What is the best thing to do when you are confused in Life?
I’m a 24 year old B.com graduate, persuing CA Course. I have so far completed only first group of my Intermediate examinations. I have another group in Intermediate and also two groups in final level. Finals are way too hard when compared to Intermediate examinations. I’m kind of stuck in my life. I do not understand if I should continue writing my CA exams or try something different in life. Another group of intermediate will take another 6 months. Finals will take another 1.5 to 2 years.I put my life on the line when I chose to study CA at the age of 21. Now, after 3 years, at this matured aged of 24, not knowing what my passion is, not knowing what I really want to do in life puts me on my wits’ end. When I think of where I want to be, three years down the line I imagine myself in a totally contradicting atmosphere. It’s too late & also impractical to start working on it now.I generally don’t write depressing answers on Quora. But right now, everything is falling apart. Career, personal life, social life & most importantly spiritual life. When I say spiritual life, it means my relationship with the greater power. The feeling of emptiness within, when you are surrounded with your loved ones… As if everything you achieved in life is fatuous.But then I always believe in order for everything to come together, things need to fall apart first. I have seen people hitting rock bottom before they bounce back. Staying positive when your life is crumbling is not easy. But that is the only option you have. Life is neither fair nor unfair; it is simply whatever it happens to be. Everybody experiences sorrow, heartbreaks etc. You are no exception. You just have to hold yourself together & continue pushing forward.I choose to stay firm. I’m going to take a hard look at the situation and I’m going to turn things around for myself because I deserve better. Life may not be willing to give me happiness, success & glory, but I’m going to take it anyway!!!Keep Trying. Keep Pushing. Keep Dreaming.
My mind is confused between my crush and my studies. What should I do?
I personally know a story. One girl and boy studying in 12 th fell in love. The guy was good at studies, he helped her so much that on the previous day of the exam, he has given all notes to her. Results were out, the guy flunked and girl passed. The girl got an engineering seat, she joined college. Next year this guy came and joined the same college as her junior. Their affair continued. Everyone in college knew their story. They literally spent entire day together. Final year the girl got selected in some company she joined it stated working. This guy got a job and joined some other company.After 2years the girls mom stared to look for a groom. The girls father was dead during her childhood. She had a younger sister too. Her mom got a proposal from a guys family, they own a house in Bangalore. They guy gets 1 lakh salary. Now her mom tells her. If she under goes love marriage with her boyfriend, the entire relatives will feel bad and will not help them during her younger sisters marriage. However if she marries this 1lakh job guy, her life will be settled. Their relatives will be happy and supportive. Plus the guy may also support her younger sisters marriage. This girl took one month to think. And broke up with her boyfriend and agreed to marry 1 lakh salary guy. She broke contact with common friends, changed her phone number, deleted her Facebook profile and married this well settled man. The poor boyfriend went into depression. Stated drinking left his job. AND finally With help of art of living classes yoga and meditation his life became normal after 1 year. Now I am 29 years old. I have a huge amount of friends, seen so many affairs. Every love affair which stared in college ended. Ended so bad that my friends went into depression for months. They literally stopped living for months together for a relationship which was stated at that young age. Love starts for whatever reason during college or school. but once you are outside college, your entire equation of life changes. You start to see life differently at different points in time. All I am saying is you may not change. But she WILL change coz she HAS to change. I don't know what bull shit you have during this age that is making you fall in love. Just concentrate on your goals dude. Forget her.
What do I always feel like I am so confused?
Its not just you my friend. Everyone goes through this at some point in their life. I myself go through this on a regular basis :PWhy you feel this way can be answered easily. You have too many things going on in your head at one time. It also happens when you postpone solving these issues for long.Main thing is - How do you take care of it.I will tell you what I do. When I start to feel confused for quite some time, I stop thinking and doing whatever I am doing. I leave the place where I was sitting, move out in the open and go to a place where there is no one, or at least very less human population. Mostly it is a sea facing place or some jungle type place (courtesy: NIT Goa campus :P).Then I pause all thoughts and just look at the things around me. It kinda calms me down. When I get calm enough, I restart the thoughts and solve each problem, one at a time. This keeps my head in order :DDon't worry. Just sort it out the way I do. It will help for sure :)
How do I control my mind when I can't concentrate on one thing, but thoughts keep flying everywhere? I feel like I want to do everything but am actually doing nothing.
So most of the answers here talked about meditating and similar things. And you could look up on internet on various ways to do it. But the method that really works for me is this. First find a silent place. Take earplugs like in the pic. You could easily get from any medical shop at very low price. Pop them in your ear, press both plugs for 5-6 seconds. Then keeping your back straight or just in normal position , sit calmly with legs crossed. Now what most people who try to mediate , try to focus between their eyes for so long which becomes painful after sometime. But all you have to do it, is close your eyes and start listening to your breath. After 2-3 seconds start counting from 10 to 0 , every time you exhale. And every time you exhale try to loosen up your body and breathe normally, don`t be in hurry . DO NOT TRY TO STOP ANY THOUGHTS THAT ARE COMING IN YOUR MIND, THE MORE YOU ARE GOING TO FIGHT MORE THEY ARE GOING TO INVADE YOU. JUST LISTEN/OBSERVE the breathing, slowly you`ll be able to listen your heartbeats. After your count is over then start again from 0-10. In the beginning try to do it for 3-4 minutes. You could use earphones also but ear plugs are more preferred. Do it regularly in morning and in night before sleep.Hope this works for you too:)SOURCE :Basic Meditation Session by Sandeep Maheshwari (in Hindi)
Confused on what will happen ....concenceptive pill...what should i do?
i am on birth control i take my pill everyday at 6:00pm....friday novemeber 6, 2009 i took my bc pill....later on the evening i had unprotected sex (plz dnt judge me i kno it was wrong and i can PROMISE this will NEVER happen again) he said *** but i wasnt sure because i know what *** looks like so just to be safe on saturday i took the plan B pill 12:02am i took the second pill that comes along with it that you suppose to take 12 hours after the first one.... and i took my last bc pill for the evening (yea i may have over dosed myself on concenception pills but i wanted to make sure i was safe) i usually get my period on tuesdays it is now wednesday i know my period will be late but im not sure how late and if i will get it or not....PLEASE HELP!!!
New Moon is so confusing?
Reading it right now.. there are two parts that just happened that don't make any sense at ALL to me? Okay in Chapter 21, what happened between Jane and Edward? Why was everyone all screaming? No don't! and what didn't Edward want Jane to do to Bella? Sorry if I'm not making much sense.. I'm really confused. Also, why did Bella start crying when she saw the little lady with the rosary necklace and why did Edward pull Bella into his chest? lol.. God, I hope someone can help, I barely understand what the heck is going on
Does anyone understand what’s happening?
You get conditioned unwillingly as a child. What does a child know? Nothing. They don't know what religion or politics are. And so we are all victims of the world's ignorance that wants to perpetuate itself by infecting everything and everyone that comes into life.
I became excruciatingly sad and then my brain was confused?
I just became ridiculously sad, like so sad I don't know how my body even carried the weight of it, and then all of a sudden I became confused? Confused in like I didn't understand what was happening suddenly and didn't know what was going on? It was very scary. I thought I was dying. What the heck?