How Bad Am I For Secretly Hating My Father More Than Loving Him

Secretly engaged. Family hates my fiance. How to handle this?

I just got engaged and I couldn't be happier. I ADORE this man. I've loved him for 4 years and couldn't imagine sharing my life with anyone else.

Problem: my family HATES him. For those of you who have seen The Notebook--think of a couple like that who kind of fought a lot when they were younger. All my parents think of are all the negative things I EVER SAID about him during our little fights. So they think I deserve "better."

Also--he isn't exactly the same religion as my family, and my family is strictly religious.

But I know I would be miserable with anyone else and have failed each time I've tried even dating others in the past (we've been on and off for these past 4 years).

I wish I didn't have to keep the engagement secret. I don't know HOW to handle the marriage.

As stupid as this sounds, it will truely break my close family members hearts when they hear the news. Mainly b/c of religion.

I don't know what to do!

Be cut off from my family, or lose THE LOVE of my life?

My father hates Japanese people. What can I do? Help!?

My dad has always been a really nice guy and tolerant of all races and ethnicity and religions, but he cannot forgive the Japanese for Pearl Harbor even though it happened so long ago. He tells me that it is still in their mentality to be cold and cruel.

Well, the real problem is that I have quite a few Japanese friends and my boyfriend is Japanese American. My dad doesn't know about him yet because it is a relatively new relationship and I'm up at my University at the moment. He is a very loving, funny, nice guy that has a lot of respect for me. But I'm afraid my father will do or say something hurtful towards him or my friends. Or, if he keeps it a secret, he'll make a bit deal to me when I tell him.

I just don't understand. You can't hold the actions of others over the innocent. What can I do to tell my father?

Dating a guy my parents HATE.?

I know you don't want to hear it but I know I am older than you. If your parents don't like this guy, it's becuase they can see something you can't. Your love is blinded to see his faults...

I think you should tell your parents because they have the right to know. They are going to be there for you til' the day you life but men come and go.

I got into a relationship with this guy. I really cared about him. But my mom and everyone basically didn't like him or think he was good enough for me. Well, he hit me and he lied to me about everything. My mom was right about everything. He is a bum and a dangerous person.

Also, how can they hate him if they don't know him??? Looks like you are leaving details you. Whatever you do, just know your parents were right a long.

Men come and go!

Now, that I don't care about him, I see what everyone was talking about.

Your parents love you, DUH, they put you in this world.

And I am willing to bet especially since you seem to be a teen, this is just puppy love. And he's not the one. E-mail me when the relationship ends.

My dad spanks me when i do bad things.?

i'm kim and i'm 13 years old. my dad always spanks me with my panties down. it hurts so badly being bare and being spanked by a big man. he often uses a large balloon stick which hurts a lot. this spanking last for abt 10 mins but with breaks. could someone pls. help me? i'm so sad and hurt.