My girlfriend cheated on me after a 4 year relationship. I can't reconcile with the fact that she slept with someone else, considering we had only been with each other before this. Will I be able to forget with time? Do we have a future?
I have been through exactly same situation three years back.We were happily in a relationship for last 5 years and one day i came to know through one of my friend that she cheated on me.I was completely shattered,didn't know what to do next,thousands of memories flashed in front of me.Even i didn't talked to her for few days without telling her the reason for not talking.After couple of days i discussed all these things with her and she poured her heart out and confessed me everything that she got attracted towards that guy and they got intimate because of heat of that moment.And rest the same as you described.I was confused what to do.I don't want to lose her,at the same time i was not able to cope up with the thoughts that she cheated on me and why she didn't confessed this.Almost a month passed and i didn't had a talk with her.That one month was quite enough for me to realise that i can't live without her and i was ready to give our relationship a second chance so i had a talk with her and she promised me that this will not happen ever again.That day i realised that even hearing her voice made me feel better than what i was feeling for last one month so now i was sure that i'll give her a second chance.So it took few months for things to get back to normal.Starting days were not so good but as the time passed things started getting better and better and within two months things are back to normal.Present day: We are engaged now and will marry next year.I am all thankful to god from that day our bond is getting stronger and stronger,She respects me more.Well love is all about trust and respecting each other.But this is not the case with every one.Maybe i was lucky enough.I am no one to tell you what you should do or what not.But Seeing your situation i think you should give her a second chance though things will not be the same for few days or months but if she is really sorry from her heart(which seems) then i am quite sure your relationship will be back on track.All the best.
Confused about my fiance, his behavior, & my feelings. PLEASE HELP?
Take John out of the question for a moment and concentrate on YOU and your current relationship. Greg has anger issues and takes them out on you. Like you said, you have done nothing to deserve it. Do you want the rest of your life to be like this? There is always a chance it could get worse the longer you are together. Is this the pattern you have seen so far? Has it escalated as time has gone on? Greg needs counseling for his anger, because that is verbal abuse and you should NOT marry a man that is showing these signs. I suggest you have a long talk with him about it when he is not in that frame of mind, and ask him to get help because you are not going to marry him if he continues to treat you that way, and MEAN IT. Part of the reason it continues might be because you don't stand up to him and tell him enough is enough. You do not deserve to be treated like that and you need to stop allowing him to do it. You say the only problems with your fiance are anger and porn. How do you know John does not have any issues with this? You probably didn't see this side of Greg at first did you? I guess the most bothersome thing is that you are soon to make a lifetime commitment to this man, and yet you are seeing potential for someone better suited for you out there. It is my feeling that someone who is thinking that way should not be making such a huge commitment anytime soon. There is no easy answer to this.
Help I torn between 2 completely different Christian denominations! Please help me!?
I was born into a large family of Seventhday Adventist. I went to sabbath school, chruch on Saturday, didn't eat pork or sea food, never watched t.v or did any kind of work from sundown on Friday to sundown on Saturday. My parents didn't wear jewlery and neither did I. When I was 7 I thought I was jewish because my jewish friends did these same things. Non-Denominational- Im 17 now and Ive been going to church with my best friend whose non-denominational. I kinda like it. there aren't as many rules as SDA and I don't have to dress up to go to church. but they preach about some things I don't believe in because of the way I was brought up. but then again SDA has aspects I don't believe in either!! SDA: once you die, you stay in teh ground and don't go to heaven until god calls ND: once you die you go to paradise until God calls you to go to Heaven. SDA: Michael the Arch-angel early incarnation of Jesus ND: Michael and Jesus differnet people SDA:Saturday!!! ND: Sunday!! SDA: keep Sabbath holy all day ND: go to church then go home Ahhhh I'm so confused someone please help me. I don't know what to believe in!!
Should I tell my school guidance counselor that my friend cuts herself?
I'm sorry, but you've got to tell your counselor....I understand that she might get mad but maybe your counselor could handle it in a broad way and counsel your whole class about behavior that is dangerous and include cutting....your counselor will know how to handle it best. Tell the counselor that you still want to be friends with the girl and maybe tell her about your experience and she could tell your friend that you came to her about your issues or something....That's a big burden to carry around, girl!!!!! Talk to the counselor.
Will you marry a girl, who have had physical relationship in past with some other man?
Look a Virgin boy deserves a Virgin girl..But 9/10 beautiful girls are in relationship nowadays,even in country like India the girls from 7th & 8th class have a boyfriend too.Many of the girls losses their virginity to playboys and then they realise that they must spend their life with a well settled boy.Nearly all of the girls have been through relationships they take decisions to lose their virginity.If you are a Virgin then you deserve a Virgin girl for marriage,but if you are a non-virgin then no need to worry,you should marry a non-virgin girl but a Virgin boy really deserves a Virgin girl.Think overall,a girl also has her rights in her life,if you have got any chance to lose you virginity then you will surely not miss it,then why you expect a girl not to lose her virginity to a boy she loves..Chances are less to get a Virgin wife,but if you are lucky enough then you might get.You should marry a girl who loves you,virginity doesn't determine purity of Soul,she will be your life partner..You should marry a non-virgin girl.
I am 28 years old. I feel very alone and lonely most of the time. What should I do to overcome this? I don’t have friends or close relatives and am home 24/7.
One major symptom of depression is that your world keeps getting smaller and smaller. At first you may not want to go out after work, then you don’t work. You stay close in your neighborhood and are not adventurous. Then you don’t leave your house after that you don’t leave your bedroom. Your world just keeps getting smaller. I don’t know if this is you without speaking to you, but from what little you wrote, “there is no point in it” makes me believe you are suffering from depression. You need to see a therapist and if they feel you are depressed you should see a psychiatrist for medications. If you are depressed and get that under control, the rest of your world should start falling in line. Once you are feeling better find a hobby or something you can do with people. Think of what you may be interested in. You could engage in birdwatching with a group, fly kites, cooking classes, take a college course or a million other things. You likely can’t imagine yourself doing anything like that at this moment but once you start feeling better, you will likely start using your imagination to think of something you like. to If you start interacting with people you meet while engaging in a hobby or a job, you will have a chance to make friends.
I don't want my baby anymore... please help?
Interesting. Yesterday you said you and your husband live in a nice 3 bedroom house (and you're 25) and you don't want your sister living with you: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqPcSmzMyHBezEXK2pgPSF_sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080904175653AAgJKDB Then yesterday, you said you are 16 weeks pregnant with twin boys, and you have a 7 year old step daughter: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AmC_ziO_9hCm_srkfgoRS17sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080904180526AAt12hN Then earlier today, you said 'ALL your kids are brats': http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aksg58aTh9x4TFgVHTUU_cHsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080905174949AASs2yh ..your '14 year old daughter' .. etc. ODD that a 19 yr. old can have a 14 yr. old daughter? Then, a few hours ago you said 'Kalan is 8' and you are 27: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AmLc8mmI68khsWUJyHT3hFPsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080906085520AAx64hx I think you have an over active imagination and entirely too much time on your hands. You should get a hobby (or write a short novel) instead of making up all these silly fictitious questions .. Good luck with your future endeavors.
I feel so ashamed of myself?
I'm not sure I understand. You're upset because you wanted to switch majors? You had every right to talk to them about that, and if you change back now, who are they to judge you? It's important to study what you feel is right, and I'm sure they'll understand if you change your mind.
Do you think having an abortion is selfish?
When you examine all the truths and facts surrounding this whole issue, you will find that, indeed, having an abortion is selfish. There is no other situation where an individual is allowed to take another life for no other reason than the inconvenience that the life MIGHT present to the first person. I am the father of 3 sons, all adopted. Their biological mothers were all intent on abortion until, in each case, someone intervened and showed them VIABLE options for their situations. Now, having said that: The truly selfish individual is the abortionist. He/she is in it for no other reason than to make money, money and more money. A mother of an unborn child can be snookered into believing that killing her child is the best option. It will be couched in terms of control of her own body/life, not the right time in her life, etc. However, it boils down to a mother coming to the point where she accepts the proposition that the life of her child is not as important as her own life. This runs completely contrary to a parents natural inclinations. Even in the case of a child being conceived in rape, this would not be a good or wise choice. What crime did the unborn child commit that should condemn him/her to death? Did the baby rape his/her mother? No! The father did that (animal that he is)! One of the best examples of what a child conceived in rape can accomplish is Pam Stenzel. Her mother was the victim of a stranger rape. Her mother was pressured to kill her unborn child but, she could not blame her child for the actions of the rapist. Pam Stenzel is now a world-renown speaker, who teaches children about the dangers of premarital sexual activity. She has released several teaching videos and has been spoken the world over.