
Ouch.It may not be as bad as it looks though. It may be something she said to placate her mother, and that it’s not true.You will have to confront her on it, then pay close attention to her answer and choice of words. Then you will have to determine how well your BS-meter is working with someone you love.I wish you the best. I hope my guess is right, but if so, that means you have a potential mother-in-law to deal with who doesn’t support your relationship.I hate to say this, but it’s better you find these things out now, than later when your mind, heart and spirit are more bound to the relationship.