Help. Friends Say My New Sucessful Boyfriends An Old Snob And Are Being Very Nasty To Me

My boyfriend comes from a lower middle-class family. He has been earning a huge package at a big firm, but he still: makes small talk with rickshaw drivers and waiters and drinks roadside chai. How can I make my boyfriend more classy and modern?

My boyfriend is a pilot. There's nothing stopping him from showing this fact off to the world. Yet, he doesn't mention this fact to anyone apart from people who ask. I don't know how much it matters in other countries but it's a huuuuge deal in India, being a pilot.I've been with him for around 4 years now and I've seen him while he didn't have a job to now, when he does. I haven't stopped loving him any less during this whole time. He's the classiest man I know and the thing that actually makes him ultra classy is that he gives respect to people lower than him. We don't drive around, we travel by auto sometimes and he talks to the drivers like a friend and like someone who genuinely wants to listen. While I don't prefer making small talk with young drivers because it may become unsafe for me as a woman, but sometimes you can learn a lot from the general public if you don't have “modern" inhibitions. Both of us love chai and the dirtier, more 'roadside' it is, the better. I respect people who can make small talk with people lower than their status. It always means they have a solid moral background and do not let their money or fame define them. He doesn't care about 'branded' clothes since that don't make him, him. I love being a stylist to him and if he doesn't want to spend 5k on a shirt, he won't. Class is an ongoing process. It doesn't end at showing off. I know people who're pretty hollow from inside yet they sport the best brands of clothes, phones etc.Whereas, for you my friend, I guess that boyfriend of yours needs to leave your ass and go meet a girl whose morals match his.

What is the best message for my ex who always ignores me?

One thing you should understand very quickly is the need to RELAX. Your ex isn't going anywhere. Unless She's already seeing another girl on the side, your ex is going to take some time off before getting her new single life in order. She's looking for some time alone, and maybe even some breathing room.Allowing your ex some time off from you is one of the best things you can do following a breakup. By allowing her time to process what just happened, your ex will begin reconciling what her life will soon be like without you in it. She'll also start to miss you, and this is a crucial aspect of getting her back. Once your girlfriend starts missing your company she'll start needing the relationship, and you're already halfway home.Any time two people break up, there's a cooling off period. Sometimes, very heated things get said... even things that one or both of you don't really mean. Consistent bickering and fighting can also lead to the end of a long-term relationship, because over time, each of you builds resentment for the other. This bitterness that you harbor might not feel like much right now, but that's only because you're thinking about getting back together again. Once you and your ex make up? Those same old problems are bound to resurface.One of the biggest tricks to ex contact involve creating an atmosphere in which she needs to know what you're doing. When your ex is always aware of you, she already knows what you're up to. This is why disappearing from her life, as hard as it might be for you, is a crucial part of getting your girlfriend back.She'd much rather distance herself from you emotionally, while still physically knowing where you are. Any guy who breaks up with a girlfriend wants to move on before she does. By keeping tabs on exactly what you're doing and who you're hanging out with, your ex has no incentive to call you up. She already knows a lot about your post-breakup life.Many women look for reasons to call or contact an ex. Maybe you left some stuff over his house. Maybe you ran into someone you both know, and thought a friendly phone call would be an innocent way to get back in touch. The truth of the matter however, is that you're reaching. You're grasping for straws, and looking for any little way back into your ex life again. This behavior is counterproductive to getting her back.

I am jealous of a friend who married someone rich. I am ashamed of myself for being jealous. She appears with the best brand of clothes, and has holidays in amazing destinations. It makes me feel life is unfair. What do I do?

I am a reasonably rich (not dirty rich) guy currently enjoying a sabbatical of sorts and here are some of my candid observations:Since time immemorial women have tried to marry into riches … your friend seems to be no different. It is a rational thing to do and I am not against it. But it just doesn’t come across as very human. Though I understand women’s need for security and a good life far outpace’s men’s focus on such stuff (at-least in my limited experience and interaction with both sexes).What you probably do not realize is that despite all the show off, even in rich families, there are lots of issues. For example, if she married an heir, then currently nothing will be in his name - and getting stuff in his name will take him his lifetime due to family politics. My sis married an heir and 25 years later they still don’t have anything much in their name.If she married a self-made rich guy … then she is probably better off. But I’ve seen such types philander a lot. And their wives stick to their sides despite their philandering because they (the women) get used to the comforts. The whole relationship of marriage gets reduced to a transaction.Life is not all about money - though money is very, very important. And going only by superficialities (which is what other people want us to see) is a recipe to misery.Brands, vacations, etc. etc. are all non-sense. You really don’t need all this to enjoy life. Once you have a basic financial base (say, your own place and enough income from your investments so that your job becomes redundant - the latter being more important than the former) then your health, your vitality, the strength of your relationships contribute much more to happiness.