Is Child Support for the child or the baby mama?
Right now. I'm in a fight for my son. I don't understand. I'ma educated good black brother, got a job at a Computer Programming company making over $100K's a year coming straight out of college. I got my ex-girlfriend pregnant. We got a little boy. My ex-girl cheated on me, while we were together. So I broke it off. I still taking care of my little man and all. I mean do everything for him. 2 months later, she put my *** on Child Support. WHY? Because she didn't had a job yet and she need money. I'm taking care of the kid, got him health insurance, clothes, future account, day care and all. Her own mother, father, and the rest of the family saying she is crazy and is not backing her up for nothing. I'ma good man, but got trap by the devil. I love my son very much, so I'm in court to get full custody. I looking at Diddy and 50 going through the same thing. Greed from women and its making the good women in the US look bad.
Need help with baby mama drama?
Let me start by saying this.. I understand where you're coming from! I now have to say that your situation is rough.. but by no means the worst that there is. You have GOT to stay strong and learn to NOT let her get to you. If there's anything I have ever learned about crazy baby mama's.. it is they can't STAND when you treat their child good, and when you treat THEM even better. (This doesn't go for EVERYONE!!) My fiancee' and I have two children. I have one from another relationship(baby daddy not involved) and he has one from another relationship(she was 15 when she had the baby). However, I have had to see this woman, deal with this woman, and put up with this woman CONSTANTLY for three years. She is just as awful today as she was three years ago. Let me tell you this woman (your boyfriends baby mama) will never change. She will more than likely always be awful. She will more than likely always try to **** things up and be a thorn in your REAR END! And she gets a thrill out of doing so! So either you need to get used to it, get over it, and live your life with your boyfriend.. Or get out. Because if you're living your life with him.. worried about her constantly.. she is winning. If you leave.. she wins. Period END OF STORY. :) As far as having another baby with him.. Who is to say he might not love ya'lls child more than the first one he had with his ridiculous baby mama?? The one he hardly sees? Imagine you two getting married(or not) and having a child together. That baby will have BOTH parents around and he will come to love that child just as much if not more than his first one with crazy woman. So hun, you sound like a sweetheart. I've dealt with my baby mama drama in good and bad ways. Just remember ONE thing.. Kindness Kills!! She can call you names all she wants, but be the bigger person! Your boyfriend does need to stop talking with her about things that doesn't concern their son. That I completely agree with. I also have to say if she's writing dumb stuff of face book that could eventually prove her to be an unfit mother, he needs to go for it! If you love him, you will understand that he's doing it for ONE reason and ONE reason only. His son. Good luck hun.
My boyfriend's crazy ex girlfriend/baby mama is stalking me. What should I do?
Oh, honeey! I am in your place right now. My ex husband’s mentally ill ex girlfriend has stalked me for 6 years now. What set her off? My ex and I forgot our MySpace accounts that had pictures of us together in happier days. She insisted we were having a “secret affair” and that we were laughing at her.My best advice? Document everything. Take pics of her driving by your house. Keep any texts, Facebook messages, any communication from her, especially threats of harm to you.I was granted an “electronic restraining order”, meaning she can’t contact me by phone, internet, or any electronic means. Then they granted me a restraining order. She can’t come within 300 YARDS, not feet, of my house. If she sees me in public, SHE has to leave the premises. If she violates them again, she goes back to the hospital for observation, then to jail. The only scary part is that you have to contact them one time only, by registered mail, that she is to not contact me in any way, shape, or form. For a couple of weeks it accelerated her crazy, but once they served her, it’s been reasonably quiet, with the exception that she’s still trying to friend my Facebook friends. I can’t do anything about that.Please, be careful. Stalkers are creepy at best, dangerous at worst. Be safe.
I'm freaking out about having to pay child support. I hear some stories about men pretty much being slaves while the mother of the child is living in paradise. What are the challenges I'm going to face?
I worked in a local county clerk's office for 8 yrs, with 4 yrs prior in a satellite office doing plat research, so for 12 yrs I watched and listened to this BS from some of the men who were paying support.I was also a single mother whose ex only paid $30 per week while he was making $18 per hour and I as a single mother had to work 3 jobs to make the same amount.It was hysterically funny the day he finally said that crap to my face. I told him if he thought he could raise this child on $30 per week, go for it, with my blessing. After all my daycare cost alone at that time was over $85.Funny thing: He never even tried to raise the child as challenged, nor did he claim such a thing again.The men who have been forced to live in cars because their support payments were too high 9.9 out of 10 times, failed to file a simple request for a child support re-assessment based on their new wages or lack thereof.After a while, I stopped listening.If you have a child and do not want to live with the mother of your child and do not want custody for yourself, then there is no other way but to pay child support. Why wouldn't you? This is your flesh and blood.I was accused of partying with my whopping $30 per week because on the night my ex took our son for visitation I went to a local pub, danced and had a couple of drinks, (I was 21) literally spending $8 which included tips.Gee whillickers I was so evil thinking I should be able to enjoy something in my life after working 75 hrs a week and attending college courses (15 hrs). Oh how despicable!I don't mean to imply that is what you are claiming but before you worry about something like that, think long and hard about the flip side of the coin.
Should I attend court with fiance in child custody matter?
Do you have an attorney during these court proceedings? If so, you should truly direct this question to them. Attending this court hearing could be beneficial, legally, in case the judge wants to ask you what part you will play in this child's life. Not being there, honestly, doesn't look very good. Like you truly aren't interested in a child that will come and live with you if the judge rules it to be so. A judge is going to want to see all adults from the home so they can see if they look like a a fit family. Having the ex go off with you being there can also help prove to a judge her reaction and the negativity she's spreading to the child when it comes to it's father. The best thing you can do, if you go, is realize that you have the choice to make her words meaningless within your life. If she says anything, do not respond. Just remain calm and continue to watch the judge or your fiance's attorney. Simply remain passive, a persons words only have power if you give them power. Never give a nasty person power within your life. If they say you are a horrible person or mother, you can simply smile and explain that their words are meaningless to you, then walk away. Remember, if you are going to really marry this man, or at least have a child with him... she'll be in your life for as long as you remain with him. Not just during childhood, each and every event and holiday she'll be there for the rest of this kids life. But i am not trying to scare you off at all. Just give you a reason to never listen to her hatred again. I wouldn't attend to support your fiance only, not much reason in that. But again, talk to your fiance's attorney before doing anything. That's where you'll get the best advice that can truly help your fiance.
My baby daddy is crazy and i dont know what to do please help?
he can WANT all he wants, but he had his chance to be with you and raise your child together, he couldn't pull his crap together so it didn't work. He has ZERO right to tell you to be alone, or to say who can be around his child. You literally could be a crack whore with a live in pimp that offers the baby drugs and the father STILL can't tell you who can be around his daughter. The only thing he can do is take it to court if he has a reason, such as your BF is a child molester, or your BF is on drugs and harmed another child....etc. Apart from that your time with your daughter is YOUR time, and he can't dictate to you who sees your child, that is ONLY up to you as the responsible parent to determine. Non custodial parents freak out when they realize that another man/woman is raising their kid...this will get especially bad if you ever allow your daughter to call your BF daddy, which in my opinion your shouldn't, but that is another question on another day. Don't make excuses and give into his power trip...your BF can be around YOUR daughter if that is what you want....although I encourage you to only let a select few men over the years be around your daughter and only the very special ones, children need stability and normalcy and a different guy every 3-6 months will make her life hard. If your ex has a history of violence, and you have proof it was him that broke into your place then go fill out the paper work and get a restraining order against him for you, your child and your bf. They are free, just some paperwork to fill out. If I were you I would contact your local family violence center and get their advice...they have lawyers and counselors that might be able to help keep you and your daughter safe from this guy.
Pregnant and Boyfriends baby momma working my nerves!?
And I agree the word "baby momma" sounds Ugh. I hate using the word but thats for better words for the way she is acting! And he didnt leave her with a child he has never ever missed a child support payment and calls everyday and asks her can I get him today, "her reply nope." She was the reason they ended him and I were bestfreinds b4 we tried relationship. I mean he wasnt perfect either. But still doesnt give her the right is what im saying. He does try and wants his son!!!!
My Ex Girlfriend is threatening me with child support?
i have an ex girlfreind that just found out she is pregnant ,not tested but she has simptoms ,exactly what she had the first time she was pregnant..but she keeps talking about how she is going to put me on child support and take all my money ,and be paid and "Balling" and just have to sit down for the rest of her life, and how ima be working for her .. how can i avoid child support , i am really unhappy with the girl , kinda dont want anything to do with the child anymore either ,can i sign over rights ?