My parents won't let me get a dog. HELP!?
since your mom really sounds like shes making excuses why don't you volunteer at a local animal shelter they can always use extra help and it would show your mom you could handle the responsibility's but remember its your moms house so don't disrespect her decisions she maybe has her reasons you could always get your own dog when your on your own the shelters fun i volunteer and theres so many animals there that could use your love theres plenty of things to do
One night stand Pregnancy & Abortion?
Yeah, you are pretty much stuck. If she claims you are the father to the state, they will force you to take a paternity test and pay child support if you are the father. I know a guy this happened to (he lived in NY, but I think it is pretty much the same everywhere). Honestly, the best advise I can tell you is to get a lawyer. As far as suggesting abortion, why not? Make your case known, maybe she won't want to have a baby with a man who doesn't want to be a father. What's the worst that can happen? She gets pissed? Do you really care if she gets mad at you at this point? Maybe suggest adoption as well if she is morally against abortion. I think you should try to talk to her about this in a calm, serious, and respectful manner. Having a child should be a decision that TWO people make. And as you know, there are 1,000 of families that would love to adopt a newborn baby. I think if you treat her in a respectful and mature way, you two may be able to reach an agreement. And if all else fails and she has the baby, I suggest trying to embrace it. You are going to be paying child support anyway, you might as while enjoy your child. I know it sounds crazy right now and cliche, but you really don't know the joy a child can bring until you experience it. You could really have a positive impact on their life as well. Think about it, growing up with a single mom vs. a single mom and a young successful dad. Even if you see the baby 2 weekends out of the month (which is typical of dad visitations) this could drastically change their lives. Having two parents that love them and a dad to do fun things with could be the best thing that ever happened to the kid (and you). Sorry if this sounds preachy, I just wanted to show you that it may not be as bad as you think.
Why does my mother hate my wife so much? Intolerable behaviors...?
you need to be firm. tell your mother that she is most welcome in your home as long as she treats your wife with respect. you don't have to wait for a 'sorry', just set the boundaries and then it is HER choice if she wants to have YOU in her life. If she refuses then you can tell her that its a shame she doesn't care for you enough to hold her tongue and treat your family with respect. Nothing is more disrespectful to a man to tell him his choice in partner is wrong and he is not too pathetic and not capable as a grown man of picking a wife. Don't let her do guilt trip. Why should your wife 'forgive' her.... all they need to do is tolerate each other and be pleasant, like you do to police, nuns etc.... If she doesn't want to be in your life when you set very reasonable requirements then she really doesn't care that much for you. You are not a son by the sounds of it but mommys psuedo husband. Hence the jealousy and resentment. She is jealous. Is your father not supportive of your mother or is your mum separated or widowed? If thats the case send her to bingo or something. She needs a life.
Can i sign my girlfriends child's birth certificate? i AM NOT the bilogical father?
Hi, Once you are married you should be able to complete a step-parent adoption. The state of Colorado has forms online for this process, or you could hire an attorney. If the address of the father is unknown, legal filing would be done in your local newspapers advising him that his parental rights may be terminated if he does not respond. When the time to respond in the legal filings expire, the adoption could proceed. Best Wishes !
Questions about paternity and child support?
I am only answering to clear up to false statements (or misleading) that were made by KP and HeartBroken. First, heartbroken. She said: i've been told that in SOME states, if the parents were never married or living together, he can fight to not have to pay child support. That is COMPLETELY false in every state and PR. Child support is a statutory requirment and BOTH parents have a legal duty to support. The only case where a presumed parent has a right to contest and be relieved of support is if they are found NOT to be the biological parent and are so relieved by the court, or if their parental rights have been terminated, although this does NOT relieve them of any arrears already owed. As to KP's statment regarding retroactive child support, it matters not if the presumed father knew of the child. In all such statutes where retroactive support is allowed, the prevailing requirement is a minimum of when the action was filed, the paternity of the child and from two years to all the way back to the child's birth. What KP MIGHT have been alluding to is fraud upon the father by the mother or some other action taken by the mother to conceal the birth but those statutes require an active participation by the presumed father. In your case, if the father did not know of the pregnancy, there is no active participation and hence, no case for ursurping the statute. Simply put, lack of knowledge on the part of the presumed father is not a defense to retroactive support awards. The correct defense to this award in the particular case at hand, is the doctrine of laches. If arrears are awarded from a period of time before the petition was filed, then the presumed father's defense is that she rested on her rights for 9 years and the court should not allow her now to exercise those rights she herself did not exercise. (Laches- look it up).
My boyfriend loves me but he cannot marry me. What can I do?
This question is difficult to answer for two reasons. I can’t wrap my head around anyone who claims to love their partner but refuses to marry them—as you can see from the responses, most people can’t either. It’s a small compromise in the grand scheme of things. Secondly, it pains me deeply to tell the truth when it causes great pain. That truth is this: a man that doesn’t want to marry you will break up with you—maybe not right now, but most certainly one day.Love is first and foremost an emotion, yes; however, love also extends to how we wish to express it. We cannot express our love for each other fully due to legal barriers. Marriage is a nonbinding legal contract that removes those barriers for as long as the contract remains in place.What the man you are seeing is telling you (without using his words) is that he loves you as long as you make him feel good, but he doesn’t if you don’t. He doesn’t want to know if you’re in a car accident. He doesn’t want to visit you in your hospital room. He doesn’t want to ensure that you are taken care of after he’s gone. If he did love you, he would “make it legal” so that he could. And so you could, too.If you cannot make a break from him now, you could try opening the relationship so you can see others. It would be selfish (and delusional) of him to insist you remain exclusive. I mean, does he expect that you’ll be O.K. referring to him as “my boyfriend” when you’re both 60 years old? This will exact a toll on your self-esteem over time, and trust me, you don’t want to go to that place. Don’t settle for being friends with benefits, dear. Don’t let that be your future.I have known married couples who are together till death do they part. Some were not happy together. Some were very happy together. Some couples were married for a while until the relationship ran its course, and then they divorced. It’s all a gamble. If this man cannot inconvenience himself to even take a chance, there are others who will—and they will love you far more than he is capable of loving you. I can promise you that.::Hugs::