Im in the navy...i want 2 no if i get married on leave and then deployed what will happen 2 my wife?
i'm assuming you have command sponsorship already? if you dont you need to have this. If you are on a ship, i would go to your PSD there and they should tell you every single thing you need to do and will also give you the right information. i dont agree with the person above me, it is possible to get everything done before you leave. It may be a headache but its possible. I flew out to hawaii to marry my husband who is in the navy who left about 2 weeks later for a deployment. After we got married we went to his PSD on the boat to update his page2 and they accepted a temporary marriage certificate. ( which was given to us after we got married) its up to your command if they will except this. and also if we wanted to we could have gone down to the hawaii department of health to receive a copy if we didn't want to wait for it in the mail. After that he had to enroll me into DEERS and get me a military dependent ID ect...like i said PSD will have all that info for you. From the day you get married you start to receive BAH at a with dependent rate, which means this will be back payed to you. and as long as you are not picky about your housing and will accept anything that is available first then you shouldn't have to wait long. In hawaii we waited 2 weeks, if we would have been picky about the area we wanted to be in it would have been about 5-6 months. Here in florida we got housing in 4 days. Good luck! If you dont know what the housing looks like in your area already you can go to Navy Housing OneStop to check it out.
A couple who loved each other truly had to get married to someone else due to family pressure. How do they feel about it now?
The couple loved each other still got married to someone else…this happens in many cases..some of the couples end their life because they cannot see their partner living with someone else..they only want to live with each other.Some of the couples move on after geting married…they cannot completely forget their love..but when they get married..they have their own family..so they try to be happy as they are..It is very very difficult to leave your loved one and get married to someone else…only the ones who have experienced it can tell exactly how it feels…when tou are in love with someone..you imagine your every moment with them…you feel as if you want them every second…you cannot inagine living with someone else other than your partner….But because of the family pressure..some couple have to do this…i think this is the familys mistake…when you separate two loved ones…God never bless them..it is the worst sin i suppose..Being seperated from your partner is the worst feeling ever…i cannot even imagine a single secind without my girlfriend…she is my breath…wherever i will go..she will be with me…and i am gonna marry her..thats for sure…It is the responsibility of the family members to understand where their daughter or son is happy..if they are happy with a particular person…they should let them marry to him/her.People should try to understand the beauty of love…because it is the best experience abyone can have..:it is the best feeling anyone can ever feel. It is the best of all.Hope it helps!:)
My dad is getting married, again. Don't want to go?
My dad is sort of a serial groom. He never married my mom, but has been married 5 times since I was 6. I actually bonded really well with two of his wives, not so much the other three, but two were really good to me and even have a good relationship with me still. This current finacée is okay(ish). She isn't the worst woman he's married, but I also know she sees me as a potential babysitter for her two kids. My dad told me he wants me to double as a bridesmaid and childminder for the day. I know that I don't want to go to this wedding. I've been to all the others and am tired of pretending to be happy for him. What makes me less excited about this one is the thought of being stuck with two kids the whole day while trying to be a bridesmaid and knowing that by saying no, it would probably do more damage than not going. I feel guilty. I do love my dad and he was there for me when I was growing up (now 19). I just don't like seeing him get married every few years. And it's a little insulting to be told I'm going to be babysitting two kids, one of whom is disabled. Should I go to the wedding anyway?
If I'm marrying a single mother with children do I have a legal obligation to financially support her kids?
As far as I'm concerned, if you are even considering this issue you are unsuited to marry her. The reason I state this is because you are already treating these innocent children as a burden to your relationship and as a separate entity to the woman you profess love to, but she is probably unaware of this and was desirous of a husband who would love them as if they were his own children. If you truly love her, you should be willing to accept her, her children and other responsibilities wholeheartedly into your life without worrying about the financial responsibilities that it will incur.Please give serious and thorough consideration of whether you are ready to open your heart to them as if they are truly your children instead of worrying about how much the responsibility will force you to open your wallet or bank account. If you can't handle the added responsibilities (financial and otherwise) as well as the fact that you would be marrying into a "ready-made family," please end this relationship before you marry her, feel resentment and cause these children to bear the brunt of your negative feelings about them.I have several friends who married into this type of situation that have so much love for the children in question that you literally forget that they aren't the biological parents. If you cannot place loving these children and providing them a stable and loving environment as a higher priority than your finances, please do this family (they are a unit) a favor and gently back away.
How did the "cool kids" from your high school turn out?
Well, I've only been to two highschools. The one I'm currently going to, and one in the U.S.I called a friend to help me out, since I still have a year book, I asked her what happened to these so called “cool kids”, and how they turned out after 3 years.Credit to her for helping.That one guy who bullied everyone:He landed in a jail for beating up a girl last year.The guy who always wanted to fight everyone:Also jail.The one popular girl, who called everyone a slut:She had 12 boyfriends, and has two kids. So who's the slut now?The one fat kid, who was kinda a nerd:He lost weight, and now has a girlfriend.The one girl who everyone kinda liked.She moved back to Russia after the school year.That one slavic foreign smartass guy, who was pretty chill:He does comedy standups for the schools talent show every year, everyone likes him.The guy who everyone bullied:He now plays football, and he's pretty muscular.The guy who people knew, kinda liked who was a dancer:He moved back to Ukraine, but would always dance with this other guy sometimes.The short Mexican kid nobody could understand:He learned English, now plays soccer. Who also has girlfriend.The gangster wannabe guy, who always got into fights:Got changed with assault and shoplifing. He got two years of probation, and three months of jail.The guy who was kinda quiet, funny, who always would dance with the Ukrainian guy:He moved back to Russia with his sister and family. Also is a master in the art of smartassery. (Take a guess who that is.)The nice girl who could beat the hell out of anyone, was close friends with only a few people:She has a job, she volunteers at hospitals, and vets. She also pretty much helped this answer.The small group of Russians:They do the same stuff, just more mature and friendly (Pst remember, this school had a lot of Slavic people in it.)The anorexic girl people bullied:She sadly committed suicide.The one kid who was a greaser.He's a friendly badass. He has a girlfriend too.The girl who plays a lot of instruments.She creates her own music, and she wants to be a music artist..This concludes my list. And thanks to my good ol' comrade for helping out with this answer.
My dad moved out sneakily? Parents getting divorced?
This is a situation that calls for an attorney immediately to protect your mother's legal rights and financial rights. You need to give her the strength to act and all the support you can to help her through trying times. it sounds like you all are really better off without that cheating slimebucket but it is difficult to see that from so close to the situation. Best of luck to all three of you. Perhaps you should consider family counseling. Your mom (especially) has been through a 20 year war in which she was cheated on and the rest of the time not really appreciated. You kids have been raised by someone who never believed in a family as something he had any obligation to. He lived with his mouth sut and his zipper open. The only thing I can tell you is that not all men are like that. Don't allow the behavior of one snake convince you that the whole world is a rotten place. But also do not put up with a cheater. Lesson learned once should be enough. A cheater cheats, lies and steals love, money and time from everyone he touches. Turn to those who love you for support and this includes family and perhaps a church if you belong to one. You have no reason to feel shame or guilt. You were the victims of a traitor in your midst. You are well rid of him. Change the locks on the door so he can't change his mond and just sashay back in when his new girlfriend blows him out of his leaky little boat. How do I know about the girlfriend? All cheaters who need to have a new house have someone to share it with. They are too much the baby to live alone!
At what age should children leave their parents' house? Why?
Our family has no mandatory age for children to leave the parental home.Our family doesn’t believe leaving home is a benchmark of an healthy adult or demonstrates independence and “standing on your own two feet.”One has nothing to do with the others.Sometimes the most mature decision an adult child can make is to remain home for a family member who needs financial support or home care.My daughter is 26 years old and has always lived with either me or her father. She is a great example of a responsible and contented adult.Since her first job at 16, our daughter pays her share of household expenses. She works for her dad, has adult friends, and a loving partner who also happens to live with her parents.Her father and I live in college towns where the standard of living is high and affordable housing is scarce. We don’t believe our kid should have to struggle economically to prove some arbitrary age of independence.I first left home at 16 to attend boarding school an hour and a half away. During my college freshman year, I lived in the woman’s dormitory at a university across state. The following year, I transferred to a community college closer to home and had my own apartment. I never went back home permanently. But my father claimed me on his taxes until I married at 23.When I got pregnant two years later, my husband and I were still college students. We moved in with his parents, at his childhood home, during my pregnancy to save money as we finished school. We lived with them until we graduated with our bachelor degrees. Our daughter was 3 months.My younger brother didn’t go away to school. He continued to live with our parents, off and on, after high school. He went back home to help Mom care for Dad who had Alzheimer’s.Several years after Dad died, Mom developed Parkinson’s and my brother moved in for good to be with her. He inherited the house after her death.My ex-husband and I think it’s very convenient living with our adult child. She’s an excellent lodger. In addition to the extra cash for rent, she’s around to care for the pets, pitches in with cooking and cleaning, and runs errands.Why have our daughter do all that for someone else?
What is normal when dating a man with young children? When is enough- ENOUGH!?
My live in boyfriend (whom I have been dating for 1 yr) has 2 (7&4) young children. He was never married to their mother but they were high school sweethearts that were together for about 7 years. (they have now been broken up for 3 years) Although the previous woman cheated on him breaking his heart they still have a very civil relationship. They talk almost every other day- "about the kids of course". She talks to his mom about 2x per week, even called his dad to wish him a happy fathers day!!!!! I have been very civil with her as well - we talk occasionally to make plans about the children etc. We all get along great and although its annoying to have her in my life I like that everything between us all goes smoothly.However now that the oldest of the kids is involved in school activities- my boyfriend thinks that it is acceptable for us all to sit together (me her him his family her family etc.) I however think this is a bit to far. I came from a split home and my parents never talked unless it was an emergency- my dad would call to talk to me and that was it. At functions both of my parents were there but they certainly didn't sit together!!! I myself wouldn't mind saying hello to her and then finding our own area- I am not fine having to sit with her (i don't particularly like her) and I think it is confusing to the children- the last function we were at his 4 year old starting singing "mommy and daddy sitting in a tree..." (the first 2 years after they were broken up if ethier one of them had a problem in another relationship they would get back together for a few days before ending it again- the children were aware of all this) My boyfriend says that he is committed to me and I need to grow up his behavior is perfectly normal to him------ is it? How close is too close? I want this man as a part of my life and I know his children will always come first as they should but does that mean my opinion means nothing?