My best friend is going through a break up. How do I help her through it?
Here are 5 stages of grief that people experience post any tragedy (Not necessarily all of them, and not in any particular order):DenialAngerBargainDepressionAcceptanceIt is normal for your friend to grieve over the cessation of her romantic relationship. I ain't no expert, but here's what I did last month when my best friend went through the emotional turnmoil of separation from her beloved.Here is what you should Do :Be near. I invited her over to my place for the weekend. Longing and solitude is a bad combination.Let her begin the talk. You don't know what stage of grief she is in currently so please don't compel her to “Talk about it”. That said, let her know you're near when she does feel like talking.Provide water and tissue box. Even when you might not feel like providing a crying shoulder, it is basic courtesy to provide water and tissues to a crying person.Comfort her. My friend punched me really bad when I offered to please her like her guy would, so wear your guard. No you don't have to cuddle. Just order her favorite food and drinks. Most people don't have the power to say NO to scrumptious Biriyani.Don't fake empathy. If a friend who's been single all her life says “I know how it feels terrible” the person would have no choice but to roll their eyes in despise. Be genuine, at all times.Watch movies. I did so becuase I could no longer hear her sob. Play some animated, light-hearted flick. Restrict watching romantic films, you know why.Here is what you should NOT DO:Don't hover around. A person going through a heartback needs alone time to contemplate the changes ahead. Don't force your company.Don't bring up the “guy” in conversation. If she initiates the talk, do be the good friend that you are and lend an ear.Don't say negative things about her ex to comfort her. Eliminate these phrases:“I always knew he was a Casanova”“It's better that it ended sooner”“We all knew that this day would come”The thing is she already knows all shortcomings of her ex way better than you ever will and still chose to love him irrevocably. Now to be polite, she might agree with you, but it would make her sad deep down.4. Don't stop her from stalking his profiles 53rd time, even though she says it the last. People always do what they want to do. You can't stop anyone.Go on, help your friend. Be the friend you'd like to be by your side during tough times.Source :Stage of Grief Models: Kubler-RossBunch of friends with tragic life experiences.
How do I give better advice for my friend's breakup?
While it's extremely sweet and caring of you to want to help your friend, don't feel pressured to give "perfect" advice to her. (Because really there is no "perfect" advice, we all have different opinions about topics so our advice is really our opinion.) All you can do is help her the best way you can...don't feel like as though you have to give her something really really meaningful. Say what's in your heart because really that's the most meaningful advice. I've got a friend who was with her boyfriend for awhile and they're back together now but a few months ago they weren't and she felt really miserable. I just encouraged her because I didn't know very much about her boyfriend and I tried to do little things to make her feel good. I checked up on her to see how she was too. And I let her know if she wanted to talk she could call or text me anytime. I think your friend seems very hurt from the break up and maybe she is looking for a different kind of advice because she's having trouble accepting that her boyfriend isn't the person she thought he was. It probably isn't you and what you're saying, its just something going on with her. (Like my friend had other people telling her that she didn't need him and she knew that was true but I could tell she wasn't wanting to hear that and believe it in the beginning because she was so heartbroken.) While your friend is heartbroken I don't think that makes it OK for her to ignore you and go to you later on like nothing ever happened or miserable and expecting you to not wonder why she ignored you earlier. Don't feel like you have to put up with it. Just tell her how you feel and be like, "I feel like you blow me off some days for no reason and then later on you come to me. I don't know if I've said anything to make you mad?" Or something like that. See what she says. Give things time and eventually she'll realize that what she's doing is wrong and she shouldn't push you away and then go to you when everybody is gone. Hope I helped!!
How do I help my friends get through a breakup?
Be their friend. That's all you have to do.Listen, plan fun things, if you're asked, give your opinion. Just be like you've always been as friends.And if there seems to be deeper problems, seek adult help. Have them talk with their moms, or you speak with yours, depending on who has the best parent for help. As teens, it's easy to think you can be adult, and handle it all. But you're all lacking a lot of life experience, and definitely not lacking major hormones! It's easy for any of us to get off track, but even more so when in these situations. And always keep an eye out for physically or emotionally dangerous situations. If your spidey sense goes off, talk to that trusted adult. Sometimes these situations can escalate into the weird or dangerous. These are the situations that make the news. Listen to your intuition, get help if you need it.
First breakup, advice and help?
Im in the kind of same situation, but i broke up with him because he didnt seem to have feelings for me, i think im right i tried texting and he just ignored, its sad to see people dont care, i love him so much, but you will have to get over it, i think the same that ill be fine, but i realize he was everythink i ever wanted and he was so perfect for me in every single way, i miss him, you will go through a lot of heartbreaks and loves before you find your actual soul mate, for this week listen to songs and think off bad things about him, then just try to cut him out your life, forget him, whats gone is gone, atleast you had him and you still have the good times x
How do you give relationship advice to a best friend going through a breakup without hurting them?
Sometimes it’s just best to be there to listen as they try to sort it out for themselves. Let them know that they are loved and supported and they don’t have to go through things alone. Then assure them, that this horrible feeling will pass. I hope your friend feels better soon!Bounce Back From A BreakupGood Luck!Suzanne
How do I help my friend go through a breakup even if I've never been through one myself?
I think it's great that you want to help your friend through this. She's really lucky to have you. I don't think you need any particular experience with breakups to help her though. Everyone deals with breakups differently; there's no set way that one should react. You sound like you know your friend pretty well, so I don't think it would be weird that you're helping her through this. Have you talk to your friend about this? Sometimes it's good to have someone listen to you and be a shoulder to cry on. You sound like the perfect person to support your friend and be there for her.
Recently I had a breakup, so can I make out with my best friend?
Why are you asking? Do you need permission? You can do whatever you please. There’s no rule book.You're not in a relationship now, so make out to your heart’s content if that makes you happy.Happy making out.
My friend is depressed over his breakup what can I do to help?
Honestly not really. Just be by his side at all costs. It's something he will have to go through, he will most likely get super angry at you for nothing, just like a spaz at you. But don't take it personally. The only advice that I can say is, don't take anything personally from him right now, and talk to him on a regular basis, but not too much. Also, I need some help: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AsNa.u7hJDwrscBo1zSaOqPty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20110330005036AAqAUFa please answer!
What to say to a friend after a break up?
Just be there for her. Just be there when she wants to talk. She might not want to but just remind her that your their for her. Tell her he wasn't ever worth it. Give her a hug. Help her tell him off. Go have a night in, eat ice cream from the tub, eat the whipp cream from the can, watch chick flicks. But mainly be there for her.
What should I do when I'm going through a break-up with my best friend, who I still love?
It's normal to still love someone you've just broken up with and the feeling will stay for a while before you move on. You have 2 options ahead of you depending on how things ended between you 2 ; one is to dive into other activities and completely throw yourself into work, sports, schedule a catch up with some old friends and find a new TV series to binge watch. The second option is to let your ex know how much you value and love them and will never regret having been together , that the memories will remain with you and that you hope over time that you can still be friends . When you broke up was it mutually agreed ? If yes the second option is worth exploring . If not, try to seek closure by having a final meet & work out what you want to say to each other. This last step will help you accept what has happened as real and final and you'll find it easier to move on. In the mean time , keep yourself busy,lend a helping hand to your family, run errands, start a new project or hobby etc. .