My parents get really mad, and yell at me for my grades. What should I do?
Scolding doesn’t work. It just makes you more nervous about grades and makes you perform poorly. Tell this to your parents. Tell them you need help in certain subjects. Ask them if they can afford to get you a tutor. If they can’t ask at school if they give after school help in the subjects you need help in. Unfortunately, your parents have the wrong mind set. I do not know how you get away from them . Maybe they could have a chat with the school guidance counselor and your teacher and they can tell them how you will be able to improve your grades. Also, maybe you should be tested for learning disabilities, you may have an impairment that you are not aware of that is holding you back. Do speak to your teacher. Ask her what you can do and also ask for learning disability testing. Good luck.
When my dad gets mad he says really mean things to me. Is this normal?
It’s not because we are older and a parent that we become mature and considerate. There are plenty of adult bodies with emotional intelligence that froze in childhood.Your father is pushing you away from him. He is alienating you with his behavior. You are being forced to withdraw from the affection you may have had for him.Is this his intention? To what extent are you responsible for this anger? I screwed up plenty as a teenager and my parents would get angry at me, but not to the extreme that you mention. I resented their anger even though I had to admit that i had failed.The advantage of a creative mind is that it’s easy to think outside the box. Instead of being hurt by his comments you could go on the offensive. Two ways stand out. When you see the conflict brewing, you pull out pencil and paper. You mark the time and date at the top. When he says something mean you say, Stop. And you write it down. You get him to repeat it so you are sure to get it right. Second approach is with a smartphone. The verbal abuse starts and you turn on your video recording to capture your dad in full blown anger. Store the clip on your computer and keep them all.Another approach: you ask, “Dad, do you love me?” And every time he says another mean thing you ask him again and again, DO YOU LOVE ME?If he gets even worse, then you know that his problem is Serious. Definitely seek other family members or the school counselor as a way to deescalate the situation. Is your mother subjected to the same treatment when they disagree?Are you old enough to consider leaving home and getting your own place to stay? Grandparents or family members might let you stay with them for a time?Time heals (but not always in the way we might like. You and your dad may remain alienated and without contact until he dies. He lost a son and you lost a father.)
How do I get my dad to not be mad at me?
It’s important to understand that people aren’t mad at you. They are mad with themselves.People respond differently to different situations. If it was you that made your Dad mad, then you would make everybody mad and that just isn’t so. Not everyone is mad at you.It’s up to your Dad to make himself happy. He may not be a happy person, but it is never your fault.It’s up to you to make you happy. Your Dad doesn’t have to be happy for you to feel good.Home - 6 Dimensions of Healing
My dad is really mad at me...?
So this morning my dad was like yelling at me and he called me a selfish ***** and that he didn't care if I was his daughter, that it was true and I needed to know the truth. The reason he said this was because of one plate in my room that I ate dinner off of last night and he told me to take it down but I fell asleep cause I was doing chores all day... like every other day of the week. I mean, its one litte thing... and then he's just like "if you can't do what I ask I'll just stop talking to you cause obviously what I say doesn't matter". And I let it go but he really isn't talking to me now and I don't know what to do. It just pisses me off that I do chores every day and I have three older brothers who don't do sh!t. I feel as though I'm nothing to this family... and I have my nephews birthday party tomorrow and I don't want to have to ignore my father the whole time. And for extra detail let me say, I am a fourteen year old girl, my parents are NOT divorced, and my brothers are from my dads previous marriage. I am the only one from my mom and dad... so yea, could you give me some advice here? Thanks |:
My dad is mad at me for being gay?
So I recently came out to my dad. It was one of the hardest things I have done in my entire life. I am 14 years old, so I'm coming out pretty early. It's just, I can't take it anymore. The feeling of being alone and nobody knows. I walked into my dad's room and I said "Can I talk to you about something for a minute?" he said "Yeah, what is it?" I just said right then and there, "Dad, Im gay" He said "No your not, we are going to fix this." I said, "Dad, it's not something you can fix, okay I was born like this." he said, "You are perverted and disgusting" I said "Dad please stop, okay this is something I've been trying to tell you for a really long time and this is really hard for me. Why can't you accept that?" He just said "Get out of my room" and made me leave. Now, my dad refuses to talk to me. When I try to talk to him, he acts like I don't exist. One time I said "Dad, why won't you talk to me?" He said "I will never have a gay son, and your disgusting." he started walking to his room. I said "Well you better stop lying to yourself because you have a gay son right here. He just slammed the door and won't talk to me. I can't talk to my mom because she died 2 years ago, and my brother does not support gays. I don't understand. What did I do wrong?
My dad is mad at me, what should i do?
Well i hate to put it this way..But approach him at the right time..Everyone has a time in the day when they're in a good mood rite whether its eating or goin for a walk Or something.. Just come up and approach him and tell him what you told us. make sure you sincerly apologize and explain the misunderstanding it will be ok..xoxo goodluck
My dad is really angry at me, and I'm kinda scared?
when he gets home, apologize. & do it like you mean it. all you can do is say sorry. sounds to me you might have been treating him not so good lately? hes Just snapped.. & you say you couldn't because your fingers were numb.. that doesn't even really make sense so no wonder he lost it.
My parents are mad at me about my grades?
I was absent on friday and it was my last day of school before spring break. I wasnt there and i didnt get to get my progress report. You see my grades were A+, B, F and F. My parents got it in the mail and they said they were extremely mad and dissapointed in me. My dad started calling me dumb and stuff while my mom tried to tell him to stop. Well my mom was mad to. Im really trying to get atleast a C in my two failing classes! Its just really difficult since im going through alot. Im still trying to convince mysef im bisexual when deep down i know im a lesbian. I am very depressed over other things and it makes it difficult to concentrate on anything. My parents fight alot so it doesnt help. Im always worrying about other things other than school, my gran is really sick with diabetes and shes my rock, my bestfriend. I have to see my parents fight all the time (especially now when they saw my grades i can hear them yelling). I used to cut myself but am trying to stop even though i really want to. My parents always think the worse about me. My mom thinks i do drugs get high and ditch school when i dont. She used to verbally abuse me calling me worthless and every bad word you can think off. I use to talk back and everything but im too depressed to even do anything. I have no social life, i have a cellphone (well not for long since they are taking it away) even though i dont text anybody and just an awkward texter. I dont know what to do anymore. My body always hurts. I cant think straight and no that wasnt a sexuality joke. I try to not show it at school that im really depressed. At home i just eat dinner go up to my room and listen to music. I dont do my homework for math and p.e but for my other classes i do. Im just really alone, i dont have a friend that i can talk to. After all the years my mom has called me a b*tch a stupid this and a stupid that, im so insecure about anything. I feel really empty. Just please help me.