“I appreciate the friendship that we had, and you did nothing wrong, it’s just that I am into other things now. I’ve grown in another direction, and don’t have the time to spend with you. I hope you understand.” This is not rude; it’s tactful and honest.(You ARE into other things: things without her. You DID grow in another direction: away from her.)Walk away, don’t answer questions, and let it be. Hopefully, that will be the end of it. But, it might cause hard feelings; people don’t like rejection.Her reaction is on her. She is responsible for her own feelings.If she persists after that, ignore her, or tell her, “I told you I was done; now leave me alone.”You are responsible for having the friends you want, not those you have a hard time getting rid of.This is about the best you can do if she keeps pestering you for an answer. Some people just don’t take a hint. They would be better off if they did.
Would someone like to tell me what i'm still doing here?
number one. I know iits hard to make friends when your quiet/shy. im just the same. I have few friends. but i tell myself it will get better. yea later we will have to pay the damn bills. but you are only looking at the negative side. number two. i dont understand what you mean "normal teenage life". all teens go thru ****. everyone has some flaws in life. whether it be parents, freinds. number three. believe me. you are not the only one tht has unlikable parents. allot of times i tell my self, i dont belong here with my parents. i cant stand them anymore. i know i know what ur going thru. number four. most friends you meet at school come and go. i have been friends with people then instantly i lose them. and its always bugging me tht there are no true friends in school. number five. school might be horrible. but the best thing to do now is to see what you will be when you are older. so you can set goals, and not saying "what am i here for". highschool is four years. If you work hard, it WILL pay off. you can live a good life. teenage life sucks but it wont be around forever. -its amazing how similar i am to you. im shy/quiet. I have parents tht never make me happy, and piss me off. I have few friends and i have recently lost my best friend. and i have a eating disorder too. nothing serious. And i know what you mean. you feel like you are living a shitty life with no purpose. i am just the same. what do us teens do? i set goals and think of the future.
CAN ANYONE HELP ME?? SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!!?
No, you're not stuck. Don't ever believe that. Nothing is ever hopeless. Hang in there. You're going to be okay. One day, these difficulties will pass and you will just move forward with your child. It will be okay. It won't be confusing forever. I really feel you should tell the baby's father. He needs to know he has a child and be given the chance, at least, to have a role in his or her life. That's very important to the baby. He has the right to know that he's a father. I hope he takes responsibility in one form or another. If not, it is entirely his own loss, but he will also be hurting his child and, of course, you. I'm sorry you are pregnant and the child's father is not in the picture; that is always very sad, as you share equal responsibility. Good for you for not considering abortion; it's the most unnatural thing you could ever do, to kill your own baby, and would bring you nothing but regret, if not now then down the road. Your child has a plan to fulfill like all of us. Women who have had abortions are speaking out about the harm it did to them and their loved ones: http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/testimonies/index.aspx Your child is a blessing and a gift, even if it doesn't seem that way right now. Embrace your little one now and never look back! You will never regret having and loving your baby. That small person will give you innocent, unconditional love as you've never known it and will help you, just by his or her existence, to be better and better. Wait until you start feeling your baby move and, better still, when you can hold your baby for the first time: you're going to be absolutely blown away and time will stop! Really, this rough patch will pass, and it's going to be okay. You are not stuck. Never believe you are. You can do it. You're a woman and you were given this child for a reason. By the way, if your parents aren't very supportive, Birthright can help for free: http://www.birthright.org/ But you know, can you talk to your parents any more about this? Can they talk to his parents? Some adults should be involved. And by the way, it's not your body and your baby alone; your baby is NOT your body, and your baby belongs to the entire world, not just the mother and father. Your parents are the grandparents and can help you through this.
Can someone read my story... people tell me its good but i want more opinions.....?
right im 16 and having my first novel published in January... il be honest 1) the flow doesnt seem to go through very well which you will need to work on, do this by describing things in more in-depth but not too much just to show off your vocabulary as this is bad. 2) your spelling and grammar need to be worked on an awful lot! 3) "I saw a storm was on the way......great", never ever use more than three dots. 4) youve used capital letters where there neednt be. 5) the pacing seems rushed which can be solved by describing things more, this will alleviate the fast paced feeling it currently has hope this helps
Husband loves his wife, but has feelings still for mistress?
Does the mistress in this situation have no shame or class? She must still be looking for another baby's daddy or something. I'm embarrassed for her! And him! Who really gives 2 shits how he feels for the tramp's kids. He better grow up soon and consider the feelings of his own flesh and blood. I just can't believe that he is still so selfish and immature. You'd think a boy in the military would have grown up enough to separate the thinking of his dick and his brain. How pathetic. 1/2 of me hopes you find the strength to give the hubby the hardest kick in the *** he's ever known. He and his mistress belong together in misery, however brief. That is exactly what they deserve. The other 1/2 of me hopes you love the bastard enough to forgive him so that your family can remain in tact and pursue happiness together. Men (and women) often go through this confusion if they really never had a chance to be wild. At least that is what I've seen. You are the mother of his children and should not have to go through this. He's had long enough to eat his cake and icecream too. Let him know that you are dead serious about not settling for #2. If he thinks he can be happy with the tramp, you have to let him prove himself wrong. Give him space and let him figure it out by himself. But the more you give in to him and allow him to go back and forth- the longer it will take. Tell him that you love him but refuse to allow him to screw with your kids' heads. If he wants to be with her, let him. But no back and forth. Show him that you are willing to move on without him if he doesn't want to be with his family. Start exercising, dress like your single and loving it. Get a hobby and act busy even when you are not. Be the best mom that you can be and be friendly to him whenever you talk. Once he sees that your ship is going to sail with or without him, he'll find some way back on that boat. Nobody can ever find happiness anywhere with that kind of guilt (leaving his family) on him. The excitement of new pussy will fade sooner than you think and when it does, it will be entirely up to wifey if she gives this moron another chance.
Sorry to ask a silly question but….Is SHE in the military? Or just her boss? Is your husband in the military? Only the one, if any, who is in the military has committed a violation.Also, have you decided to divorce? If not, your letter might destroy your husband's career and reputation, and therefore impact yours substantially as well.BE SELFISH and do nothing, and I mean NOTHING in a rage, hot or icy. Think through all the consequences to ALL parties, including yourself, your family and children, your reputation and your career. Get other paperwork ready, talk to a lawyer, talk to a spiritual leader if you wish, get ALL your ducks in a row before you even write that letter.As for being sued, I am not a lawyer, but my understanding is if all you say is true, you're clear. But be careful, in a diatribe it is all too easy to go overboard into defamation. If you're going to be engaging a lawyer anyway, for divorce proceedings, then have them look it over first. If you are NOT going to divorce him, then writing this letter will probably destroy all your lives with pretty much zero benefit or advantage to you, and you will likely be condemned on all sides for making such a private matter so very, very public.It comes down to this, will you both stay in the marriage after this or not?If so, seek counseling to heal the break and renew Trust.If not, then know that all this mess will follow you in this age of the internet, follow you the rest of a hopefully very long life, muddying the waters of any new relationship, or new job that requires discretion or poise under fire, or new career where your past will be combed through thoroughly. BE SELFISH and let it go! Walk away from the SOB and get on with the life you deserve with grace and dignity.
Why do men always want a wife and a mistress?
Men would like to have a wife and a mistress for the reasons of sexual pleasures. By having the mistress perform acts of which he would not have his wife perform, thus keeping her somewhat pure (in his mind). Also, challenges in communication with the opposite sex out side of the marriage (player status) or just the shere excitement of can I do this and not get caught, if so, how long can I do this with out alerting the spouse. The game is played both ways. Women also cheat. So, if you're not the cheating kind, don't put up with it, keep your mind free and clear of your intentions within your marriage. So you will always know in your heart and mind, that you has never even looked at the opposite sex in any kind of lustful manner or spoken in silent to yourself about the beauty of another man's body standing before you or at a distance.
Which is better? Being wife or mistress?
Consider the following. Then tell me why, when most married people seem to cheat (statistics show it), why would one ever want to be a wife over a mistress? Mistress sees the romantic side of the man Man usually relates better to a mistress on an emotional basis and sexual basis - hence seeks her company for comfort Mistress doesn't have to deal with being cheated on (she knows he's married and not fully satisfied) Mistress is free to have her own life when she's not with husband (including date others if she likes) Wife is being deceived (probaby doesn't know about mistress) Wife has to put up with bad sides of husband Wife gets pain of divorce when she discovers mistress Most wives are unhappy and regret marrying the man they married. Fact. More than 50% of first time marriages end in divorce. Most divorces are initiated by women. More than 60% of second time marriages end in divorce. If a wife feels lonely in her marriage (very very common), she feels guilty. 'Why am I lonely when I have a husband?' Wives often feel trapped by marriage and children. They often tolerate it for the children's sake.
This question might look crazy to some people but only those who have gone through infidelity and cheating husband will understand this question. I once asked myself this question, no answers from friends. I needed to know how I could get help until I found Gary Cobb. That man saved me from depression. Yes, I was depressed and the only way out was to know what or who my husband was cheating on me with. Gary Cobb helped me out with every information I wanted. My ex husband was actually stealing from me to have a life with another woman. He got her a house and a car and had other plans for her. If I didn’t reach out to Gary Cobb on time i’m Sure he would have left me without nothing. I have no regrets contacting Gary Cobb and divorcing him.My advise to all women is if you suspect any strange behavior from your husband don’t ignore it, try to know what he is up to, knowing could save you from a whole lot.You can check Gary Cobb’s blog or profile here on quora for tips or help on how to go about this. He has really being helpful to a lot of people.