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How And If To Tell My Children .

How can you tell your children there is no God?

Start with the word THERE. Next say IS. After that say NO. End with GOD.Or you can try a less direct approach saying: "Listen, son, some people believe there is some supernatural man that watches us all and decides if we have been nice or naughty to reward us or punish us. No, he is not Santa. No, they call him God. Well, some people believe in God. We don't. If when you grow up you decide you will believe in God, it will be OK for me, but let me tell you what I think about God..."  and then tell your children what do you think about God.Easy as that.

How Can You Tell If Your Child Has Autism?

If he plays appropriately with toys, imitates you or other people, shares enjoyment of experiences and reacts to your expressions, he is probably not autistic.

Autism is a pervasive developmental disorder characterized by:

^Severe social impairments - often will not respond to their names, do not acknowledge you ALL of the time, not part of the time. Do not know how to play with toys. Do not share their enjoyment of something with you. Do not play with other children. Prefer to be alone. Become frightened and anxious when in unfamiliar places.

^Sensory problems. Cannot stand noise or bright lights. Often have very few food choices because they don't like the texture of most food. Some autistic children will only eat one thing. They also cannot regulate their emotions. They often tantrum as children. They do not like to be touched. Will often look at objects from the side due to sensory integration deficits.

^Gut issues: Autistic children often have digestive problems which are compounded by limited food choices. Often autistic children will refuse to eat anything crunchy and may become constipated. The other issue is having an overload of yeast in the gut which causes painful cramps and diarrhea.

^Do not understand the use of language. Children with moderate autism cannot label or imitate. When you show them a photograph of yourself or them, they do not know what you mean. They often have ecolalia.

^Many autistic children have sleep disorders.

^Stereotypical behaviors: Fascination with flashing lights, whirling objects. Will often repetitively open and close doors. They have a fit when you change their routine.

^Resistance to learning.

I hope this helps.

Should I tell my children that their father is narcissist?

Coming out the other side from a crazy, abusive, narcissistic relationship and surviving, yourself is cause for high fives, fist pumps and much celebration.The answer to your question is NO! They will resent you for it, the narcissist will feed off the drama and claim that you are abusing the child through parental alienation. Which will cause you a heap of agro. You want peace, tranquility, not future dramas.However, for children caught up in this terrible web, it's really confusing and requires a strong, caring, empathic care giver to make them feel loved during this.There are two scenarios at play here.if you are super lucky to have the narcissist abandon you and the child/children then there's no sweat in the issue here. The children will notice the absent father/mother on their own and in time will conclude that the narcissist is a crap caregiver; even if they have minimal contact.Now if…if the child or children have always had their father around, whether they were crap or amazing; they will feel a great sense of love towards him/her regardless of your relationship troubles. So just let this be.So in this instance it's wise to just be the best possible parent you can be. No point scoring, no commenting on parenting unless safeguarding issues arise then report them to the relevant bodies.Creating a loving, stable, free from abuse home and environment for your kid(s) is the number 1 priority. Not your dislike for this person. That goes out of the window here. You have to safeguard your children at every opportunity and accommodating a narcissist that's abusive and selfish for the sake of being politically correct, is not the right way to deal with this.If you find that engaging with the narcissist is really grating on your nerves, and affecting your children's wellbeing that you can't possibly co-parent with this person (100% of the time you can't); then get a lawyer and draft the legalities up so you can lead a peaceful life with your kids.If possible remove yourself physically and emotionally from the scenario. Get friends, family to orchestrate pick ups and drops offs. This will save you so much energy to rebuild your life.Hopefully the narcissistic parent will get bored and drop off the scene. Jump with joy, however they will leaving you with no child support (temporary sacrifice) for long term success, happiness and no abuse. You will be free, to get on with you and child/children's life in peace.Good luck

If you were a mistake, or your child was, wouldn't you tell them?

I don't want to tell my child, "hey you were an accident" but I want them to realize the reason why mom and dad aren't together is because it was an accident. No, it was stupidity. On both of our parts, and that isn't fair to our child. I want this baby to realize what it felt like to have a family divided and not make the same mistake I did, as so many others are.

Do you agree? Or should I keep this information to myself?

I was a mistake as well, but my mother didn't tell me until the later years...