My boyfriend broke up with me for something I did? Guys, tell me if I was in the wrong.?
So I was at the gym and one of my older brothers friends came up to me with no bad intent. I was on the hip abductor machine and he said, hey, aren’t you Oscar’s younger sister. I said yes. He said, yeah I’ve seen you around and me you and Oscar should hang out. Me being a kind person said sure. He asked for my number and I told him I have a boyfriend and also I do not smoke because I acknowledged the fact that my brother smokes. Despite the fact that me and my brother are not on great terms, I was still okay with the idea of us hanging out so we could all chill. Long story short, we shook hands and he left. Apparently, one of my boyfriends friends snitched on me and texted him at 9 at night saying I was being friendly with another guy and he saw us exchange numbers. My boyfriend then called me, soazzed on me like no other, said very hurtful things, and accused me of trying to hook up with him, smoke with him, and just the craziest things. I told him no, I would never do that but he did not listen and ended us. Was I wrong? I didn’t have any bad intent and it was an innocent mistake.
My BF called me the wrong name. He said it was just a verbal typo and that I'm over-reacting. Am I?
lol I've done that twice with my girlfriends. One was the EXACT same situation, only in person instead of over the phone. Wow she was pissed. I didn't think I was going to get out of that one alive, but all was okay. Although she wasn't too fond of me hanging out with her very much after that. The girl (Denise) was my ex g/f from like 1.5-2years prior. We were still good friends, but we didnt' really hang out alone together. The girl I was seeing at the time ended up being in the same sorority as Denise. Anyhow, after a Sorority Formal with my girlfriend, Denise and I were talking all night., after we got back to my room, I accidentally called my girlfriend Denise. Why did I do it? Well, yeah I was thinking about a conversation I had with Denise while I was talking to my current girlfriend. Guys aren't th ebest multi-taskers to begin with. It was wierd too because I really did have feelings with Denise and the relationship ended really awkwardly. Spending time with her that night reminded me of why I liked her before. I didn't feel that I loved her, but I remembered the time when I did. I knew I was in love with my current girlfriend and had no intentions of persuing anything with Denise or leaving my current gf. But b/w the beer, thinking about the conversation I had with Denise, feeling the love I had for my current g/f and remembering the love I had for Denise, and talking about Denise with my current g/f the statement before, I accidentally called my g/f Denise. She got over it the next day and we ended up dating very hapily for another year. I went through a very rough patch in college and hit a part of my life that just wasn't good (I hope nobody goes through what I did). One of the worst mistakes I made in my life was breaking up with her, but I guess we all go through things for a reason. Live and learn. The reason I tell you that whole story is to see if I can shed a little light on what may have been going through his mind and to let you know that it doesn't necissarily mean anything and you can continue to have a very great relationship afterwards. You know it's funny. I don't think I ever really came clean and told her what happened after that night without the alcohol and emotion. I think I just explained it better to everyone who reads this than I did to her. lol
I wouldn't exclude the possibility that he is interested. However other factors matter too like age , generation , and personality traits. Nowadays guys text for hours out of boredom , the potential to have sex, or to even get an idea of how you are lately because you did say you all haven't communicated in a while. Remember that old friends we haven't talked to in a while knew us but they don't know us , Catch That. Has he ever been this way prior with you? What all were you'll discussing? Texting also is so impersonal, even if emojis and etc. are available. There is no ability to hear the tone or fluctuations in the person’s voice and how they are really meaning what they say. If he truly is interested, see if this is followed up by long phone calls, meet ups or things of that nature. Also don't rule out the idea he could just again be trying to fuck.
Is it wrong to lie to get back at someone that hurt you big time? Or is all fair in love and war?
I have to admit that I have had the pleasure of knowing that the piece of crap that used to abuse me and belittle me in front of anyone and everyone, got what was coming to him. I wasn't lucky enough to see it myself but everyone told me that the punishment fit the crime. Me and my new bf were at a friends house. My ex saw my car and stopped to see me. Well my new bf didn't like that too much and got in his car and followed him to the grocery store and threatened him and humiliated him in front of all the customers at Richland Market. Made him tell everyone in the parking lot "I'm a p*ssy!. I'm a big p*ssy!. You don't know what I would have done to see it for myself. Of course he called me with a completely different version. LOL. Now he knows how it feels to be bullied and intimidated. Serves him right. You go girl. I promise you will feel better. **** those self righteous hypocrites.
Would you say that these guys are not really respecting this girl i know....?
They were acting inappropriate, and they were disrespecting her...but chances are, unless you just failed to notice her reaction to it and discomfort with it, she didn't notice. Maybe she was hoping you would say something...maybe she doesn't realize how disrespectful it was...maybe she was just out to have a wild evening so she disregarded their behavior (especially if there was drinking or other extracurricular activities going on, shall we say). OR perhaps she has a different idea of what male disrespect looks like that isn't traditional. Minor examples: Calling a woman out of her name after just meeting her without permission (baby, honey, shorty, red, babe, etc.) Making sexual comments/innuendos Blatantly staring at body parts as she is talking, making no effort to hide the gaze grabbing, touching, or adjusting private areas in full view of the lady in question. Grabbing, touching, or groping the girl in public Different women respond to all of these differently, and depending on age, mindset, and the relationship with the person doing them. Different women may find all or none of these disrespectful. But when a man does these things in front of or to a woman (especially right after meeting her), he is letting her know that he is placing her in a sexual category in subtle, yet totally obvious ways.
The best solution is having a decent conversation with the guy !!I had a girlfriend two years back. Although my relationship ended in just 6 months and I have been single since then (… lol) still I learned somethings from that. The first and relevant to this question is never beat someone just because he is disturbing your girlfriend as it may result in some serious consequences.So there was a guy who was constantly texting my girlfriend which she didn’t share with me till that time. So once she gave her phone to me and went to pee. Since I was allowed to see anything on her phone so I checked her whatsapp account. On the top there was a guy, lets call it John, who was constantly sending messages to her to which she wasn’t replying recently. I also checked call logs and messenger and that guy was everywhere.Being suspicious, I read the chats where I read things which were actually disturbing and my girlfriend was trying to avoid him. But then he was calling with new numbers every time so she requested him not to call. But the guy seemed persistent and was texting again and again.So I took his number and called him as my girlfriend’s casual friend to meet him. When he came I literally punched him badly in the face and told him never to disturb my girlfriend again and he left saying nothing. But because of punching I not only hurt my fist but the next day he called me and told to meet to apologize so I went. To my surprise, there were 3 people waiting for me and they beat the shit out of me and I was in pain for next three days.Later, my girlfriend came to know about this and told me that the guy didn’t know that she was in relationship and she was also playing with him by not stalling and not telling him. Also, he was not actually disturbing her but trying to get a date with her. So because of miscommunication I not only hurt myself and that guy but my girlfriend didn’t talk to me for 2 days.Hence the best remedy for the same is talking. If I had told him everything in the first place itself then this did not have happened. So what you can say anyone is that its my polite request not to disturb her as she is in a happy relationship and if you really care about her, you will not continue the same. In most cases, taking in a sentimental way works.P.S Girlfriend is always right and unless she asks for help never involve yourself in her personal matters.
Hey Dharmesh, thanks for the A2A...If someone say something bad to us, we all feel bad for it. It's normal. But if this continues for a long time, and you end up being depressed, then I think that you are a very soft-hearted and emotional guy. In that case you need to change yourself. You have to make yourself mentally strong, as in today's world guys like you are screwed up.If someone say something bad to you, first of all think if you have really done something wrong. If yes, make the necessary apologies. But if there was nothing your fault, then ignore the bad words and mind your own business. Don't overthink why the person behaved in such a way, as you will never know what's in their mind. And literally you don't become an asshole if someone say you so. So just chill, and take it easy; you can never please everyone in life. Don't give a fuck to the so-called bad words, and make yourself strong. You may feel bad, but don't make yourself depressed. It will not be easy at first, but you can do it if you try. Hope this helps.
Hey guys...just want to let you know that my hearts been torn out eatin spit out and stomped on..help:(im 14..?
IM NOT TRYING TO SOUND SNOBBY!!!(serious story serious answer please im hurt enough) im that kind of girl that alot of guys hit on so i have my guard WAYY up because i've been hurt a couple of times.And latley i havnt been giving any guy the time of day im either their friend or they need to get the heck up out of my life because im not ready to be anyones GF so theres this guy hes 16 and me and him just clicked he would sing and rap songs to me that he wrote for me and he would always tell me how we're soul mates and meant to be and no matter how long he'll wait for me and how he loves it that im hard to get...well he dosnt go to my school anymore he got an early release (i go to a school for expelled kids) he got out over 5months ago and we started talking after he left about 5months after he left so its we've been talking for about 1month and then one day out of no where he stopped calling and texting me and its been over 5days so i sent him a FWD message in the morning and he texted me at night "hey" but i ignored him and i havnt heard from him since....i just dnt get it our last conversation was him telling me he'll wait forever for me if he has to he even said that was one of his fave conversations that we had..how did he go from telling me how funny and beautiful i was to just dropping me? hes a football player and gets good grades so yup he has girls up his stinky booty... what do you guys think TELL ME ALL YOUR OPINIONS ON HIM AND ME....why do you think he stopped caring?
Hey girls (and guys), I need your help with this girl.........?
She doesn't want to slow down as in... "We talk too much and hang out too much." It has more to do with "We make out too much." If there's one thing guys need to know, it's that girls need attention... and just because she says she needs space doesn't mean "Stop calling me. Stop texting me. Stop hanging out with me." It just means "I really like you, and I don't want our relationship to burn out after a few weeks." So you kind of have to listen to your own feelings at the same time. If you want to spend time with her, then call her up. Just don't start making out. She doesn't want to make out all the time and she's afraid it will go into something more, so she wants you to back off in that aspect. Get to know her on a deeper level instead. How well do you really know her? Do you know about her family, her friends, or her past? Do you know her personality that well yet? Do you know what makes her happy, and what hurts her? Start finding that stuff out. It will mean a lot to her, and it shows her that you care. I can't tell you how amazing it is when a guy tries to get to know a girl on a deeper level like that. It doesn't hurt to invest yourself in another person. There will ALWAYS be a risk that they could really hurt you in the end. But it's worth the risk when you put your heart out on the line and it turns out to be a great relationship. Just be patient with her and try not to overthink this.