Help. I feel like my mom is hiding something?
So Idk if I'm overthinking things but i have a strong feeling that my mom may be hiding something. She used to always let me use her phone & also let my brother use it. (this was like a year back) But lately she's been acting so secretive. She told me about some old high school guy friend thats been messaging her, but he's a married man. She just says that she doesn't want anything to do with him, & even considered deactivating her fb because of this guy. yet she doesn't dare to do it & keeps replying to his messages. I mean, if she really didnt wanna talk to him why is she still replying? but anyways whenever she gets a text i'll try n get it to see who it is, especially when shes driving.. & she'll literally try n break my arm before i even get NEAR her phone. she says that she just doesnt like ppl going thru her stuff but i feel like its more then that. shes been acting like a teenager with her phone. she wont let go of it & im getting kind of worried. i never seen this as an issue until now. Because we used to be able to alwaaays use her phone for the smallest things & now we can't even get near it. someone help please.
My mom is lying and hiding things from me.?
So my Mom and I have a very open relationship. I tell her everything and I used to think she did too. Her and my father divorced about a year ago and our bond got even closer because I could tell her things and I knew she would not tell my dad. But lately like since summer of last year I have begin sensing that she is hiding quite a bit. Like she told me she was going to Vegas with her friend from work who I have known for years but she really went with a boyfriend and when I called her out said she had just forgot he was going too. She has done several things like this lately and ever forgot about my sister and I once because she was out with some guy. I am very against the use of drugs and alcohol. Even cigarettes disgust me. My mom helped me get a petition into my school to help get rid of smoking and now I am sure she smokes. When ever I get into her car, I smell it and it makes it hard to breathe. Her clothes always smell like cigarettes and she always goes on these long walks that my sister and I are not allowed to go on with her. It is not like she does not get alone time, we are only at her house 3 days a week. My mom also drinks a lot and goes out with guys she barley knows. It worries me especially because she drives too. I know she is not past legal limit or anything but it is still scary. The smoking thing bothers me more then anything because I am so strongly against it and I thought she was with me. I know that she does because I went through her purse while she was in the shower and she had a carton with 6 cigs in it then after she took a walk only had 5 and smelled like smoke. I have asked her before and she says that I am crazy and she is not but I know she is. What should I say to tell her that I care and am really concerned about her health. I am only 15 so I do not want to seem like I am telling her what to do but I would like her to know that I am really hurt by her lies and decisions.
Been hiding my girlfriend from parents? Help!?
Ok so me and my girlfriend have been 'dating' for about a year now and we've only hugged, kissed on the cheek, and held hands because I haven't told my parents we are dating. Im afraid for how they will take it because they said Im too young too. I went to my Bible Study and the teacher told me I should always do the right thing, and ask God for help. I dont want to lie and keep this away from them, so I prayed last night and told God I need his help and I will tell them soon. People always tell me... JUST TELL THEM! Well... Its not that simple. They always tell me how I can do it when Im in college. By the way, Im 13... I know Im young... Ok dont tell me that. If you are gonna tell me to not date, please dont answer. I just want help. All I ask for... I want to give her a kiss on the lips, but I feel like I have been hiding too much. And I always been invited to the movies... Probably about 4 times and I rejected all of them, saying stuff like: My parents are busy.. Have no ride Im at my cousins house. Sorry Im sick. Going out later, I cant. Im sick of it, I feel like our relationship is soooo slow because of this.
I feel as if I am hiding too much for my mom. I want to get over it but they are huge things I cannot tell her, especially as of now. What do you suggest I do?
This is obviously tearing you up inside, which is why your asking this forum, and I am glad to offer you some good advice if I can. It is said a problem shared is a problem halved, and I think they say this because discussing an issue with someone brings perspective as well as help share the burden that you have been carrying inside your mind. I do not know your mom or the type of person she is, or the issue that you have, but what I would say is if you have a friend that you know you can trust, is supportive, and will remain non judgemental, then that would be the person I share this with, and if this person is your mother then maybe you should consider this, or getting more perspective from your trusted friend first.
I feel so guilty hiding things?
I am feeling very guilty hiding things from my parents. i am 14 years old. I have a twitter account that they don't know about. Its not like i do anything bad on there, i just follow some celebs and tweet sometimes... but still... makes me feel so guilty when my parents tell me social networking is bad and dangerous... I watch k-dramas without them knowing (my parents caught me once, and told me to stop, but they are so interesting, that i want to watch more and more) Mainly the problem for this one is that its distracting me from my studies... even i want to stop but they are sooooo interesting. I watch anime - actually, my mom found out once, but she kept it a secret from my dad for me cuz he would definitely be very worried if he found out i watched "silly cartoon-like people with creepy eyes" (according to him). I was so relieved my mom kept it a secret that i decided not to watch it anymore but slowly, i'm getting hooked back on. I listen to K-pop, J-pop and Chinese (Mandarin?) music without them knowing ( we aren't Korean, Japanese, or Chinese, so this seems kinda pointless to my parents - i asked them about it once) I read fan fiction - this is a major guilt bringer. I imagine my parents finding out about fan fiction and i shiver. They would be confused and upset and ughhh... its not like i'm reading anything bad or adult rated... but for my parents, it would definitely be a new side of their daughter.. cuz a lot of the fan fictions are about like... dating... and my parents think that i am "pure" and i never even think about boy-girl relationships. Ughhh... i feel so guilty... what to do?????? i can't just tell them, cuz i would be grounded for the rest of my life! i was thinking to tell them when i turn 18-20 ish. Because recently i told my mom about something i did when i was 9 and she laughed it off. Would she do the same if i told her these things when i am 20? and please don't leave any comments like "oh how are they going to trust you if you hide secrets...blah blah blah" it really makes me feel bad and it is soooo stressful keeping secrets and thats why i'm asking you guys for help. Please help me!
My mom always thinks I'm doing bad stuff and overreacts?
JUST LIKE MY DAD. You cant make her more nice. But a few tips. ~ I KNOW, I KNOW. ITS HARD NOT TO HAVE AN ATTITUDE BACK. Sometimes you just wanna scream in her face. but stay away from yelling at her. Just let her yell, and vent. TRUST ME. i know. ~ She just doesnt want to think of you doing anything bad, my dad was so paranoid he took my iphone away. ~ DONT say that you dont love her. Because anyone could die tommorow and the very last feeling you want to have for your mom, is that you hate her. Just think of that. My dad said he hated his father for 10 years, but he said hes glad he finally settled with him before he passed. THATS A PERFECT EXAMPLE. im going through the same, its fine. she just has some paranoia like my father. good luck bro!
Why do children feel the need to hide things from their parents, such as what they did at a friend's house, or how their school day went?
This question almost made me angry. I'm not a child anymore, but it wasn't so long ago that the memory doesn't sting. And just so you know, I had a perfectly nice, middle-class, loving childhood. Doesn't mean I was happy. Being a child is hard. You have no control over what you do or where you go. Tall people give orders and none of them make sense. You feel like a partially functional, powerless, half-baked human-like creature being shuttled, shuttered and shushed with bewildering rapidity. Things are plopped on your plate, and you are expected to eat. You are coerced to go to school, to interact with peers that you don't select, read and write things whether you want to or not, run laps, pick up sticks, like a good little robot.I'm angry because parents don't seem to realize what they are asking from their children. "Why do they feel the need to 'hide'??" Do you share every detail of your life, on demand? How would you feel, as an adult, if your parents kept demanding to know what you did all day? Intruded upon, interfered with, and angry. Do you think a person with no rights, no autonomy, no control over their lives and no emotional maturity can handle this any better?I'm nearly 25 now, and I have responsibilities and bills and work-days. I rarely have time to run around a field or climb trees or play on the swings like I did as a kid (though I do still do these things). But I wouldn't exchange my autonomy for any amount of free time, in fact, free time without autonomy is an oxymoron. Now I can eat nothing but carrots all day if I want to, or jelly beans, or ice cream. (Will I try that again? Probably not.) I can blow off a whole Saturday sleeping, as long as I'm willing to buckle down and make up for it later. I make decisions that are good, and some that are just plain idiotic, and I suffer for them, but it's still glorious.I understand that parents like to know what their kids are doing, and they worry and they care. I'm not blaming them, or you, or my parents for that. But childhood is hard, and children crave lives of their own, and may not want to share them. It's important to have empathy for that.
How can I make my mom take less stress and put her needs before others'?
You Can'tIt's a wonder how someone can be so selfless but that's what mothers are.But, you can try by doing household chores, making sure to do your own work and the sort. If you're still in school, then do your best to get good grades and stuff.But the best thing will be to talk to her and I dont mean just comfort her and make small talk. Tell her everything about your life. If she feels sure that you're not hiding stuff from her which a lot of kids do, she'll feel a lot better. Even if you have problems, no matter how small they are, tell her. Even if she worries about it, I can assure you it's a 100 times better than worrying about your kid not telling you stuff. She wants to help you so let her, just make sure you also help her in return. Yeah, so some small stuff can help reduce stress. You can also make sure she takes some time off (like half an hour or something) to listen to music or spend some time on her hobbies. If she dosnt have a hobby then help her find one. Anything is fine, but she should spend some time on herself and you could do the activity with her.Yeah, so hope this helpscheers!
Help! My mom takes my makeup?
I'm 14, almost 15, and I have a good amount of makeup. I keep it nicely organized and usually do not leave stuff out or make a mess. I do not wear hooker makeup, and no neon colors or black, usually just light eyeshadow and mascara and my face makeup. My mom is pretty anti-wearing makeup (on herself), and she yells at me for looking like a hooker and a sleazebag, even when I just have mascara on. (she wears mascara, too) however, usually she doesn't care that I wear makeup until this summer. Last week, I left my urban decay naked palette and Mac quad out on the desk that I do my makeup on. My mother came into my room and decided that those two things were a huge mess and took all of my makeup brushes, and the quad and palette. She then sifted through my drawers and took random items. When I asked when I could have them back, she said never because I had blown it with the huge mess that I had made. (only those two things out on the desk.) school is starting soon and I do not want to start high school with no makeup. Its pretty hard to do makeup with zero brushes. I tried being nice to her but I "never do anything right" and she treats me like a piece of poop on her shoe. What should I do? I have no idea where she put the makeup, and she doesn't have any brushes that I could use, like shed let me use them even if she had any. I bought all of it with my own money and I do not want to rebuy it all as it cost me a lot of $ in the first place.
My parents always hide stuff from me?
why do my parent's always hide stuff from me? like a few years ago when my grandfather had a heart attack they didn't tell me until the next day and he had it early in the day. my dad might get a job transfer or lose his job entirely, but neither of them will tell me anything about it. and when they do, they explain it to me like i'm 4 years old. i'm 16. i understand what is going on. i know they don't want me to worry, but i need to know if my life is going to change dramatically in the next year. we might have to move, but i don't know how likely it is that we will because they won't talk. yesteday my parents were looking at houses online and i asked if we were going to move. my mom said if my dad got a job transfer we might have to. and then i said i didn't want to have to move and she pretty much turned around what she said and said we won't have to and then told me not to worry and changed the subject. i could tell she was hiding something from me, she isn't a good lier at all. no one in my family is except me. i can tell her and my dad are both hiding the worst from me, and i need to know what is going on.