My boyfriend cheated on me twice in the past.?
I think you should sit down and talk to him about it. Tell him how you really feel about it and that he really has to stop (since you are not looking at breaking up as an option here). Ask him how would he feel if you were the one cheating on him instead. How could he blame it on his friend pressuring him to do so? He's the one doing it, he should have thought twice before cheating on you. Plus the fact that he's going to be a father soon, where is his sense of responsibility? :( I hope things work out for the both of you. In my opinion (and experience), I believe expressing your feelings to your other half helps the other understand you better and vice versa.
Why do old lovers seem to always come back when it's too late?
I think that it is never to late think about it this way. We only have one life to live if that person is in your thoughts like that rhen you owe it to yourself to try and if you are in a realtionship you need to weigh your options and make a choice! I was hurt by my high school sweet heart really bad! She was older homecoming queen and very beautiful she join the military and cheated got pregnant came back because guy told her he diddent want her I rejected her as well. So she made the realtionship work byt there was no love there. I thougt about her over the years no one compared to her in any way! It was hard i wanted to be her husband and build a life. 15 years later she messages me and we hit it off the same passion there as before but we were both adults and she wasent the persin I remember I never stop loving her and to find out she diddent either was amazing! She had turned her life around. If I know that she really loved me i would have stsyed the last time we spoke but I thought the worst! See messages me and 15 years later to the day frim the last time we kissed witch was 11\11\02 to 11\11\17 we spent the weekend together then thanks giving I went to her 900 miles away and was trying to come home at airport cought on fire. So I stayed I am glad I flew home 3 days later I got my sons anf we got truck trailer drove 13 hours in -30 degree weather on new years Eve got there and we haven't spent one night apart. Its about choices! Timing plays a big part but if it is meant to be it will if you allow it and yourself!
When is time to give up on getting your ex back and move on?
I'd say if the person has constantly denied you, they stopped replying to you, blocked you on social media or they drop the line "I just want to be friends". My main advice when it comes to situations like this is if you break up with someone, you should immediately in your mind focus on moving on. I know you are like whaaaa...., just bare with me for a second. Usually when people break up they are utterly confused about what they're feeling and they don't really understand the actual status of their relationship. If someone has lost interest in you or you just keep having trouble linking up. You may have to look within and discover whats up with you, is your picker off(do you pick bad mates), do you date the same kind of people, are you insecure, are you emotionally ready for a relationship? etc. When you and your significant other breaks up, you have to focus on improving YOU! yes YOU the person reading this behind the keyboard. Make yourself better, it may catch your exes eye or it may make you potentially better for your next mate. Work out, study, use the internet learn something new, become an interesting person, keep yourself constantly changing and evolving. Ultimately, each relationship is unique and different so it's not always possible to know when a relationship is actually over. There is a lot of turmoil, emotions and words spewed back and forth, I say take it one day at a time and gauge the situation, focus on you and it will all come together. Remember your ex is focusing on themselves right now, if you want them thinking about you, you need to improve yourself and do what you need to do to change the dynamic of all future relationships you may have in your life.
Has anyone had to go on anti depressants after a bad break up?
Did that work for you? How long were you depressed before you gave into doing that? I'm trying o avoid them but every time I think I'm doing better I have a really bad day. I just can't get past being broken up with.
Breaking up with your boyfriend on deployment... messed up?
ATTENTION BREAKUP INQUIRER: I have recently returned from my own deployment. #1 He is on the shortest deployment I have ever heard of. When you get lonley, remember that he is over half done, and 4 months will pass by fast. Just find an interesting hobby. #2 If you are worried about his safety, I should tell you, that 3/4 of his time, is him sitting in his secure base playing video games or poker, if not all of it. The locals generaly want to cheat him out of his money, not hurt him, because US soldiers are the economy over there now. #3 Start taking notes of what is going on in your town and area, and talk his hears off whenever he calls, Trust me, even if he complains, he will love that you are ocupied with things, and that he is learning alot to what's going on. Just do not talk alot about J-O-D-Ys (Other men), never a good topic. #4 Repeat steps 1, 2, and 3, over. IN A LIFETIME, 4 MONTHS IS A SMALL PRICE, FOR A CHANCE AT TRUE LOVE AND HAPPYNESS!!!
Extremely depressed over breakup?
Sorry to hear about that. I think the problem is that you are not sure of his feelings and what he wants or why he did things because if he didn´t want you that would hurt a lot but with time you would recover and start another relationship or do whatever but forget about him and be happy again (as hard it could be at first). But since he keeps talking to you that´s damaging you because that makes your head be stuck on him. I think the guy has been bad to you and doesn´t deserve you, but if you are so in love you should talk to him when you have other oportunity and tell him that you are feeling very bad and that you rather not be friend of him because it hurts you. Anyway, what if he doesn´t text you again? You have to live, not meaning looking for another boy if you don´t want at this moment, but engage in your things, be happy, and not allow your mind to think about him. If he wants you he will call you. But never give up on you, even if you love him, then even do it for him. If a person loves you doesn´t want you to be sad. Anyway do it for you and for the people that love you and care about you. And my personal opinion now (I don´t know him and you don´t have to think the same way): you deserve better, he seems superficial and inmature, there are many nice boys even ones who doesn´t look so nice on the surface but have very good feelings.
Breaking up after having a baby...?
Breaking up in general is hard. Breaking up with a child involved is even more difficult, in my opinion. If your son's father thought that it was best for the two of you to break up, then you need to accept that. I'm not saying that it shouldn't hurt you and that you should stop loving him. But do you really want to be in a relationship with someone that wants a way out? The two of you share a special bond....you had a child together. That means you are tied to him for the rest of your life. I think it's great that he is active in your son's life. Your son deserves two parents. As far as how you are going to have to deal with this....you are going to have to try to move on. Even though it's going to be hard for you, there's not much else you can do. You don't want to spend the rest of your life alone, do you? Eventually there will come a time when he is going to move on and start dating someone. I'm sure reading what I just said is like a slap in the face....and i'm sorry if it hurt you. But it is a reality. But it can also be a reality that you will be the one to move on first. If the two of you are meant to be together, then that will happen. You will find your way back to each other. But this is something that you can't count on. Focus on your son, your family and your friends. Do activities that you enjoy. Only time is going to heal these feelings you have.
My ex broke up with me but got angry when he heard I was hanging out with another guy, why?
It's hurt his ego. It means you never really loved him the way he thought you did. Otherwise it would take a long time to grieve for him.I get like this too, it's not that I want the person back but it bruises my ego. They confirm all the fears I had to begin with, that they didn't care and didn't love me that much.Thing is, the person who rushes into another relationship so quickly is just fooling themself. They haven't allowed themself the time to grieve. They will have to face it eventually once that their rebound relationship is over.The one that does take the time to grieve is going to feel better in the long term. They will move on better.His feelings are not your problem though. That's for him to sort out but at least it's helping him move on and you now know that even though he broke up with you, he thought more of you than you thought he did. I've broken up with people that I have still loved purely because I know the relationship is not right for the long term. So I've been in your exes shoes in that respect
Who is affected more by a breakup, the boy or the girl?
It’s quite a good question, but allow me to explain with a simple analogy.I was using “Fevikwik”, a glue, which is quite powerful. A few drops fell on my fingers, and within few seconds of contact with air it became hard.Now, I had two choices :-Leave it as it is.Remove that glue from my finger.Since it wasn’t harming me in anyway, I could have left it as it is. But any unwanted thing that sticks to you will keep bothering you. So I decided to remove it.The glue was so strong, that while removing it, it also removed the first layer of my skin.So here is the answer. The person who is not strong enough to let go, suffers more. Breakup, and its suffering, is not gender specific.The relationship is dead like that glue.If you want to live with that, there is no harm. But also most of your attention will be taken by it. Once it is removed, it might take extra attention, but after sometime it won’t matter anymore.Since you are too attached, and you don’t want to let it go, then of course you will be the person on the receiving end like the finger.But if you see the removal of skin as harmful to you, then you should also see the bright side. It allows you to grow new skin. Same goes for life, if you don’t allow yourself to let go, you will never know about the surprise which is waiting for you.The person who decided to leave you is like the glue; “Hard”. It will not affect them as much as it is going to affect you. And once the relationship is dead, they are going to leave you anyway like the glue.Bottom line: The person who has a hard time to let go, is gonna suffer most irrespective of gender.Closure happens right after you accept that letting go and moving on is more important than projecting a fantasy of how the relationship could have been. — Sylvester McNutt