My parents don't believe in me :'(?
I'm 19 year old male. I'm pretty good at school always on top spots in math classes. and I want to get into mechanical engineering.Lately my parents have been calling me dumb and saying u won't get any where in life. And it hurts me because they were the only ones that believed me.ueah I have friends but there u know it's not same type of support you get from parents etc.i have spend the whole day writings a 1500 word research paper on a computer and they think I was playing games.unlike my sister and brother which brag about how much they study and all, I personally hate doing such things. I'm also thinking now maybe I will get no where in life and might as well take my car and drive to a wall and just die. Atleast my parents wouldnt have worry about me and my failed life.i don't want to discus this with anyone as I do feel a bit emaresed that's why I'm here on ther Internet. But man I really am hurt. One thing is for sure is that if I do get big in my life I won't acknowledge my parents. Yeah they loved me and raised me but never believed in me.
What do you do when your parents don't believe in you?
One of the great things about life is that no one's beliefs about your abilities to achieve something matter other than your own.Whether your parents approve of what you do with your life or not is their own problem. They can either choose to accept you as you are, respect your freedom to make your own decisions, and keep the condescending thoughts to themselves, or they can watch from afar as you follow your own path anyway; not being as close with you for a few years or more.I imagine this is not the answer you want to hear. You may have been hoping that someone would uncover a magic potion to get your parents to change their minds. Though it may be hard psychologically to go against your parents' wishes, know that in time they will likely come to realize that they love you and want to accept you for who you are anyway, regardless of whether or not you allow them to manipulate you into living out the dreams they never fulfilled.But... what if they don't?If someone doesn't want you to live in the way that you think is right, and doesn't truly want you to be happy (just so that they can brag to their friends about your vain accomplishments at family gatherings), do they really care about you?Would you ever try to stop someone you care about from living out their dreams? I've met people in their late 30s who are still afraid to stand up to their parents. When you reach adulthood, your life is in your own hands.You have to decide whether you are the ringleader of your own destiny, or a mere pawn in someone else's warped game.Frank Zappa may have summed it up best.I’m no longer able to answer any questions on Quora. To receive all of my newest writings via inbox, go here.
Why don't my parents believe me when I say I'm sick? I get flu and colds very frequently, and I have had a bad cough for over two months, but they respond in sarcasm when I voice my concerns. I am 13 years old.
You are right to be concerned.The symptoms that you mention can all be treated medically, but it will take the co-operation of your parents in order for you to get well.I am also concerned about what your home environment may be like, and if that may be contributing to your medical problems.Do your parents or other family members smoke while in your presence? If they do, their smoke could well be the cause of your frequent colds and your cough.And that could also be the answer to their defensiveness and sarcasm when you voice your concerns.That’s why you need to have a knowledgeable adult (like a doctor) discuss your health and your continuing problems with them.So here’s the plan. Check with your school nurse and see if she can ask your parents to come to school for a conference about your health. She’s an adult with medical knowledge, so she might be able to impress upon your parents how important it is that they get you to see a doctor who can diagnose your condition, and see that you get better medical care.Best Wishes!
My parents don't believe me when I tell the truth. What can I do to get them to?
It must be very frustrating for you…I tell you the story how I decided to always believe what my child tells me. I didn't have a child back then but now I do and I never doubt her.So here is the story. Actually it is a bit frightening but maybe if you share it with your parents they might get to understand how important it is that they trust you.There was this 6 yrs old girl, who fell on the playground and broke her arm. She got a plaster of parish (? I hope it is called like that in english) that she had to wear for 4 weeks. She told her parents that her arm is in pain so the parents took her back to the doctor. But the doctor said that she can not feel pain as the fracture is fixed as it should be and maybe she just finds the hard plaster uncomfortable. Ok, they went home but the girl kept complaining and the parents were annoyed that she is making such a big fuss of it while the doctor said that everything is all right. So after 4 weeks they took of the plaster and the poor kid’s arm was lifeless :( the plaster was too tight and it did close the circulation of the blood in her arm. The rest I am not telling you…When I heard that story I was furious how could parents believe more a doctor (someone in a white robe) more than their own child. I found it very sad and decided to always believe my kid.I also think that believing a child builds great sense of responsibility as they learn how much impact their words have on others’ thoughts.So, I don't know your parents but if you think they would understand the value of this story then share it with them. Specially if you are committed to always say the truth to them even if it will be harder then just making up a small lie.I hope it helps
I'm sick but my parents don't believe me and are sending me to school! Please Help!?
Damn. That sucks, I can mostly always stay home when I'm sick. If your school has a nurse, go spend the day in there. If not, go to the office and just say you're sick, or not feeling well. If you can't do those, when it comes to gym class, just tell the teacher you aren't feeling well, and sit out. If he doesn't let you, still, just sit out. Also, I need some help: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AsNa.u7hJDwrscBo1zSaOqPty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20110330005036AAqAUFa
My parents don't believe me, why are they being stupid?
You have to accept that in the past you've given your parents no reason to trust you. It's going to take a long time of you behaving and telling the truth before they can trust you again. That is the consequence for your past mistakes and your punishment for them. All you can do is accept that fact. Behave and in time they will learn to trust you again. But you can''t expect them to just suddenly trust you after lkying to them for years just because this once you happen to be telling the truth. That's my first point. My second point, like it's been said already, is whoever started the fight, you were still a willing participant in it. She pushed you, you could have just said "that's very mature of you" and walked away. But you took the decision to hit back instead. It's actually very easy NOT to get into fights. I went my entire life without getting into one. I always chose to hit back with words, not fists. When I was 14, a girl that I didn't get on with actually bit me (out of absolutely nowhere), I turned around, looked at her with all the contempt I could master and just said "gee you really got a screw lose. Are we still in kindergarten that you feel the need to bite me?" and walked off. I didn't feel like I was chicken. Actually I truly felt like I'd won that fight. Because she acted like a 3 year old child and I was the mature one who couldn't have hit a child just for being an idiot. I think your problem is your mental attitude. You believe that by hitting back and acting crazy, you're getting people's respect or you're holding your own or whatever. It does not work that way. You could have been the better person, the one that commanded respect simply by shrugging your shoulders at her and walking away. Your parents will give you a chance when you have proven to them you deserve one. You'll have to buy their trust back by being trustworthy for years to make up for the years when you weren't.
I am undergoing depression. My parents don't believe me. They think I'm faking it and using it as an excuse to slack off. What do I do?
I have gone through the exact same thing and quite frankly there is no easy answer. DO NOT harm yourself as I did, as a cry for help as it only ever makes things so much worse for you. The best thing to do is try to keep yourself as busy as possible and try to work out whenever you feel up to it. Everyone will tell you its not that bad and it will get better but I don't think that helps at all. You just need to stay afloat as best you can and wait until life gets better. Its hard for you to see right now but your life will get better eventually if you try as much as you can (i know a lot of the time trying will seem impossible). Society is not designed to help people with depression at all as most people do not understand it at all, so you have to do it yourself mostly. There are helplines you can phone and they do help a little. Saying your problems out loud to someone can help. Mostly you just need to realise that nothing is ever as hopeless as it seems. Your depression is a vicious cycle you need to break out of by trying to be positive. It is a slow process but you will get better eventually even if it takes a long time.
My parents won’t allow me to date. Why?
Well, your parents are obviously trying so hard to control you that you're going to likely go behind their backs anyway. I'm a parent of a 17 year old girl & 19 year old boy. The more I try to control who they're to be the more they don't tell me things, or ask for advice, & even eventually go behind my back. They need to be making their mistakes & learning their own lessons… some very hard lessons hard for me to watch, but necessary.Your parents know all too well, I'm sure, about the harmones, teenage boys, & the pressure that goes with all that. I gave my daughter my strong advice & warnings I'd already learned my lessons the hard way from. She's having to learn on her own now. She seriously dated her 1st boyfriend 9th thru 11th grade. Boy did we all have too much to learn with that one. Thankfully she finally learned her lesson with his ways& young “love” as well as realizing she's worth more. Now she's moving forward to the next step in life. She's learned how much she wants to only think about Sr year & college. No more boy lessons for now. Your parents are doing what we’d all like to do w/out teens, but it's not practical.I KNOW you think we don't understand & come from a generation so different, but you're not missing anything really! I wish I could go back & enjoy my friends more & really care more about school. You're growing up fast. It's always best to try to keep parents trusting you though. So be careful.