I'm afraid of my father, help please?
I'm socially phobic, and I think it all begun with him. During my entire upbringing he told me that I wasn't normal and that nothing I did was ever good enough. He always had a way of hurting me were it hurt the most. But he has been sick his entire life, and has always been a very unhappy person, so I could never talk back to him, I didn't want to make him sad. I was afraid he'd kill himself or something if I let him know just how horrible he was treating me (and my brother and mother as well.) As I grew older I stopped talking to him and telling him things, because he always took the joy out of everything, and I was scared he would hurt me. No we're like strangers. And I'm afraid of him. I can't look him in the eyes, I hate it when he touches/hugs me (he's never ever hurt me physically though, important to point out), I feel anxious every time I hear his voice, I feel anxious every time I hear his footsteps or anything at all really. I always expect him to hurt me, even though there was years ago he actually said anything really hurtful to me. I can't shake the fear. What can I do to get over this? I can't talk to him about it, it would hurt him to the core if he found out what type of father he has been to me. I know he never truly meant to be such a bastard, he is just a deeply unhappy and bitter person. What to do?
My 15 year old sister drinks..should i tell my mom?
my sister drank one night and her friend got alchohol poisoning and promised my mom she would never drink again untill shes legal to..but she still does should i tell my mom? cause im scared
My sister is afraid of thunderstorms?
Well, first you should try to find out what exactly scares her about thunderstorms. Is it the thunder or lightning, for example? When I was younger, my parents used to tell me stories about thunderstorms so I wouldn't be scared. An example was that thunder was the sound of a bowling ball hitting the pins during a game, and the lightning was the sign that whoever was bowling had gotten a spare (a spare's a slash, and lightning generally comes down in straight lines kind of like that). Maybe that could help. Good luck : )
Why is my sister so scared of spiders? How can I help her?
Okay I'm 11 and she's 14, my sister emily is terrified (I meen terrified) of spiders. She really really hate them. A minuet ago there was a spider In her room and she freaked out, ran on the bed and I came and saw what was up. I took the spider and put it outside and even when she knew the spider was gone she wouldn't get down and sat on the bed for ages. And now she won't touch anything that on the floor in case there's a spider on it. -I used to creep my hand up her back when we was little and In the car pretending to be a spider. She used to tell me to stop it and I would laugh thinking she was only joking. But one day when she was 12 she broke down crying telling me it wasnt funny and she was genuinely upset by it even thought it was only my hand.-one time there was a tiny spider on ceiling near the stairs and she needed to go up to the toilet. She was so scared that it would fall on top of her head that she accually wet herself because she wouldn't go up to the toilet. -if someone says the word spider she automatically freaks out asking "where? Where?" and gets really scared-there's a thought that people are so scared of them because they know nothing about them but we sat her down one day and tried to tell her a little bit about them but as soon as the saw the picture she kept fidgeting and looking round and was really hot and worked up.-we was In the cinema watching harry potter two and comes up the bit where the big spiders are there. And she started to cry and was scared because it was so dark and she ran out of the cinema. -she loves all animals apart from spiders and she never wants to hurt them. If she has a spider in her room she will never squash it. -nothing else in the world scares her. -if she sees a spider then she cant sleep. We think it's because when she was little she was putting her pjs on and there was a huge spider in them (while she was putting them on and it freaked her out) How can we help her? (wanted to put more but ran out of sp
My little sister is really scared of Michael Jackson, I try to tell her that their is nothing to worry about..?
Tell her how kind and loving Michael was and that when he was her age his own family were hurting him alot ,and he felt so bad he tried to change himself . He couldnt find peace when he was alive and even now when hes dead ,people wont quit being mean about him. He did more good for children ,but people are quick to put him down. Your sister must be getting told a bunch of lies to be so afraid, or just being a lil drama queen, she would listen to you more than the media though wouldnt she? Find out some more positive facts about Michael, to subdue the negative media hype... And if that dont work , tell her he was a talented singer and dancer who gave millions of people a lot of joy and happiness through his music and his concerts......that aint scary at all !!....you can do it , your her big sis!!
I think I got my period and I'm scared to tell my mom.?
One day, I was trying to poo and I was confused because I wiped and it looked like my butt was bleeding. Then today, I went pee and blood was on the toilet paper. And a little was on my undewear. The day before, my butt (bottom, whatever.) was hurting. Not a lot, but it felt like my butt had a headache. I think it's my period. Im 12. My mom and sister got it at 14. If it is, I'm scared to tell my mom because she's a blabbermouth and she'd tell everyone. My friends already have theirs, so can I just ask them for pads? I don't want to ask my mom or sister. :[
I'm 13, why am I afraid I'm gonna die when I go to sleep?
My sister used to have this same fear when she was around 13 too. It was so bad she probably didn’t sleep much, at least not at night, for a whole year. I remember waking up everyday after midnight to use the bathroom, walking past her room, and invariably seeing her and my mom up at 3am together praying the rosary because my sister was so afraid to go to sleep and actually dying in her sleep and not being ready or prepared or worthy to go to heaven.My mom did what any loving mother who had no idea what was wrong with her child would do, which is to stay up with her every night praying until she would succumb to exhaustion, which took days really, and only to have the cycle repeat all over again. They must have prayed a million rosaries that year.She showed other symptoms that year too, but that was the most extreme and disruptive. She did get over it all eventually. Or she learned how to manage at least. She is doing well now. But it did take changing schools, a lot of support, and praying a million rosaries!Many years later when I was seeing a psychiatrist for an unrelated issue myself, I happened to mention this fear of hers alongside the rest of her symptoms. My psychiatrist was quick to mention that that is a common manifestation of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and given that OCD tends to show up or worsen around adolescence, it was likely she was exhibiting a bad case of OCD.I suggest you go see a psychiatrist or a psychologist or at least go to your primary care physician and discuss the issue. Sleep is so crucial to maintaining mental and physical health, not to mention a good social life, and you need to get on top of this so you can function in other parts of your life. There is help out there for anxiety and OCD. Don’t delay. You don’t have to suffer! Fighting sleep is torture.
I am scared of my mother as an adult.What shall I do?
Ya I got this.There’s 2 big distinctions that I want to make:she did this to you when you were a powerless, trapped childYour brain remembers this and causes you to feel that way even though you are no longer that child.Yelling will intimidate a child. Anger - like raging - will intimidate a child.Her questions are interrogation. Interrogation will intimidate anyone, and second, if you give the wrong answer, she will get angry at you. That anger in your brain is connected to fear.So when she gets angry, you get scared.If she acts how I think she acts, she gets angry very easily and also in different times. As in, she’s unpredictable. So, no matter what you do, she gets angry. Even if she is predictable, you probably have to do everything very specifically and a single mistake will spew off her wrath. That kind of pressure creates anxiety for anyone, much less someone whose brain is looking at someone who scared them for years.In short, she’s abusive and possibly unpredictable. That makes you scared.There’s no shame to be had over it. You are not at fault for your mothers’ actions, and regardless of the situation, I can guarantee your fear/anxiety was caused by her. Random decision-stopping anxiety about someone never occurs because of some character defect in you, some “weakness”, insecurity, or low self esteem.As for what to do, you probably need to move out.If you can’t do that, i suggest going to raisedbynarcissists: for the children of narcissistic parents • /r/raisedbynarcissists and talking with people there. I’m not saying your mom is a narcissist; I’m saying people there can provide ideas of how to cope with those emotions and her behavior.
What should I do? I am scared of my older sister. She touches me and says if I tell mom I would get in trouble.
I am sorry to hear that you have to go through this!Here is a number you can call:800.656.HOPE (4673), they can help.Or/and..…If you have a good relationship with your mom and she shows trust in you and you trust her, I would text her or let her know that you want to talk to her and it's important and to not let anyone from the family know that you want to talk to her. Emphasize how it's important that you speak to her alone in privateYou can start by telling her how you feel scared to be at home because you feel unsafe there. Tell her that your sister makes you scared to live there. Then let her know that what you are going to tell her might be hard for her to hear, and then let her know what is going on. A good mom will let the police know, but if not, I strongly urge you to let the police know. If you can't let the police know, tell an adult at school that you trust know, and ask them to contact the police for you, and make sure they know that you already let your mom know and she did not call the police, not to get your mom into any trouble, but just to make sure that the adult that you tell knows that nothing will come out of telling your mom.You deserve a safe place to live. This is your sister's fault, she is making you fear her so she can get away with the horrible things she is doing. This behavior is not right. You are a good kid, a strong kid, and you got this! Don't wait any longer!I also want to mention how important it is for you to seek a counselor either through your mom or school. Many churches and non profit organizations offer free Counseling services. It might take some googling for your location, but they are definitely out there for you!