I want my mom to divorce my step dad really bad?
Please take time to read all of this, i need help. hi, im danielle. im 14 and my mom is an alcoholic. My dad is an alcoholic too. my parents divorced when i was 3 years old. my mom got custody of me, and my dad got custody of my 2 older brothers. my dad took my brothers and moved out of state. a year later my mom meets a loser in the bar named steven. i didnt like him even when i was little. he's a really bad alcoholic. him and my mom drink every single night. he pretty much controls my mom's life. we have 1 vehicle, and its a stick shift so my mom cant drive it. all he does is yell. he yells over EVERYTHING. he yells at me, my mom, his daughter, his son, the cat, anything that moves he'll yell at it. he has these huge-*** speakers in the living room (like right outside my room) and every other night he BLASTS music until freaking 11 or 12 at night. and when i ask him to turn it down cuz im going to sleep he'll turn it down just a tiny bit. so then i get like no sleep and suffer the whole day at school. i spend half of the time with my grandma, because she knows whats going on so she tries to take me out of it as much as possible. but i cry everytime i have to go back home. i hate it! and my mom wont even listen to me when i try to talk to her about it. she defends him no matter what. she's miserable too though. she lets him screme at me, she doesn't defend me at all! but the thing that makes me the most upset is that i never ever get any time with her anymore. steven has to have her full attention ALL the time. he kicked michelle out (his own daughter) so now im stuck with nobody. i have nobody to talk to now. and then it makes my grandma upset because i come to her house and spill my guts to her about mom and steven. im just tired of it all. i hate coming home from school. i actually TRY to get detentions so i dont have to go home. my question is how can i convince my mom that im absolutely miserable? she wont listen to me
37 weeks pregnant how do I deal with my grandmothers death?
hello hunny, i know what your going through, my sister gave birth days before our grandad passed away and now i've just recently found out i was expecting(ectopic 6 weeks and 3 days,baby was removed on the 3rd dec along with my right tube!) and got a call to say my auntie only has a max of 6 months left as she has cancer, its awful i know how u feel, i know this doesn't sound nice(when people said this to me it upsets me a little) but they say that when a life begins one must end, ur grandmothers still with you through your child, after all all without her you wouldn't be here to give life to another so snuggle your tummy tight and say a little whisper for your grandmother, i'm sure she can hear you, maybe this was in a way a gift that was left for you from her as she couldn't be here any longer she's left you a little bundle of joy to love and cherish, something to love and look forward to as hard as this is, this is how i look at it with my auntie and my sister also did with my niece and when baby was born it had all grandads looks hehe. my thoughts are with you, stay strong.if u want to email me u can. hugz.x ps. although your grandmother can't see baby(although i'm sure shes watching over u both), why not make a little book for baby so as he or she gets older you can show him/ her what your grandmother looks like, although she's passed away she'll never die in memory, let your children also remember the memories you tell them, memories live on forever ;0)..xxx
My boyfriend dropped out of High School. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
Hi, i'm 19 years and a college sophomore in Montreal. I used to live in New York, before I left for college. I've been with my bf for a little bit over two years, same age as me too. He still lives in New York, but comes to see me very often. I have a big problem though. He recently called me and told me that he dropped/ signed out of his strict boarding school. The worst is that he's in the 12 th grade: end of HS! He told me that he failed a test and that he couldn't take it anymore. Now his mom kicked him out of the house, he has nowhere to go and wants to come in Montreal. I live with 3 people here, and the appartment's concierge doesn't even allow 4 people in a appartment. I do want him to come stay with me, but I don't know if there's enough space for him. If he comes here, then what?? what is he gonna do? I would be so happy to have him next to me, but I want him to have a purpose in life as well. He's not even canadian, he has enhanced driver's license so he would stay here for a limited amount of time. I'm disappointed, because I want him to do good, to graduate at least but he won't listen to me. He says it's too late, and that he's doing this for me as well, i don't want be the reason why he fails. I know he says it, but he sure knows i'm not the reason he quit. WHAT SHOULD I DO? I want nothing but the best in our relationship. I don't want to lose him because of this. I'm really worried about him. ANY ADVICE PLEASE?
I know in some cultures this is normal. But in my experience, I have seen it completely confuse a child and cause attachment issues in children.A child that young that is in a healthy parent and child relationship needs daily interaction with his parents. Eight months would be a huge disrupter to the child’s healthy attachment and could cause long lasting attachment issues that can result in serious issues long term.Instead, if you would like him to visit his grandparents, it is healthier to go with him. A parent with a healthy attachment would not be able to away from their child that long.Culture is something that should be rejected sometimes. It is normal for parents to want to be with their children. If you are wanting to be away from them that long, it would be a good idea to seek some therapy to disclose your feelings.
Got period awhile ago, how do i tell my mom i got it? Also what should i do when i go swimming?
ok so u can do of two things, sometimes talking about your first period can be awkward and embaressing i was like that to so u could send her a text saying 'hey mum got my period can u buy me some stuff but pls dont want this to be shouted to the public so dont make a huge deal' that way you can avoid the face to face or you can do the face to face keep the convo light and in the middle say that you got yr period but u dont want a big deal then start talking about something else. since u live with yr dad i recomend telling him because you are going to need more pads and stuff now with yr dad it can be as simple as asking him for money for pads or saying hey dad grab me some of...... or wright it on the shopping list? yes thats probably more embarresing but thats what needs to happen dont worry though because every girld has been through it and yr dad prob knows all about it its going to happen sooner or later the longer you leav it the worse its going to be. now... swimming yes if u have a tampon u can go swimming but if u dont wear tampons u cant exactlly go swimming. but if you do go in the water your period should not come but as soon as u get out of the water it will quickly come back, and on yr heaviest days u cant garantee that it will stop in the water.
Why was this done?Are you disrupting the families evening schedule, sneaking out at night or not getting enough sleep?You may be 18- but you live in their home…and if still in Highschool- you need your sleep!9PM is our “Adult” kids “curfew” to go to their rooms…not to sleep- but it is when they do their gaming, read, watch TV draw, chat with friends etc…Living with 4 “adults”in a small house means Hubby and I have zero time alone or privacy (or bedroom is off the kitchen/dining area) so at 9pm- we all say goodnight and go to ‘our separate corners’.The kids can go back and forth to each others rooms, and the bathroom is at their end of the house.They know this is our house rule, and they follow it (usually)If your Dad is trying to force you to BED at 9pm.. calmly talk to him about it… just not at bedtime!Explain to him that, at 18, you feel you are being treated like a 12 year old and you should have the right to stay up past 9 as long as you are in your room not bothering anyone. Be willing to compromise. Ask to at least have a later bedtime on weekends and Holidays!But if you are getting up at 6am for school- then 10:00 is probably the latest you should be up on school nights anyway— you NEED 8 hours of sleep to be able to study and function well at school!
Im 14 & i want to learn to cook...?
Most people will tell you to start out easy, but if you don't know what that is (on the side of eggs, mac & cheese) it's not much help. If you don't have a person at home or in the family who has the ability to show you the "basics" of cooking, try seeking out culinary schools (ex: California Culinary Academy, Cordon Bleu Schools) that offer weekend classes to the general public. These classes are fun to do (great with a friend) usually 2-4 hours and you get to eat meals from all classes. I'm sure you can also check with your school guidence counsler for culinary resources for teens or a resource board in your school office. Suppose it depends on where you live to what is available locally. Another resource would be your local phone book (The old Yellow Pages). If your just looking for some easy recipes there are several websites to venture to www.foodtv.com (Food Network- has several great shows, try semi-homemade with Sandra Lee), www.epicurious.com , www.meatlessmonday.com (if your vegetarian) Good Luck!
Help! I'm 16 and I smoke for horrible reasons!?
Ok, you watched your grandma die from lung cancer. I am watching my father die from pulmonary fibrosis. He smoked probably from age 15 until age 60. About 5 years after he quit, he developed a cough that wouldn't go away. He was diagnosed with PF a little over two years ago. He went from being a robust, 5'11" 165 lb guy who worked as a truck driver and was also in the military all of his adult life, to now being 132 lbs., frail as a bird, on 100% oxygen 24/7. He's been in the hospital twice with pneumonia and congestive heart failure. He has to use a scooter to go any further than a few steps. He started hospice last month, just for help with bathing and other daily care. The doctor won't give him an estimated life expectancy, but his last x-rays showed he has pretty much just the equivilancy of one lung functioning. Pulmonary fibrosis is kind of like emphysema - it's the hardening of the tissue between the alveoli in the lungs, preventing the transmission of oxygen between them. He is cold all the time, his feet are swollen, his lips, hands, nose and ears are constantly blue from the lack of oxygen and poor circulation. When he started hospice, he got a hospital bed and is now sleeping alone, away from his wife of 39 years. He coughs constantly. Please stop now ... you may think you aren't addicted, and maybe you aren't. But think of your future husband and children, if not of yourself. It is terrible watching my father die for something as trivial as smoking.